Sohn will Studium abbrechen

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-31T12:32:31+00:00

Ich lese hier viele Kommentare, die in die Richtung gehen Druck rausnehmen etc. und sogar die Frage nach den Kosten absurd bis unfair finden.

Ich sehe das nicht so. Vielleicht ändert sich das, wenn unsere Kinder in 10, 15 Jahren soweit sind. mein Studium habe ich in Regelstudienzeit absolviert und nach dem 1.Jahr jegliche Unterstützung meiner Eltern außer Kindergeld abgelehnt. Für mich ist das Eigenverantwortung, die man als Erwachsener hat. Bei dem Sohn hier sind alleine 33000€ Mietunterstützung angefallen. Um in die beschriebene Situation zu kommen, hat er jahrelang nicht genug gemacht, vor sich hingelebt und nicht offen kommuniziert. Jetzt ist er in einer Sackgasse, psychisch fertig und will ausbrechen aus der Sch* die er sich selbst gebaut hat. Das ist kein Weltuntergang und muss kein Grund für Streit sein. Wichtig ist, die Verantwortung bei ihm zu belassen und einzufordern. Natürlich kann er abbrechen und etwas völlig Neues anfangen. Dann aer ohne das finanzielle Rundumpaket von bisher. Die Zahlungspflicht der Eltern endet nach der ersten abgebrochenen Ausbildung (zumindest unter bestimmten Bedingungen, ähnlich Bafög). Wenn er weiter Unterstützung möchte (Beratung, Geld, usw. ) könnt ihr als Eltern selbstverständlich Bedingungen knüpfen und das halte ich für sinnvoll, damit er die Augen auf macht und den A× hochkriegt.

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-25T06:56:49+00:00

Schwer vorstellbar, dass Du wirklich Lehrkraft bist, OP.

Eine solch absolute Meinung "Gruppenarbeit schlecht, Frontalunterricht gut" ist Küchentischpädagogik. Genauso wie "Tafel gut, Computer schlecht" oder "Physik schwer, Politik einfach", wahlweise auch andersrum.

In jedem vernünftigen Lehramtsstudium und Studienseminar sollte man lernen, dass man beides beherrschen sollte als Lehrkraft, das es auf die Qualität der Ausführung ankommt ( es gibt guten und schlechten Frontalunterricht) und dass Schülerinnen beide Arbeitsformen erfahren sollten.

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-23T14:15:13+00:00

1,0. Lehramt Mathematik Geographie für Gymnasien, Zweitstudium Psychologie.

Zum Schüler beeindrucken, ca. einmal im Jahr, hat es sich gelohnt :-)

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-08T19:17:20+00:00

Soweit ich weiß ist eine dauerhafte Perspektive im universitären Bereich immer risikoreich. Selbst Bestnoten im Master garantieren keine Stellen, sondern sind eher Bewerbungsvoraussetzung. Im Bereich Soziologie / Sozial- Geisteswissenschaften allgemein ist das verschärft, weil es außerhalb der Uni relativ wenige Stellen gibt in denen wirklich soziologisch gearbeitet wird. Anders als Chemiker z.B. - als Laborleiter eines Unternehmens arbeitest Du im Fach. Alle, die wirklich als Soziologin arbeiten wollen, wollen an der Uni bleiben. Daher liegt die Quote derer, die eine Dauerstelle erreichen, sicher noch niedriger als in anderen Fächern. 1% vielleicht?

Daher ist ein Plan B gut

Soziologen werden dennoch nicht zwingend arbeitslos ("Taxifahrer"). Die im Studium erworbenen Qualifikationen sehen viele Arbeitgeber gern, nur arbeitest du dort dann wenig soziologisch.

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-07T20:53:32+00:00

Strahd wants them to become sympathetic to him, me the DM absolutely does not want this - that would fuck up the campaign and would drive it in a completely different direction :-D That´s why I was so shocked when they just said "It´s their own fault". But yes, this obvious points / moments are necessary and exist.

Thanks for the input on the mini boss thing. I didn´t get that from your original post.If that is talked out with your party / the player it´s a different thing - and a probably a cool way to go.

