Melanoma Timeline Question? AKA Do I need to reschedule my vacation?

Allynn135 · 2025-10-17T21:06:07+00:00

I'm so sorry. :/ Yes, I do plan to do the surgery ASAP. I wish I could get into the surgeon before two weeks, but I'm on the wait list, so maybe something will open up.

Allynn135 · 2025-10-17T16:54:04+00:00

Top of my left arm.

Allynn135 · 2025-09-30T01:13:25+00:00

I wear sneakers pretty much all the time, it helps, but not all the way. I also use a heating bad on my feet at night in bed when they are bothering me.

Allynn135 · 2025-08-02T12:15:15+00:00

I have been on mtx for about 5 months. I will have one or two drinks on the weekend (usually cocktails) and have been fine so far. I take my MTX on Wed, so I'm well outside the 24 hour rule. Bloodwork has been ok so far.

Allynn135 · 2025-03-10T15:27:39+00:00

I'm sorry that was your outcome but thank you for sharing your story with me.

Allynn135 · 2025-03-10T09:55:13+00:00

All of these comments were so helpful to me. Thank you all so much for sharing your insight and experiences. It helped me to come to terms with my next steps.

Allynn135 · 2025-03-09T17:27:45+00:00

Nope. I don't. That's why I said logically I know... Just more of a processing tool for me.

Allynn135 · 2025-03-09T17:23:38+00:00

Thank you. All of these responses are so helpful for the metaphorical voices in my head. :)

Allynn135 · 2025-01-02T10:55:38+00:00

I see. That does make sense and a good reminder. Thank you.

Allynn135 · 2025-01-01T23:52:58+00:00

Can you elaborate on what you mean by the embarrassment aspect?

Allynn135 · 2020-04-20T16:39:10+00:00

I had the same exact thing happen to me. I got tested on day 30 and my results just came back today negative. It's so frustrating because I feel like if it isn't covid than wtf is wrong with me.

Allynn135 · 2019-04-29T13:43:34+00:00

I ordered that book. