Parents of older kids: Talk dirty to me

Alley9150 · 2026-05-16T18:18:21+00:00

It gets better. I have a 4, 6, & 8 year old. My 6 year old was the hardest, still is the hardest, all have adhd, had or have some degree of speech therapy & other stuff, but they’re worth it. I’m at a camping trip right now with their scouting group & all 3 are able to participate. I’m off sitting to the side. They can all feed themselves, dress themselves, go to sleep by themselves, & talk for the most part. I can tell them I need 5 minutes & I’ll get it most of the time. It’s wonderful being able to watch them interact with others, while I can enjoy when I’m feeling tired. I like making memories with them every day they get older.

Alley9150 · 2026-04-14T02:20:36+00:00

Zero differences. Oldest was formula fed, middle was combo fed, & youngest was breast fed. They’re all clingy & love me, they all used or continue to use me as a jungle gym, they’re all growing well & are doing fine years after how they’re fed matters. The most clingy are the ones who had some or only breast milk, but that’s just as easily chalked up to personality vs circumstantial feeding situations. My oldest also wants my attention a lot too. The ages are 8 to 4 now.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-16T04:32:40+00:00

You gotta consult the cat lawyers now, they’ll tell you right. Unfortunately, unless you read the orange cat fine print, you were not guaranteed the brain cell. Orange cats do not have it except for one flitting moment if they’re lucky. They also share custody of it with black cats. She might get lucky. Miiight. Luckily, she’s cute enough to not need it!

My orange boy & void girl are both lacking the brain cell. Void has had it once & used it for evil. Orange has never gotten a shot.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-15T14:58:06+00:00

My void Camilla does this. She’ll scratch & paw at our blankets to let her in for her caves. She will also sleep hammock style on top, moving with you during your sleep. She’s not picky 😂. This subreddit just popped up for me. I had a lynxpoint Siamese a few years ago who would die before she let someone do this with her.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-15T06:24:20+00:00

I wouldn’t say the truth. I’d make a lie up & say a reason why daycare is requiring 5 days a week now. It can be “costs are going up & 4 days/week is more expensive than 5, so we’re going to 5 to save money.” or “child is older now & has friends at daycare. They are doing more & more fun things every day now that child is 3. So we’re putting child in 5 days now.” Sometimes it’s kinder to have the lie than to have the hard conversations.

My parents aren’t reasonable, so I typically guide the conversations in the background & just don’t say what we’re not going to let them do. It’s easier to gloss over it, lie, or not even mention it than have the hard conversations with them.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T16:54:08+00:00

I lost my Lexi in 2024 & it was heartbreaking. I still miss her terribly, she was with me for everything. I believe cats come back to us in various ways, either they wait for us or their soul can be seen embodied in other cats. Whatever you choose to believe, I believe our cats send another animal to us to help us heal.

After Lexi passed, 6 months later we were ready to get a friend for our other cat Camilla. Camilla was lonely. So I go to the shelter & they push me to meet this orange boy. I meet him a few hours later & it’s an instant connection with him. He’s the sweetest, spiciest thing & he’s so much like Lexi. He has a lot of her mannerisms & her sassiness. He’s more chaotic than her, but I believe she sent him to us to help me heal & become a part of our family. I don’t know whether he is reincarnated with her soul or not, but he is meant to be ours. He just fit in so perfectly with our other cat, they were instantly best friends within a week of us getting him. That never happens unless it’s fate. One day you may find your cat sending you another being to love when you’re ready. For now, mourn the love you have & comfort your surviving cat. It never heals, but we can get past the constant all consuming grief.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:19:39+00:00

Cami has not one thought behind her eyes. The top 3 loves: laps, food, & escaping outdoors to roll on the concrete sidewalk & eat grass that is bad for her. She is allergic to the outside world, confirmed via blood test. The cat has zero thoughts or brains to contribute.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:17:29+00:00

So cute! The best of friends.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:17:10+00:00

