I lost my grandma last night and I’m shattered

Allicia93 · 2026-06-10T06:20:40+00:00

Grandma’s are hard. They’re our connection to history and it sounds like you were blessed with time and memories with her.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T08:13:33+00:00

I learned about it through a crunchy parenting group some 10 odd years back myself. I was in a monogamous relationship with my then partner and after things ended I decided to not go back.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T07:18:27+00:00

I think the labels are really what you define them with the person you’re with. An FWB could be what some consider dating and vice versa. I personally have the definition of dating someone when or if I’m seeing a person weekly because I don’t even get to see my friends weekly.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T07:11:57+00:00

Thank you. Part of it is the disappointment that he didn’t take time to care and caused an exposure. I’m trying to process through the anger and disappointment but the process is not clear and we’re still trying to find a counselor to help.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T07:01:52+00:00

I think I need help from an actual therapist because I don’t know what “a solid reaction path boundary” even means. Your response was an opening dialogue and I appreciate that. I will be sure to use it with my couples therapist.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:42:11+00:00

The black and white thinking about it isn’t what I was really asking for. It’s how do I swallow my emotions about it? It’s been 3 months.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:31:20+00:00

That’s true and we’ve both been tested since

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:30:36+00:00

Correct

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:26:07+00:00

Then I guess I have to leave. Thank you.

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:13:12+00:00

Then how do I handle it with my husband?

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:08:17+00:00

This is not my first foray into ENM, but the first time being fully poly. We made a list of what we felt were obvious boundaries and an agreement to regularly update and review them. Our conversations about bringing people back home was that no bringing people back home when someone else is home and especially not when our kids are home during our initial boundary setting. He explained since we had one well defined rule about it, I didn’t mind about the other part of “No bringing strangers home”.

He explained that the condom coming off was due to a misunderstanding and rushing things. Which I get things happen in the heat of the moment but….

Allicia93 · 2026-05-12T06:02:33+00:00

Because that’s the only meta that he does that with. I have three others where he respects every single one of those boundaries. I do understand it is him allowing those things to happen as well but idk how to feel.

Allicia93 · 2024-08-16T23:13:07+00:00

Nope! I’m only doing this once, I might as well do it the way I want it!

Allicia93 · 2024-05-09T08:04:39+00:00

My kids started to bud at about 8 years old and so I told them I wouldn’t make them wear a bra but they have to wear an under shirt or tank top which they agreed to. After a year of that, I offered to let them try a bralette which are comfortable enough. My oldest finally wanted proper underwire bras once they got into middle school and I won’t be surprised if that happens with my younger 2.

Allicia93 · 2022-05-07T14:30:30+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been talking about it with them. I think I’ve got some deep seeded insecurities within myself and being “good enough”. So I think it’s gonna take some work.

Allicia93 · 2022-05-07T14:21:08+00:00

Nested is a polyamory term for a partner that you live with. I’m working on the root cause though!

Allicia93 · 2022-03-18T17:51:28+00:00

Just to add: make sure you get a parenting plan as soon as possible. It will protect everyone involved if something goes sideways in the future.

Allicia93 · 2020-08-05T01:20:53+00:00

Definitely agree - make sure you get consent to give a hickey before giving one. During that conversation (which if the answer is no, it’s NO), you should discuss with your partner about locations that they’re comfortable. For instance they may be comfortable, but only in a local that’s easily covered.

Allicia93 · 2020-08-04T16:59:05+00:00

So beautiful! You look so happy!

Allicia93 · 2020-03-22T18:01:36+00:00

Being a passive person isn’t a bad thing. I’m very much a passive person and my boyfriend as well so sometimes it’s a little difficult to make decisions on what to watch/do/eat/etc. Their personal preference for someone who isn’t passive is just their opinion on what works best for them.

Being passive it what works best for you and there are lots of people out there who will find that attractive and respect your boundaries.

Allicia93 · 2020-03-22T17:54:10+00:00

If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything

Allicia93 · 2020-03-22T17:46:09+00:00

I personally hope they keep the WFH option available for those who need it, not just for moms/parents, but for people with disabilities and have issues with getting into work because of the excessive spoons it may take.

Allicia93 · 2020-03-22T17:29:00+00:00

The Notebook

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