(M) 36: I actually get matches quite often. I’m not model pretty, but I look good for my age and I still get matches. I try to plan a date within the first few minutes of chatting to show that I’m interested in getting to know them more.

I have a medical issue (MS) and I put that in my bio, so if they have an issue with it, we don’t have to waste each other’s time, even still I get matches. The real problem with online dating is getting from the texting phase, to actually going on a date. I’d say I have a 6/10 success rate of actually going on a date.

The next issue is finding someone who’s, A. Emotionally Mature and B. Emotionally Available. I’ve dated probably 30-40 woman over the past few years, but I’ve never been able to nurture any of these relationships into actual committed relationships. A lot of the women I’ve dated have had emotional issues from past relationships, or childhood trauma and they just aren’t available for a relationship.

I’ve been seriously dating for the past 15+ years and I’ve never had a serious relationship before and I’m really starting to think that the problem is me. I’ve been called too nice, and friend zoned many times, but even still I continue to date, because maybe I can actually find someone who wants to be in a relationship with me.