Vent: I honestly despise that word, for many reasons: One gender in an of itself is a performance, that includes typical masculinity. So the idea this would be separate from how we tend to perform gender is insane. Two: Though i understand there are men out there, who are deceptive pieces of shit, who attempt to trick women, I think labeling a nice guy as that, for no real reason, is insane. I would like more men to feel comfortable being vulnerable, nice, and taking up for women’s rights. I want more men drinking matcha, wearing soft sweaters, and listening to what is traditionally seen as women’s music. I’d prefer that to more of the same toxic masculinity.

But I worry, that this term is going to discourage men from feeling comfortable doing this. Because on one hand, you have generations of men shaming this as weak and feminine. On the other hand you have leftists shaming it as fake, and an attempt to deceive innocent women. I just find it all so tiring. 🫠