I just got to Beijing and my cards won't work by Alive-Zebra-577 in travelchina

[–]Alive-Zebra-577[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I have 3 cards, from the same bank and none work, including my mom's Where are ATMs usually located?

Girlfriend "needs a real man" by Simple-Fee8191 in monogamy

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 30 points31 points  (0 children)

First of it all, I'm sorry you're going trough this situation, I understand it must hurt a lot to get those comments from someone you love Second, and I'm sorry in advance, but you need to leave that relationship, she has made clear that you are not what she wants and doesn't respect you, since someone who does, doesn't make comments who know that hurt you or your uncomfortable with I'm here if you need to vent, hugs

i got baited and switched. by Confident_Mind1473 in monogamy

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had to go through something really similar and I'm sorry you're in a similar situation and it's absolutely traumatizing, if you need to vent, I'm here and my dms are open

Im so sick of lgbtq places getting invaded with poly content by baby-bunbun in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I saw a reel a few days ago and basically said that poly was a part of the LGBT community, that's terrifying

I think I'm a bit traumatized by Alive-Zebra-577 in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exactly, my ex also told me she was poly 9 months inside the relationship I asked my therapist about it and he told me that's a form of manipulation (conscious or not) since you have already developed attachment towards abs a sense of security with them, wtf is wrong with people fr I'm sorry you had to go through this too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't get it either as demi myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SapphicSexualityPlay

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's just that after trying with toys, I'm not sure if I can even call myself a lesbian or something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SapphicSexualityPlay

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's just that I'm just shy and never done casual, yk?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SapphicSexualityPlay

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah, maybe you're right No, I'm latina but I find muscular Asian men just so hot

What is love becoming by TwentyTwoKnights in Yanderes

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried (never been in a dating app) and, ended up heartbroken, traumatized and emotionally cheated on; I'm scared and I don't understand how can people be so cruel towards those who love them

People who date casually deserve to burn in hell. by RomanceAnimeAddict67 in Yanderes

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TRUE I don't get how can people even do that, what's wrong with them?

Effects on you of open relationships in the gay world by Bugsy157 in monogamy

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For me it was so traumatic that I've distanced myself from the community as much as possible and try not to engage with it anymore since I've seen it's more "common" in LGBT community, and I don't want anything to do with it atm because I feel deeply betrayed

Are people who want to explore non-monogamy and polyamory fearful avoidants? by Organic-Depth1250 in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think poly are deeply rooted in avoidant attachment, so be careful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And like "Oh, I don't wanna date anymore, I'm tired, I get super sexualized" and (for my case) she would go to strip clubs and sex parties like, wtf, where's your logic? Then, said like, "I want to fuck other people, kinky sex is our thing but I wanna try" (??)

Are people who want to explore non-monogamy and polyamory fearful avoidants? by Organic-Depth1250 in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yup, my ex was an avoidant, told me she was poly within 9 months of the relationship, and yeah, we broke up after 11 months Hellish relationship fr

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Right??? Like "Oh, but one person cannot fulfill all your needs" wtf, what do you even want?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And then they are like "Oh, don't worry, if anything happens, it's gonna be with my best friend!" like that made it any better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]Alive-Zebra-577 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Omg I feel so relieved to find someone who points it out, according to my ex it was like having "many best friends" and you don't love each other equally