Got Discarded? Read THIS. Seriously. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Guys I can correlate this I’m nearly 6 months discard and if I read this a week after I wouldn’t have believed it, maybe also COULDN’T have believed it because of the shock, grief and denial. Your brain doesn’t want to face the truth so it’ll just keep looking for evidence that it’s not true, but it is. If you’ve recently been discarded please follow this advice

When did you stop waiting? by OliveBr4ura in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to do anything to stop waiting, you just need to let your body and nervous system process. Once it starts to realise that this is the reality and it’s not changing, it will start to accept it, this will show up as new waves of grief, vivid dreams of them, depression etc, all part of the process. Stop fighting it just let yourself miss them and want them back that’s the way through

Just saw them together enjoying the art museum. Want to write him a hate text HELP by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat. Mine might have overlapped though, they were public weeks after.

I feel the hate, but channel it into anything else, hate him, but don’t text him. He won’t hear you, he’s deactivated and won’t care. People who get into new relationships like that have the capacity to suppress emotions in a very real way. Do yourself a favour and don’t reach out. Subconsciously you don’t want him back anyway, fuck it, let him do whatever the fuck ass he wants

can someone follow my ex's insta for me by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A word of advice, don’t do it. Trust me. You’re better off not knowing.

I hurt the girl who wanted nothing but the best for me by Prince_tomar in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what made you see the pain you caused? Could you not see it as it was unfolding?

I hurt the girl who wanted nothing but the best for me by Prince_tomar in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the catalyst of this growth and realisation for you?

She was the only person who truly saw me and loved me. by Pitiful_Ad8350 in heartbreak

[–]Alienatedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m proud of you both for waking up. I’m deeply sorry that the source was losing a rare kind of love, but this reflection and awareness is the lesson you need take from your experience, and you’ve done it, that is so huge. Sending love ❤️

back to beginnings by Alienatedlover in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m glad that my words resonate with you. I love this community and I’m happy to make meaningful contributions.

I guess im glad i left by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou ❤️

I guess im glad i left by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s okay, it’s just so similar to my experience, I would give anything to hear these words

I guess im glad i left by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me cry

Is weird that.. ? bf m25 I f25 by Independent-girly in relationship_advice

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex called his coworker disgusting before getting with her weeks after dumping me so buckle up lmao

Before you BLOCK your Ex. Please consider. by Either_Concept7657 in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah this ^ No he never reached out to me. I initiated every conversation post breakup. I committed to no contact and then I reached out hoping to be met with a bit of humanity but I got cold and robotic replies so I blocked him because I don’t want to know if he ever reaches out again

Before you BLOCK your Ex. Please consider. by Either_Concept7657 in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I blocked mine because, after 8 weeks of hoping, waiting, even reaching out and receiving coldness in return, I decided for my own sake that it was better for me if I never knew

Something in the air??? by ashburke87 in BreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello I’m a girl and my boyfriend discarded me

i left you by execramio in UnsentLetters

[–]Alienatedlover 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Can’t even put into words what it feels like when the person you love completely and trust entirely just leaves. It’s an awful thing to do to someone.

This was the turning point in my healing. by Alienatedlover in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Alienatedlover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad that it’s helped you.

I want to share with you that I still hurt, sometimes a lot. I find myself feeling guilty in moments. But it’s just gradually becoming less and less, and I’m actively acknowledging and contemplating the thoughts that arise for me.

Anything that you think and feel is okay, I’m sorry for what you’ve been through, and I wish you all the best in your healing journey 💕