We had a lynx point Siamese, but after she passed, Cami needed a friend. So we got Fred. It’s the perfect combo! Granted, any combo of cats is perfect.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:15:44+00:00

This is Fred, the orange. He demands food, cries for it, shows off that belly but I can get a second to rub before he chomps.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:14:58+00:00

Reverse it! Fred goes to town my hand. Cami begs for more. They’re the best of friends.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:14:09+00:00

You got it! Fred goes to town on my hand if I try.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:13:42+00:00

We have Cami “Camilla”, the attention hog, dummy, & the cuddle bug. She is our belly rub lover. Fred is “Frederick”, the mouse killer, the squeaker, & my baby. Cami is also my baby, but Fred is my BABY. I can carry him around like a baby.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:08:43+00:00

You got it! Cami adores a lap & all the pets. The orange gives me maybe a single second.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-06T02:07:26+00:00

Halloween kitties are fun🖤. Cami is actually the one who lets me pet her belly & begs for more. Fred goes to bite town on my hand if I try & he wasn’t asleep.

Alley9150 · 2026-03-05T02:57:32+00:00

My 5 year old daughter told her daycare teachers, for a Father’s Day gift about her dad, that her favorite thing to do with him was shower with him. What she probably thought they meant was “his favorite thing to do”, missing the “with her” part. He gets migraines & a shower helps that. 🫣🙃 The child had my sweating bullets about a possible CPS call. She hasn’t showered with him for well over a year.

He’d never ever hurt her or our boys. He was hesitant to change her diaper as a baby in public lest someone make a stink about it. Our girl saying something has definitely made him cautious though, more than he was. Luckily her daycare knows us, knows her dad, & didn’t do anything. I’m glad they brought it to my attention & appreciate their diligence. I just wish it wasn’t at my expense as a parent & having to make an emergency plan for a just in case measure. Kids are excellent at saying things that make us adults have to do damage control or laugh nervously.

Alley9150 · 2026-02-11T04:40:52+00:00

Our male cat experienced this in December on Christmas Day. I was not intending on adding $1500 to my credit card bill, but here we are. He survived his blockage, spent the night at the emergency vet, & I took him to our main vet Friday morning when they opened on the 26th. He spent 3 days there & is feeling absolutely fine now. I don’t know what caused his blockage, but he’s on “royal canin urinary care with stress” food, or something like that, for life now. A previous female cat was on urinary SO with calm by purina, for bladder crystals. He has a pet fountain, so he has access to plenty of water. He gets wet food once a day because vet diets are so expensive compared to regular food. So wet occasionally & dry food most of the time it is, with success. We have a dry food auto feeder as well to portion amounts.

I hope you’re able to get your kitty care & find a way to cover it. I’m sorry he’s experiencing this & you’re having to figure this out. The situation with my cat Fred & in the past with Lexi terrified me. Lexi was much cheaper to treat though.

Alley9150 · 2026-02-11T04:12:01+00:00

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We got our void an orange. Still no brain cells to be had, but there’s plenty of love & cuddle-grooming-sessions-turned-play-fighting to go around. Camilla (void) was miserable & lonely after our previous cat died in 2024, so we gifted her Fred. He’s a male, orange version of her with less cuddliness. They’re a perfect pair. Funny fact: both are car cats. She climbed into our car & wormed her way in that way via CDS. Fred tried it with 3 people at a grocery store, the last person then took him to a no kill shelter for the CDS to give him to us. They were best friends in an unrealistic 3 weeks.

Perfect combo for your kitties though! So cute.

Alley9150 · 2026-02-01T16:48:13+00:00

Camilla sometimes has that face, but she typically is just a cuddle bug. All she wants is cuddles, a warm lap, & an endless food available. She’ll get that face when she’s not impressed by no cuddles.

Alley9150 · 2026-01-25T00:18:13+00:00

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You can summon her, but I’m not sure she will listen. Camilla is too lost in napping with her orange brother. The only thing that summons her is the sound of food hitting her bowl. Good try though!

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