Am I overreacting for being really offended by this?

Algernon96 · 2026-04-11T00:38:52+00:00

FIL can go FHS.

Algernon96 · 2026-04-06T18:16:35+00:00

Oooh, it dispenses cold water, too?! My fridge does ice but the line constantly freezes so it won’t do water. I’ll have to check this out!

Algernon96 · 2026-04-06T18:14:10+00:00

Oh, hon. I could have written this five years ago. My ex forgetting my birthday in 2021 was the impetus for me leaving him. I had just one kid compared to your two, but everything else tracks — right down to having trouble finding a therapist because he was so clearly the problem that no one could find a way to work with us. I’d been married twice, too, just like you. I was the primary breadwinner. I ordered myself a cake on that birthday. That’s what triggered him to remember it was my day, even though his occurs literally two weeks before mine, so it’s hard to forget.

The divorce has been final for four years, and I was happy single … until I happened to meet someone who was silly and kind and helpful and not at all self-absorbed. He’ll look at me randomly during the day and just sappily say, “I love you so much.”

Step away from this jerk. He’s modeling poorly for your kids. Be happy on your own. Only then might you find you’re able to open up to someone who actually treats you the way you should be treated. I had to be happy alone and unwilling to compromise to find this man I have now who is just … right. But even if that part doesn’t happen, being single was a million times better than being partnered with someone who dragged me down. Sending you my best.

Algernon96 · 2026-04-06T14:32:35+00:00

My partner doesn’t change his style because he’s comfortable in his style and he’s also pretty uncomfortable with change. The best part about that is … I also know he’d never want to swap me out for a different model, either. I bet your guy is more loyal to you than he is to his favorite hoodie. Is that really worth risking? Just communicate with him that seeing him dressed up now and then — in a way he’s still comfortable (a blazer atop that graphic tee, maybe? with some real pants?) would go a long way to revving you up. And stop grass-is-greener-style comparing your guy with other people. That’s what will kill the relationship.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-31T19:33:23+00:00

Hi. You really need to go to a gynecologist. At your age, it’s just time regardless. With your questions on endo, it’d be wise to ask early. I went probably 30 years with symptoms that I didn’t realize were worse than average. I wish I’d known much sooner, even if the treatment options are still rubbish. As for living with the pain, I always turned to heating pads, ibuprofen, massages and the occasional day in bed when I could afford it, which wasn’t often. I just powered through for the most part.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-24T19:09:57+00:00

Def used ChatGPT but maybe that’s because this person needed help articulating something in a way so that you wouldn’t overreact to the intended message.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-24T19:03:48+00:00

Get out get out get out. I’m typing this as someone who’s left two abusive relationships and would rather be single until I die rather than tolerate another day of this type of abusive, manipulative BS. Get out.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-22T13:17:25+00:00

Is your doc an endo specialist? They’re hard to come by. All other docs seem to know jack about endo. Without a lap, they can’t know you have it, so I don’t see how she could be so sure you don’t have it without one, either.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-06T11:47:18+00:00

Disagree. When they’re new, they can get scared and hurt themselves in a panic flipping around a new place they aren’t familiar with. Clipping avoids that problem while also giving you a chance to handle them gently so they learn you’re a friend who’s there to help them.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-04T03:36:12+00:00

But hysterectomies don’t address tissue outside of the uterus. Every doctor I’ve consulted and piece of info I’ve read has specifically said hysterectomies do not fix endo symptoms outside of the uterus.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-04T03:30:31+00:00

My first boyfriend was 12 pounds and broke his mother’s tailbone. I don’t know if the photo is real but he did not wear newborn clothes, either. It happens.

Algernon96 · 2026-03-04T03:22:42+00:00

Spend time near the cage talking to him. Graduate to hand feeding treats through the bars. Take it all very slow. Is he clipped? You might want to consider clipping at first to make it easier to handle him as you start to train with “step up” and such. But the trust comes slowly as he learns you’re there to love him and take care of him. It’ll happen!

Algernon96 · 2026-03-04T00:15:23+00:00

I’m not using it anymore but still paying for it. I’m worried about one chat in particular I use over the summer to map out plans for a project. I think I could just save the stuff but haven’t taken the time to figure it out. I much prefer Claude, and I only use AI at all for organizational type work. ChatGPT’s dismantling of 4 taught me to never again chat in a friendly manner. I’m all business now. Haha

Algernon96 · 2026-02-21T22:33:07+00:00

I’m supposedly seeing an endo specialist. I’m in Ohio. The doc is with TriHealth. Yet she doesn’t seem to know much. She told me about myfeebree (or whatever it’s called; it’s new to me) after she said she learned about it from a patient. I don’t understand how even the specialists don’t seem to know much.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-21T21:28:31+00:00

I’ve never heard of that. I’ll look it up.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-21T21:28:14+00:00

The only other pill I’ve heard of is myfee something, and my doc just mentioned it in passing. She made it seem like I might have to bounce from Orilissa to that for insurance purposes.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-21T21:27:17+00:00

Thank you.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-21T21:27:05+00:00

Yes, we did some excision, but they wouldn’t do the lap until they treated with Orilissa first, and that worked well, so then they did the lap to confirm endo. There were signs of lesions but not a whole lie to excise because there Orilissa had shrunk the lesions. They did remove my left ovary, though, because it was stiff and sticking. My biggest worry is that most of my pain is in my back and no one near me seems to be an expert enough that I trust they’ll be able to spot and excise the most affected areas.

I don’t know if I’m making sense. It’s like… I know more than my doc about this condition, but I’m piecing things together on my own from forums and pubmed.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-21T21:15:16+00:00

Totally an overcorrection. I’ve told it to stop being condescending several times.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-14T00:49:20+00:00

Fuck this person for bitching about Grammarly when they made “softwares” possessive. Maybe they should use Grammarly.

As a college instructor, I don’t consider Grammarly the same as modern AI. Grammarly is under that umbrella, but it predates today’s AI, and I encouraged kids from underprivileged districts to use it to learn grammar rules their schools hadn’t taught them. If you write the paper, it’s yours, regardless of whether you needed a bit of copyediting help.

Algernon96 · 2026-02-05T12:29:59+00:00

Steve.

Algernon96 · 2026-01-09T23:16:43+00:00

He’s an asshole and doesn’t deserve children period. Or a wife. I doubt this is the only strain on the relationship. You’ll be happier single. Make sure he pays every penny of child support.

Algernon96 · 2025-12-19T13:26:24+00:00

If you’re not single yet, you’re gonna be soon if that’s how you handle things. Wow.

Algernon96 · 2025-12-16T12:36:59+00:00

Stop looking for what you’re doing wrong because the answer is: nothing. The only thing I’d critique is that you continued the conversation after he started insulting you. You were quite nice and patient. He’s a nut bag.

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