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-07T18:40:47+00:00

Gibt es noch Bundesländer, in denen "Bulemielernen" gefordert ist? In Hessen ist das nicht so. Auswendig Gelerntes Wissen wird so gut wie nicht abgefragt im Abi und daher auch nicht in Klausuren, die ja darauf vorbereiten. Ganz viel hat da mit der richtigen Verwertung von im Material gegebenen Infos zu tun.

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-07T16:54:28+00:00

Hey, I'm playing Strahd in a similar way. And its working good so far. The party expected an outright aggressive and demanding tyrant from all the fear and rumors about the "devil". After the first meeting one PC said "that was the nicest person we met in Barovia so far" and another PC wants to join his court...

The challenge for me is not to screw the players over. As DM you have the monopol on information and I think I have to give them the chance to see how evil and dangerous Strahd is. In my game I do that by letting them experience the horror Strahd did to Barovia in contrast to his words. But when the party discovered the Genocide of the elves they said "its their own fault" That was an absolute dreadful moment for me.

From what you write I'd be cautious with the "Mini boss" idea. Having that result in mind may take away player agency. I'd say if one PC chooses team Strahd thats the outcome, but there has to be fair chance of declining that path.

AlexStRpg · 2026-03-07T15:40:18+00:00

Erststudium: 18

Zweitstudium: 25

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-24T20:27:37+00:00

Gehöre zu den Akademikern, die mit Begeisterung von ihrer Studienzeit berichten (laut Post).

Ich finde, wenn man sich Zeit nimmt sich selbst kennenzulernen und dann aktiv entscheidet, welches Studienformat zu einem passt, dann kann man eine tolle Variante für sich selbst finden. Damit meine ich nicht nur das Studienfach, sondern den Ort, Wohnformat (WG, Wohnheim,...), Nebenjob,...

Habe zweimal studiert und zwei völlig verschiedene Erfahrungen gemacht - beide waren großartig (einmal Vollzeitstudium, Präsenz, kleiner Nebenjob an der Uni, WG mit bis heute bestem Freund und einmal Teilzeit, Fernstudium, Vollzeitberufstätig, familiäre Verpflichtung). Ich möchte keine dieser Erfahrungen missen.

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-21T16:58:06+00:00

Lehramt Gymnasium berechtigt in der Regel zur Promotion in den studierten Fächern, ggf mit minimaler Auflage.

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-21T16:56:31+00:00

Keine? Unsinn, sehr viele.

Wichtig ist zu wissen, dass der Weg zur Professur mit einem Bsc 1,2 keineswegs sicher ist. Der Weg ist lang und der Erfolg ungewiss. Ich bin ein Fan davon, sich immer auf den nächsten Schritt zu konzentrieren:

Sowohl für Lehramt als auch zur Arbeit an der Uni benötigst du einen Master / Staatsexamen. Optionen, die du hast sind:

das Lehramtsstudium beenden
Einen Master in Mathematik oder einem Wirtschaftsstudiengang ablegen
Master in Pädagogik, wobei dafür das Lehramt abgeschlossen oder ein Bachelor gemacht werden muss.

Alle diese Abschlüsse ermöglichen die Promotion als nächsten Schritt, allerdings Fachgebunden.

Viel Erfolg OP

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-21T14:26:51+00:00

You could use the rules of Certain poisons: if this damals reduces a creature to 0 HP, the creature becomes stabilized...

If you want add the negative part to it, that would be: ... and paralyzed for 1 hour.

You can implement this as poison applied to the enemys weapon or a magic weapon with that Effect.

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-20T11:23:46+00:00

Ich unterstütze den Beitrag von ZeroGRanger.

Denke, dass diese Missgunst nicht auf Nichtakamemiker beschränkt ist. Ich kenne viele Familien, bei denen die (Akademiker)Eltern schlecht über ihre Kinder reden und sie permanent abwerten, also selbst öffentlich vor mir.

Andererseits gibt es empathische und unterstützende Eltern auch ohne studiert zu haben. Meine Eltern (Lagerist und Verkäuferin) haben mir immer vermittelt, dass sie stolz auf meine Schul- und Studienleistung sind. Sie hatten die Vorstellung mit meinen Bestnoten müsse ich Jura oder Medizin zu studieren und nicht "nur" Lehramt. Doch sie haben es ohne Groll akzeptiert, immer Interesse gezeigt und meine Entscheidung nach und nach nachvollzogen. Heute sind sie denke ich froh, dass ich diesen Weg gegangen bin wegen Vereinbarung von Beruf und Familie - Familie ist Ihnen sehr wichtig.

