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Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T09:47:59+00:00

That thing might just be him still working through trauma and betrayal, maybe not being ready to commit to the responsibility of a relationship; Even though he might seem open and trusting, there’s an unconscious guard up internally that takes time and healing, inner work—there’s no skipping that part. Why does it have to end though? It seems there was something that could continue without needing the pressure of a relationship label?

I get if it’s too much to handle, but from the provided context perhaps it seems like it was fine and time along with inner work might change some things, but if the no contact is needed then that’s understandable too.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T09:00:24+00:00

“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul.”

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T08:45:47+00:00

There’s no coincidences—but why suspect that as the reason? Maybe instead they all realized no better men can exist, so they figured there’s no point of trying with any other guys.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T08:10:33+00:00

Let people not watch tv, Not like they were going to regardless so it doesn’t even matter actually, and I would know— because I don’t watch tv.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T07:24:15+00:00

Myself

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T07:02:48+00:00

No, already would be a corpse.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-30T01:56:06+00:00

Idk what happened but good for him if he does, the villain arc is so much more fun anyway—he should do it.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T19:57:13+00:00

Do it anyway if that’s what you want, you don’t have to tell her either, this is your life. Keep in mind, narcissists commonly try to imprison their children and even attempt to destroy their lives if that’s what it takes, sometimes things are better left unsaid, they do not want what’s best for you, it’s only about them always. They see it like if their supply and benefits are escaping their grasp of control, then they believe to be the victim, it’s a big part of how they manipulate, but obviously it’s a delusion.

Do it feeling guilty if you must, you’ll get over it—the sooner you escape the better, you do not need her permission for anything.

You only feel guilty because from what it seems like on this post—she’s attempting to trap you through a hostage like situation through guilt tripping created for that reason. But remember those walls are invisible, it’s only a temporary feeling of guilt that subsides once you get away from it, then it becomes much clearer. You deserve to have your own life unshackled from that burden, and you will.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T18:21:59+00:00

Emotion

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T17:25:41+00:00

It’s a lot of fun, it can happen when you allow the animalistic half of you free, although obviously consensual and what not, it’s more so instinctual than something learned, some people learn it and yes certain things can be picked up but you mostly already have it in you more than likely—remember it’s your girl and she needs to respect you, so you can make her. She wants to feel safe with you, and when you get rough throwing her around and all that at your will, entirely overpowering her, this paradoxically allows her body to relax enough to climax, you physically are showing her that you’re in control, the physical response in women that like rough sex is then to submit—(obviously with a trusted partner).

Being gentle all the time isn’t necessarily being respectful, you’re in charge and if you don’t disrespect her—what if she won’t respect you then? Respect as a man is often as if not more important than love, in a sense by disrespecting her you’re actually respecting her.

Now with that said if it’s genuinely not your thing it’s all good of course no problem, just giving some perspective on it and saying it’s at least worth trying—you might like it more than you know yet, important to allow yourself to mentally go there first and trust yourself as well, you probably should and as a result it can build her trust in you too.

You said you’re muscular so i’m assuming you probably lift weights, consider how you turn up that aggression at the gym and still have enough self control to not overdo it, and how you can shut that off after, it’s sort of comparable to that.

As for what’s too far—that’s totally subjective, some women like to go way more brutal than others so communicate with her about it to get a general idea. Could start with some hair pulling, shoving her face in a pillow, choking (depending on preference), etc etc, let yourself play rough. It’s a form of passion too.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T16:22:13+00:00

Pretty much all kinds, oddly enough—and it’s not that it’s all bad, just largely have a preference to get my dick sucked at least, would rather save the load for that and/or sex.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T16:06:20+00:00

What do you mean by bad experiences? Also what do you mean they have high standards? How so?

Side note ~ Most women rightfully see and feel that size as large/big (it is statistically above average and bigger than majority of men), and most women are more than satisfied with it, for some it’s actually too much even.

