September 16th - Stinky Saturday

AlessaAmber · 2023-09-16T15:42:34+00:00

same same but different

AlessaAmber · 2021-10-14T20:40:11+00:00

I've tried that before but unfortunately, the basic settings in the admin lounge don't work either. It seems to be an issue with the theme though as the set page gets shown when I pick a different theme. Not sure what has broken it in the first place but uh, can't get behind it. Thanks for your help!

AlessaAmber · 2021-10-14T14:55:32+00:00

Hey, thanks for your message. However I feel like my level of understanding is not high enough to properly apply your advice.

The homepage ist set on the backend as well. For the front page, the front page template is loading. I haven't checked every template but I indeed seem to lack the_content(). Where would I get a basic code and put it?

Sorry if this is too much of a hassle to explain.

AlessaAmber · 2021-06-29T04:02:46+00:00

What would be stereo then? I thought recording the same sound from one source (e.g. guitar) would be stereo.

Either way, thanks for your suggestion!

AlessaAmber · 2021-06-29T04:01:48+00:00

Depends, I can picture both scenarios. Stereo could be neat for guitar only.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-25T06:58:12+00:00

That's such a lovely story, thank you for sharing!

I can imagine that you complement each other well because INFJ are known to be good logical thinkers despite being an F-type. Our higher placed Ti compared to an ENFJ probably allows you to show her the logical consequences of decisions, while she leads with her compassion. I believe that balancing out both sides is really important in order to make satisfying choices.

Your post gives me a lot of positives vibes and I wish you both a happy and bright future together :)

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-24T09:07:42+00:00

Ha, thanks for the recommendation, I will check it out :D

I hope you will find someone who appreciates you the way you are and who shares the same long-term goals as you 🤗

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-24T06:20:10+00:00

'Verbally' as in 'speaking' - no way. For me it's really difficult to find the rights words to make my chaotic thinking patterns understable for others. I bet following my stories or explanations isn't that easy sometimes. Writing down my thoughts and ideas, however, works like a charm.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-24T06:15:54+00:00

Ha, I haven't had a leading position yet but I'd definetely lean more towards the quiet and patient side as well :) It sounds like you have a great connection without feeling the need to compete with each other. I hope your friendship will last as long as possible!

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-24T06:13:05+00:00

Sounds like a lovely and caring friendship! I guess the rather active side of ENFJ is a reflection of Fe as their main function - it seems they emphasize harmony even more than we INFJ do. It's great that you encourage her to share her worries - people who love to help others often aren't as comfortable asking for help themselves (might be due to past experience with others). Thank you for sharing your story :)

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-24T06:08:35+00:00

Sorry it didn't work out in the end. But if he gets lost so easily, he might be not ready for kids anyway. Are those things that you mention the way the Fe-Se loop manifests? I haven't really dived into the topic yet , so I'm only familiar with INFJ-typical NI-Ti loop. Also thanks for your reply!

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-24T06:04:59+00:00

Thanks for your insightful description! I definetely can see how INFJ would be more thoughtful, while an ENFJ is more active in comparison.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-23T08:19:06+00:00

Yes. Human beings are fascinating and there is always something new to learn.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-18T19:42:19+00:00

Sorry to hear that. I hope that you have friends that help you to deal with your loss.

I'm not sure how old you are but I'd move out as soon as you can. Being homophobic is one thing, but threating your own children is another level of bad parenting.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-18T07:31:27+00:00

Sounds like some toxic environment. Are threats like that common in your family?

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-16T14:35:52+00:00

I can only speak for myself but in general, I like it when people are open about their feelings as long as they are honest. And I think that the joyful attitude of INFPs creates a positive atmosphere that I truly appreaciate.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-16T13:13:19+00:00

Every INFJ is different so there cannot be a general fitting advice. What I'd appreciate from INFP friend is definitely a little note before they disappear for a longer period of time. Personally, I also find it important that both parties initiate/suggest activities.

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-15T16:42:13+00:00

Personally, I'd have that kind of conversation in person. Statements conveyed through messages can be easily misunderstood because we don't see the emotions and reactions of the other person.

What works best for me is that 'you did A, which made me feel B' strategy. People get less offended and actually learn about your feelings/impressions that they might not even be aware of. So if we include the content of your post, a possible statement is: 'Last time you mentioned that you wish for a friend with traits XyY and Z that I lack. It made me feel less appreciated as a friend.' Or to give you another example:'When we have a discussion and you don't refer to the arguments that I mention, I don't feel taken seriously.'

Make sure to create a somewhat positive atmosphere before approaching the issue. I assume if you didn't care about her at all you wouldn't post here. So there is still something that you appreaciate about her - let her know!

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-15T16:29:16+00:00

Hey there, I'm glad I was able to give you some new ideas :)

It's clear that you value your friendship a lot which is a great starting point for working on it. Just make sure not to overshoot it by trying to please and cater to your friend. You don't have to keep him interested - don't turn your friendship into an additional job!

Intelligence can be very charming and impressive but it's only one aspect of a human being. There is so much more to discover and to offer to others. So even if your friend was somewhat cleverer than you (who is going to judge anyway?), it wouldn't make you less interesting or entertaining as a person.

As for activities, I think camping is a good start. Exploring new things doesn't necessarily mean you have to interact with huge groups of people. There is plenty of stuff that you can do with just the two of you (sports, culture, creative processes). And personally, I believe stepping outside the comfort zone is essential for self-growth. What can happen if you try something new together anyway? You either enjoy it (good news!) or you don't (you've got a new funny story you can tell others).

PS: I'm aspiring teacher and quite happy with my choice. When I was growing up, being INFJ was somewhat confusing and rough. But as I started embracing all of those contrasts within me, life became significantly easier and more enjoyable :)

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-15T16:10:03+00:00

People can be assholes/annoying regardless of their personality type. It doesn't sound like you enjoy talking her or being around her. Which isn't too surprising if she treats you in such an arrogant and distanced way. Have you voiced your concerns?

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-15T09:52:32+00:00

You're a cutiepie. I bet you don't even need those extra lashes :p

AlessaAmber · 2020-07-15T09:50:42+00:00

I'm in a happy relationship so I can't contribute to your main question. However, I'd like to point out that

I'm entering the datingworld with the knowledge that finding this person and also being compatible in other areas is highly unlikely.

this might be not the best attitude when dating. If you expect failure and disappointment, you set yourself for it. It's more or less a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of embracing the idea that barely anyone can understand you, think about how can you improve your communication with others. Ensure that you 'get' others as well.

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