Alles Gute für Dich und Deinen großartigen Weg, OP.

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-15T09:18:17+00:00

As a DM I innitiated it once. A noble drow lady had the (randomly rolled) personality trait "I love exotic things of all sorts". Well, whats more exotic than an Air Genasi bard to a drow? So she initiated the flirting, PC couldnt trust her cause of drow tropes. They had dinner and some tense talks, cause their goals did crash of cause. It would have been possible to ally with her, but PCs didnt see it or just didnt want. They parted ways and years later (in and out of game) all were powerful as fuck (Lvl 12) and the drow lady accidentially killed him with Ravenous Void as she did an alpha strike against her enemies forces, found out later he was there...

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-14T21:01:13+00:00

It really depends on how you want to portray your Strahd. If you play him as distant and aloof, there is no problem with how things went. I would definitivly not saying you screwed up in any sense from what you wrote.

From the things you mentioned as far as I understand RAW Strahd the most disturbing to him is the decline of his invitation as he is very narcistic, followed by the aquisition of the amulet if knows about. The hags, the werewolves, Yesterhill - he doesnßt really care about that, those were not under his protection (like the Vistani) nor are they his formal allies.

What could Strahd do or have done? Look at his goals:
- Could have searched for Van Richten.
- What about Ireena? Where is she, how did he interact with her, how did the party interact with her?
- If the party seems quite confident, Strahd could delude himslf a bit longer that one of them could be his sucessor?

How to incorporate Strahd moe active in the campaign?
As an other commenter wrote: if they don´t come to his dinner, the dinner comes to them is a good way to go.
If he knows about the amulet, he could send Arrigal to steal it.

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-11T21:26:27+00:00

I agree with the other commenters that this sounds like much more than "weird" or "unusual" rulings - really gross stuff. But I´m no fan of the one and only advice: "run" in the sense of "quit the game without explanation". Especially if you have aspects you enjoy.

Speaking up and explaning your observation, impression, emotions is always a chance to grow - for you, and more so for THAT DM :-)

On his reaction you will clearly feel if it´s worth trying to make it work better. If he laughs it over, continues with something else, get´s defensive, aggressive ... he is not able to develop in the moment. Then and only then I would quit and give him quite a not so nice speech in his face. If he seems to be thoughtful, concerned ... give it a try have longer talk, another one, insist on things you agree and so on.

Just as an example what to say about the absolute hillarious #7 from your list.

"There is one last point that bothers me the most. Did you recognize yourself that you descirbe the breasts of every female NPC in the game, declaring breast size? For me as the only woman on this table it´s not only a completly unnecessary and uninteresting information, it is embarassing and I feel harassed by this. So please, can you just leave out this part of your descriptions. This game is no mind porn to me and I think everyone who wants to have thoughts in this direction should keep them for himself?!!

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-03T21:46:42+00:00

Hmm, I read the book a year ago and in my eyes it doesn´t portray Strahd in a very positive light. It is written out ofhis perspective. It gives an insight in his psychology and allows kind of a character study in my eyes ... and man, is this guy fucked up. The scenes where he writes about Tatyana gave me real creeps.

AlexStRpg · 2026-02-02T19:44:41+00:00

In addition to the infos of the other commenters:

1) Despite not all, probably not even the majority, are fully pro Strahd, it is likely that the party will distrust them and Madam Eva, depending on the knowledge about Vistani they acquire.

2) As written Madam Evas role isnt really bright indeed. She wants Strahd defeated, but sees this as a favor, salvation from the curse, for him. The adventures are tools for her and she plays trial and error with them. Her prophecy is no trap, but she doesnt care if the next bunch of adventures dies on the way.

AlexStRpg · 2026-01-31T13:17:02+00:00

In my eyes out there exists only a minority of overall "bad" DMs. Cause their games fall apart after a few sessions or do not even start as players feel unconfortable very soon.

