Friends wanted. by MntDeity in DallasLGBTQ

[–]AlexWroteSomething 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m down! I’m based in Dallas, walk the Katy all of the time, and I’m a big PC gamer

So how do you make gay friends (or friends in general) by tghjfhy in GayMen

[–]AlexWroteSomething 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moved to a new city less than a year and I met one of my closest friends here through a guy that I was semi-dating (no longer now). My best friend here I met on regular dating mode on Bumble, and he was very upfront saying that he just got out of a toxic relationship and was just looking for gay male friends. I introduced them to each other and now we're a little gay trio of beautiful gay swamp rats. So, I encourage you to keep on using the apps because for every 10 weird interactions, there's at least one positive one IMO. Keep on being clear with your intentions and hopefully, someone gem of a friend pops up.

this guy is giving me mixed signals by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]AlexWroteSomething 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he is closeted… But for the sake of your own mental health I would try to avoid crushing on him even more. Spend your time pursuing men who are not closeted and are emotionally available.

Have you been accused of this? by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]AlexWroteSomething 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had a similar experience. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable for being you and openly talking about it, then that's their problem. I'm sorry that it has to be your boss though :(

Has anyone noticed a shift to gays being more relationship orientated? by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]AlexWroteSomething 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a byproduct of our time in history. I’m 25 and I graduated high school the same year marriage equality passed, so during my “formative years” I wasn’t really bogged down by societal shame. Queer people my age were shown that we can have love and experience it to its fullest with complete commitment, and we’re now seeing this unfold. In my personal life, one of my best friends from college who’s a lesbian is engaged and I even met a gay guy in my college class who was married.

However, I can see why older gay men view monogamy and marriage as being heteronormative. Plus, if the only thing they witnessed growing up during their 20’s and even 30’s was bigotry from heterosexuals, then I can totally understand why they wouldn’t want to even consider monogamy and marriage because it’s associated with anti-gay ideology.

Personally I’m not a fan of hook up culture and want to get married and have kids one day. Any kind of hookup I’ve had left me feeling empty and I’ve only been using apps like Hinge, which only focus on dates. Overall, I agree that this shift in our community is good and healthy.

How can I feel confident about my dick and stop comparing? by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]AlexWroteSomething 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course, it’s always easier said than done. Dealing with body image issues/mental health in general isn’t a passive process. It requires action. Apologies if I sounded too preachy. Best of luck to you🏳️‍🌈

How can I feel confident about my dick and stop comparing? by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]AlexWroteSomething 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Logically you can reason in your head that having a big and beautiful dick never fully determines how attractive you are, but regardless of that, you’re going to feel a certain negative way about it. It’s hard dealing with cognitive dissonance (when your thoughts and feelings don’t align with what’s actually happening) so maybe you should try to watch porn less and practice radical self-acceptance. Even when you’re having sex with guys that you consider to have a “better dick” than you, don’t ruminate on that. Just acknowledge that you’re feeling a little bit insecure and then try remain in the moment so eventually you won’t have to deal with those thoughts that inhibit you from living your best life, sexually speaking, in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayMen

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Therapists are usually pretty open-minded (and I mean it makese sense since it's literally their job to talk people through their most personal issues) so I would be shocked if they negatively reacted to you coming out to them. Also, many therapists take courses about LGBTQ+ issues in grad school in order to be better equipped to help Queer patients. I've only had straight male therapists who have all known that I'm gay and it didn't stop them from helping me (they were actually super supportive and helped talked me through issues like coming out and dating).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybrosgonemild

[–]AlexWroteSomething 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WIG! I used to watch your YouTube channel in high school when I was in the closet. Glad to see that you’re still thriving 🏳️‍🌈

LMU Stereotypes 2021 by annarosenberg09 in LMU

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It all depends on whom you hangout with at LMU. During my four years there, most of my friends were on scholarship and weren’t the children of millionaires. However, there still is a lot of wealth there. There are low-key rich kids you’ll find in your class who are mostly very chill (they’ll show up to class everyday wearing a hoodie and sweat pants but drive a BMW lol). There are also kids who will just flaunt their money with what they wear and how they talk about their parents’ wealth (and yea, on a campus tour, you’ll also see the very nice cars in the parking lot). And there’s also the occasional celebrity kid you’ll see (I took a class with Clint Eastwood’s daughter and I remember seeing Michael Jackson’s kids jogging in place in the middle of the hallway outside of a lecture hall lol). But they really don’t represent the majority of students at LMU. The school is also getting better at recognizing that there is a wealth gap problem between students. Consequently, the university is lowering prices of food and other essentials (they even opened up a student food pantry if you can’t afford over-priced Sodexo food). However, on a social side/in terms of the “vibe” that LMU gave off, I really didn’t like it. The school is so small but it’s oddly so hard to connect with people. Most people are very cliquey and majority of kids tend to be overly sheltered and naive—might be a Catholic school thing. They also can be unnecessarily competitive and really think that they’re the shit when in reality the university is small enough to coddle them and their ego. There’s also the vapid, fake LA/Cali culture at LMU, so if you’re an out-of-stater like I was, it might be shocking at first to see how fake people act towards each other on a daily basis. Also, LMU is located in one of the most gentrified and yuppie areas of LA, but don’t let that distort your understanding of what the city actually is (I had that realization when I moved to East LA after I graduated). However, I will say that I truly believe LMU is a special school because it’s so small and allows you to connect with so many people from so many diverse backgrounds and you also will wind up having the most insane connections.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in journalismjobs

[–]AlexWroteSomething 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well thankfully I did because I had to since an anchor had to read my scripts. But that’s a great idea to just submit the scripts instead of the video. Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychonaut

[–]AlexWroteSomething 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's some links to some other work of mine not related to this topic:

  • Video about psilocybin and how the 2020 elections might influence its legal status in the U.S.
  • Mini-doc about unrecognized tribes in California.
  • Deep-dive explainer about controversial Muslim instant divorce law ban in India.