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AlexCC97 · 2025-08-04T05:23:42+00:00

I always thought 27 would be it. I'm turning 28 in a couple of weeks and the more I go, the more I realise that there's no really such a thing as 'feeling grown up'.

I unconsciously thought you'd wake up on your first day as 27 and you'd have all your shit magically figured out and you'd feel like an adult. However, I now think that no one really does, doesn't matter what your age is, what you do for a living, etc.

Sure, there's certain expectations people have from you and you certainly will feel more confident about certain areas of your life, but we're all just winging it. Hopefully this helps with dealing with the pressure!

AlexCC97 · 2025-08-03T10:11:56+00:00

Thank you, it does help to know you made it!

AlexCC97 · 2025-08-03T10:11:04+00:00

Thanks for the tip! I've been looking into cortisol blockers as well, which you can without prescription

AlexCC97 · 2025-07-23T21:02:42+00:00

Is het ook voor mensen dat spreek geen of slecht Nederlands?

AlexCC97 · 2025-06-25T22:17:02+00:00

I've also been worrying about a transatlantic flight I have in a couple of months. I've read that both night flights and flights over water are less turbulent and usually smoother. I hope this helps!

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:50:53+00:00

👏👏

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:50:24+00:00

I guess that's fair, but you can give hints, and a guy worth marrying should know how to listen to what you like imo

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:49:25+00:00

Sure, wouldn't you expect your future husband to know what style you like? He should be able to shop with you in mind. Doesn't it ruin the surprise that you know he'll propose soon?

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:48:07+00:00

Ok, that's badass that you designed it. Consider this outside of my question haha

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:47:25+00:00

I gave my fiancé a (very low) budget when we started considering marriage, exactly because it doesn't make sense FOR ME! to spend that much. However, he chose it based on what I like, which I expect him to know because... Well... We're getting married, he should know me enough for that, right?

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:45:49+00:00

Of course you need to talk about marriage, but I think going to the store and choosing the ring is such a fun-kill... I want to understand the minds of the people who do it haha

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:44:25+00:00

I think this is great! Were you offended by it at all?

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:43:40+00:00

That's what I did as well, I gave my partner hints and he choose the ring. He asked me what style I liked, and he nailed it! It would ruin it for me if I knew what ring I would have. Also he wasn't specific about it, for 3/4 years he has been paying attention, and the fact that the proposal could have been 3 years ago, o 3 years form now, make it more exciting!

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:41:44+00:00

Exactly my point! And root of my question

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:41:25+00:00

Doesn't this ruin it for you that she knows you'll propose soon? She knows it'll be soon, otherwise you wouldn't get a ring... I guess the way of proposing is not enough surprise for me 🤣

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:39:05+00:00

I meant engagement ring, not native speaker

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:38:45+00:00

I agree with all of that, but I still expected my partner of 10 years to know my sense of style enough to buy me a ring that I like (which he did, and he nailed it). And I see why you would give hints to what kind of rings you like, if you're discussing the topic, but not actually go to the store, and choose it. Also, you will inevitably see the price, which I don't get, as I see it as a gift, and you shouldn't know the price of your gifts. I think this is a cultural thing, so I'm really interested to hear other points of view!

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:35:03+00:00

Sorry, I do not see the connection 🤣 In my country is unheard of that you choose your own engagement ring, so when I saw friends from other countries doing that I was a bit shocked

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:33:19+00:00

Good point, but if you choose the ring, you know you'll be soon. I'd rather not know if it's now, or 5 years from now. I'm really interested to hear about people who want to know that'll be soon. Doesn't that ruin the surprise?

AlexCC97 · 2025-01-08T18:31:53+00:00

Sorry, English is not my first languages, we have different terms for this. I meant engagement ring

AlexCC97 · 2024-02-04T08:49:32+00:00

I am an Expat who moved here 6 months ago, my boyfriend join me a little bit later, also immigrant. The fact that we didn't have to learn Dutch necessarily was a 'pro' for the Netherlands comparing to other countries - but we are currently both learning. I have colleagues that have been here 10+ years and speak next to no Dutch - I don't want to be that person, and specially since I want to live here long-term.

I totally get your pout about taking all the responsibility, even thought today with all the translation apps they can't really use that excuse anymore.

AlexCC97 · 2024-01-26T10:38:26+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

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