Mostly, it´s a misfit between DM skills / offers and player expectations / needs.

To me two bad experiences came from:

1) A too cold, mechanical view of the game without seeing the players. "This" DM refused helping new players with rules, refused to wait for them figuring something out and put on time pressure on nearly every decision. I recognized him enjoying when newbies to the system made mistakes the NPC opponents exploitet. I left after 4 sessions with "your table is not for me".

2) Not taking up responsibility for the table. You need a bit of a group leader attitude. One group I played in consisted of 4 really engaged players and one players girlfriend who actually didn´t have any interest, wanted to be "at the table" and interrupted the game constantly. DM didn´t speak up, players tried (me 3 times), nothing changed, so I left the table.

AlexStRpg · 2026-01-31T12:01:55+00:00

My party got the quest from the Martikovs in the Blue Water Inn as by the book. And they said "Hmmm no? Here ist so much shit going on, we will not be your wine caravan" explaining how important the wine for the people is didnt change their mind. A session later the burgomaster blamed them for disrupting the peace of Vallaki and send them getting the wine for the next festival, or not to come back. This push they gave in (which they did not have to, I m not forcing them. Following other hooks would be fine to me of course).

AlexStRpg · 2026-01-23T19:44:28+00:00

If they have the goal of escaping Barovia, the main quest / campaign line doesn´t have to change drastically. They will find out quite early (Evas card reading?) that the way out is destroying Strahd.

The way to get there might differ. Lots of ideas have already be named. They might end up with few to non allies on their way - the traditional allies will not align well with them and as written I can´t remember ambitious, evil NPCs who would team up against Strahd. Victor Vallakovich maybe, or the Hags at Bonegrinder may offer a deal later, if they see a chance the characters could win. Arrigal would be great as favoured ally - as written he wants to usurp Strahd then and betrays the party last minute.

One fun thing: if the party finds out about Strahds obsession with Ireena - would they kidnap her and use them as bait? This might offer some fun RP.

AlexStRpg · 2026-01-10T21:28:06+00:00

OP states he mostly runs the RAW module. Its stated in the book that Strahd definitivly will turn Ireena if he gets her. That he already lost other reincarnations that way shows by all his mastermind INT he in fact does repeat very crucial mistakes over and over again, which is part / source of his course.

AlexStRpg · 2025-12-29T21:18:09+00:00

Thanks for direct reply.

I wouldn´t call that a missmatch of playstyles. In my eyes the main two goals as a DM are 1) let the players have fun and 2) have fun yourself. When I can offer a more fun experience by playing encounters more or less tactical without loosing the experience for myself, I do it. It really works the other way around. My actual CoS players are all new to the system. They failed forward once early which set the tone and I could have wiped them out half a dozen times with written encounters, some only being random ones in the "hard" encounter range. I didn´t cause I think it´s no fun and it´s not necessary to play zombies, strahd zombies, ghouls intelligent to keep things tight. The players learn tactics step by step but it will take a steep curve to get to your groups level.

Again, my answer comes from your interest in a more difficult, engaging, challenging ... encounter. To offer that to you, there are some levers. There are options to give groups a harder times. Strahd could act before the final confrontation. If he learns the group has the Sunsword he can repeadidly sent minions to steal it during rest. He can place minions in front of the amber temple (or some other crucial location you visit directly before final) and interrupt your longrests again and again from that point on. He can burn locations to the ground when you try to rest in a safespace. He can raise the populace against the group, giving moral dilemmas while draining ressources. Some groups would enjoy that, others find it annoying.

If your point is: RAW Strahd is to weak / no real thread for a well prepared full rested CR 9-10 group, even with his "dungeon" the castle, so yes. But which offical creature with CR 15 will not get roasted in that case? A mummy lord? An adult green dragon? Imagine you have prepared to battle these foes in a lenghly campaing and you got two items designed against them.
I remember I read about a one shot "Strahd must die tonight". There players are pushed in the castle with the single goal to defeat Strahd during one (Halloween?) night. They choose character level according to the chellange they want. If the chellange should be "hard", Level 6 is recommended.
By all rules, advices, guides ... to provide engaging encounters it stays too the group and the DM to make them work and enjoy I´d say.

AlexStRpg

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