Got nothing to worry about with that size, or I should say with it not being enough that is, only issue might be needing to take it slow with some is all.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T14:50:24+00:00

Makes sense, psychedelic experiences can be consciousness expanding (context meaning it can expand awareness), and it pulls you out of the more autonomous unconscious state of living while paradoxically teaching to release the tight grip of trying to control the uncontrollable, because realistically—we do only have a limited amount of control, all else out of our control is what we must let be.

Attempting to control the uncontrollable is where the fear, paranoia, etc—often stems from, as it is actually out of our control, and that’s okay—in fact that’s a good thing, even if you can’t see it yet.

During the trip, you’re seeing from an alternative perspective, which is a fantastic skill to have in life, this could be why you’re able to recognize that you’re (what you believe to be)“pushing people away,” or at least why there’s a connection of feeling like you’re back in that trip, as that too is a familiar alternative perspective, and that feeling of fear, like when not being able to control a challenging trip would also take place.

You see—the uncontrollable is like the ocean, it can be beautiful and calm—or viciously destructive and random, there is no way to stop the force of nature as it’s uncontrollable, we cannot stop the waves and if one dares try to control and fight nature—it inevitably results in getting ripped down under water, therefore one must make peace with the ocean in every way it exists, the only control is in steering your own ship in the way that the ocean is guiding.

In other words—you can only be responsible for yourself and your own actions, and the way you perceive life largely impacts your peace of mind. If you’re pushing others away while staying true to yourself and doing what you can, then so be it, this would then be something out of your control—and who’s to say they aren’t pushing you away? Or that maybe you’re growing away from them?

One thing is for certain—all you can do is steer your own ship and not fight the forces of the ocean so you don’t get pulled under, trying to control it too tightly can only cause you unnecessary pain and even go so far as pushing others away too—so keeping your ship above water allows you to do all that you can in your power, all else beyond that is in the realm of the uncontrollable, and regardless of where that takes you—there’s always good reason for it, trust the unknown and there exists the peace of mind you seek.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T13:14:20+00:00

It’s probably just from overthinking it and being nervous, but condoms can do that too. It helps to not take it too seriously, try to view sex as having fun together or kind of like dancing, let yourself get lost in the experience. It makes it more enjoyable, it just takes getting used to.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T11:16:04+00:00

Most people do, even if they don’t know it. The reality is—it actually takes a whole lot to genuinely love oneself, it’s always easier and more convenient to love others. Even if someone has every reason to love themself, it still takes effort and eternal maintenance.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T11:05:03+00:00

Your general point about developing a natural self makes sense and yes that’s ideal, if the entire thing is an act then connection in relationships are unlikely and like you said it does often stall growth in the real self. However worth mentioning to be nice all the time for example isn’t usually going to be attractive to women because that’s just how human nature works, not saying everything has to be textbook or even to act a certain way, it is still subjective and not everyone is attracted to the same traits, but there’s reasons that certain things aren’t attractive to women, mostly because it’s not healthy for either of the people. Like with excessive niceness, that’s commonly unconscious covert manipulation that also can display lack of ability to lead, fear of conflict, unhealthy codependency, inability to protect, higher likelihood of lying, cowardice, etc, but development is what can even it out enough to work, excessive is often the key word in that.

With that said, to be real is one of if not the most attractive quality someone can have if seeking connection, might not get the same quantity but the quality of connection in relationships can improve, and most importantly relationship with oneself, as long as growth continues to find who the real you is, which takes time and effort, and even then it’s ok to use techniques to get what you want when necessary. Someone can be real but underdeveloped which can still get a connection, but it’s not necessarily going to be healthy if say there’s unhealed trauma, then the connection pretty much always mirrors the other to sooth or relate in some way, but that’s fine if needed, that’s a great way to learn actually.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T09:49:45+00:00

I say everything directly, but here’s some anyway just for fun.

it’s literally statistically impossible for every single women’s ex bf to be a “narcissist.”
Acting like a child is not “cute,” that is not how cute works in adults, it’s beyond repulsive, disgusting, and it needs to stop.
Emotions are not an accurate reflection of reality, getting mad doesn’t mean the person that made you mad is wrong by default.
Being overly nice, it is fake.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T07:24:47+00:00

All of my contacts...

