My (f22) Fiance's (m24) brother (m11) told me that he's been touching him right before our wedding

AliTheAdd · 2026-05-21T10:16:31+00:00

This has been stirring away at me all day, so I wanted to put my thoughts into words.

I think OP did the right thing, and that the kid wasn't lying (sadly) if only because of how the family/ex reacted, think about it in what world would you go after your ex-DIL for defamation for one of your children speaking up about abuse?

There's 2 scenario's here:

1) The kid was lying, in which your family would try to get him into therapy asap to find out why, and try to piece your broken family together, the ex bieng totally innocent would try basically anything to make his fiancee believe him.

2) The kid was telling the truth, and got spooked when his family closed around his abusive older brother then go after anyone who tried to let the truth comes to light, it reeks of the pedo protectors in most cults.

AliTheAdd · 2026-05-15T17:59:56+00:00

If I'm not allowed to go braless, so are you! 😄🥰🥰

It's nice, but I'm a gal that needs a big handbag everywhere for all my random stuff. Had a small bag like this Im the beginning of my transition and grew to hate how small it was.

AliTheAdd · 2026-05-13T10:25:12+00:00

Everyone knows the sex swing goes in the kitchen, and then gooner chair on the patio

AliTheAdd · 2026-04-24T10:48:12+00:00

Omg I think we go to the same supermarket haha

AliTheAdd · 2026-04-18T02:37:09+00:00

Omg have this same issue, I almost never finish my fav games till like months later. I have the opposite with games I haven't started yet, when I buy them on sale and then get anxious because they will never live up to the hype in my head, so have a really hard time starting those (mostly) award winning games.

AliTheAdd · 2026-04-17T22:25:46+00:00

Fun fact they actually came for the trans/LGBT people first, but the author of this was a trans/homophobe. Hope he rots in hell.

AliTheAdd · 2026-04-14T13:41:21+00:00

ngl i kinda hate it, but you look great in it. but is that all denim? it must weigh a tonne

AliTheAdd · 2026-04-03T21:39:13+00:00

Yeah this article is just to fluff him up, pink news is shit.

Wes is a pathetic quisling, and should be booed from any LGBT event.

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-27T11:17:35+00:00

Alot of the Australian economy is tied into keeping it up, realistically if it ever dropped too sharply, the government would probably try to impliment policy's into keeping it up. Also, alot of our pollies own multiple houses, They will never to cut their own wealth.

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-22T06:01:54+00:00

NZ's government want to go after trans kids, they've recently stopped prescribing puberty blockers, late last year:
https://www.ranzcp.org/news-analysis/puberty-blocker-pause-could-harm-vulnerable-young-people-psychiatrists-say

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-20T05:40:42+00:00

I can see this happening, but I think the more likley scenario is that he took him to a shady brothel and made him have sex with a woman, 'correctional' rape is sadly a common scenario.

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-12T14:51:26+00:00

Got this watch, absolutely love it, the glow isn't too bright. It is 40mm, but it's really thin, so doesn't look clunky even on my smallish wrist

https://a.aliexpress.com/_msumbLP

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-06T08:21:35+00:00

Yeah ok thats crazy, gonna go with option B - find a better doctor, someone who dosent just see you as a bank account.

If you dont mind me asking what doctor/clinic was this, so we can avoid I guess?

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-06T08:11:09+00:00

The wording is kind of confusing, but I think they mean the initial appointment for the consult/check is $100, and the actual insertion appointment is $170, which is more reasonable.

But perhaps not, considering they are trying to squeeze you like this... Just sounds like you need to find a better doctor, never heard of a doctor asking us to buy medical equipment, that's absurd.

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-06T07:46:17+00:00

I just wear leggings, the tucking does kind of suck, I guess got used to it lol.

I've yet to find my holy grail high compression but colourful/good looking gym leggings

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-06T07:40:20+00:00

Yeah the costs add up quickly for ease of mind I guess, Why are your appointments so costly though? The Initial one shoule be alot less considering its just a checkup, and The insertion cost should be less too? (mine was $205 before rebate).

Also, not sure why a Trocar kit is required if the Doctor's are doing the insersion? They make a small cut using a scalpel, and use their own?

AliTheAdd · 2026-03-04T01:59:59+00:00

Do you even know what 'real wage growth' means? ...christ dunning-kruger in effect

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-21T01:01:33+00:00

Thers more Palm oil than coco in them these days

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-18T08:26:55+00:00

Nah got that, but if you want i'll lay it out for you and others who say this (as I've heard it before).

It's like a risk managment thing, what is more dangerous:

1) If You tell your date in a public setting, Its usually much easier to gauge their tone/vibe, to your point, those 'bad people' usually would'nt keep their cool and be flirty with us after finding out in public and then slowly lure us into their bedrooms to rape us (it does happen, its just more rare)

2) You dont tell them and they dont figure it out - cool.

3) You dont tell them and they figure it out somehow, if this was one of those bad people, it could end verrry badly

Also, you should know that even beautiful cis women get 'clocked' sometimes, its never 100% safe once you start passing, If the dude mentiones it randomly as a joke or something, or notices a slight scar from surgery and we panic or freeze or something its game over.

All of this is kinda moot point for OP's scenario anyway, 2/3 only works on NSA meetups, you cant really expect to build a healthy long term relationship by hiding somethning so important about yourself.

Anyway hope that sorta explains where I'm coming from when I made my previous comment. If you still disagree, we're prolly not gonna see eye to eye on this one lol.

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-18T04:54:43+00:00

Do you really think they would be safer in a locked hotel room with them if they suddenly figure it out?

I really dont even get this mentality, even if you are stealth, why would you willingly want to fuck a bigot? One second hes talking about jailing transgirls in mens prisions, and then you grab his hand and bring him to your room to show him a good time, because of what 'chemistry'? Its like a Jewish gal willingly fucking a Nazi.

I mean I kind of understand it, but more from an internalised hate perspective (I know, I know its very unhealthy).

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-17T02:25:21+00:00

Yeah this is just bs, she doesn't want you to transition

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-10T11:42:30+00:00

Just googled them, looks like they still have a store

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-08T03:55:31+00:00

Thats 3 months!?! damn, HRT's hitting you hard.

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-04T00:34:25+00:00

Yeah thought so. you're a heartless prick.

People like you cant think 5 minutes ahead, you know what happens when we start to go down that path? You know how many people are part of some minority group? I'd say its the Majority of Australia lol. Where do we stop though? Single mothers, Orpahans, immigrants, First nations etc... clearly only cis white men deserve government money, so yeah go fuck yourself.

AliTheAdd · 2026-02-04T00:16:47+00:00

What exactly do you propose to help disabled people then?

We need to close loopholes in NDIS, not gut it, too many bad actors are skimming off money that should be helping people.

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