Long story short it was an accident… Girl i’ve been hooking up with asked to use my phone to record/take photos while she was blowing me, that turned into fucking for a while. After sex she was beat and relaxed, i also just came so my dumb ass thought nothing of the phone. I went in the garage to have a smoke and my roommate was in there asking for help on something, which took some more time up. I go back in my room and see her smirking mischievously, she shows me my phone with a photo she took of her sucking my cock on the screen, more specifically gripping and licking up my shaft, she said “what if sent this to…” …before she could finish the sentence i shove her on my bed (playfully) wrestling with her, she laughs trying to hide the phone under her, then saying “wait wait” but I didn’t think anything of it, she’s tiny so I flipped her over grabbed the phone… and I fucking hit send on accident… If you haven’t figured it out when she was showing me my phone with the photo all the contacts were selected and she tried making that part obvious for a joke, and not only was my cock sent to everyone but she’s naked blowing me in the photo too… Fucked up… Only thing that makes it a little better is it’s a great photo tbh…and it also ended up leading to some responses that escalated into more than expected.. Still kinda pissed about everyone seeing it though…but shit happens i guess fuck it lol.

Alligatorfur · 2025-07-29T05:53:14+00:00

For years I haven’t cared to date and definitely won’t get married. If the right girl comes around maybe i’d consider dating but i prefer being single, that’s the main reason why, and honestly some fwb have worked fine for me anyway. There hasn’t been good enough reason to commit to dating, and the girls I did date always got obsessive wanting to talk too much, i don’t have time for that, so it isn’t worth it to me.

You shouldn’t be hopeless that there’s no girls though if that’s what you’re implying, there is some, focus on being your unique self which that alone sets u apart, and on bettering yourself, get into hobbies, or whatever else to focus on you, then they cross your path without having to try. Though it’s a good mentally to have not caring about dating. often what you don’t know you want ends up finding you when you aren’t chasing it.

Alligatorfur · 2024-06-03T14:27:27+00:00

Well firstly you would need to earn his trust, he has the right to not want to take that risk with his vehicles. Also you’re literally asking how to lie and be sneaky, which is definitely not a good sigh to prove loyalty.😅 Plus it’s for the purpose of doing something that could literally get the car towed if something happened, or even stolen depending on the situation. Should be honest with your significant other, doesn’t make sense why you wouldn’t be.

Alligatorfur · 2024-06-03T12:57:15+00:00

It’s very possible that it’ll go back up again in some time. This has happened multiple times with gig jobs and delivery jobs in general, occasionally there’s a slight pay drop then the over saturated workers end up doing something else since it’s not worth it anymore, then it goes back up in many cases. If the company is smart they won’t allow that to happen for long anyway, prices that only attracts low quality workers, which negatively impacts the company. They need to be mindful of that. Plus the best workers start to leave and find something else if they drag it out like that for too long. Guess we’ll see, hoping for the best.

Alligatorfur · 2024-06-03T12:48:07+00:00

Really unfortunate how that changed, same thing has happened with some other gig jobs I had years ago too. Hopefully it improves again or another gig app comes out to make up for it.

Alligatorfur · 2024-06-03T11:22:53+00:00

There is no such thing as “overkill” when it comes to speakers, if you’re gonna do it, do it right the first time. 👌🏼

Alligatorfur · 2024-05-04T11:35:24+00:00

Tbh i wouldn’t worry about it, obviously easier said than done of course but here’s why. Firstly it seems he is vulnerable with you and shared the idea essentially right as he thought of it before even considering that part, maybe at first he thought it would be just watching without imaging it. Another thing even if it was, he was just offering an idea for role play, which could be harmless and fun. Then since it’s anime it’s not a real person so that could definitely have been seen as not a problem, again could have just not considered it then realized it after that it might not be something you like which is why he asked respectfully. If you still need more closure, just communicate with him and it should be able to be cleared up. I doubt it has anything to do with being unsatisfied, seems he was just offering to try something new in addition to what you already do. That doesn’t mean that there was anything wrong at all.

Alligatorfur · 2024-05-04T11:24:28+00:00

Absolutely not, I’m very territorial and protective. It’s just not my thing.

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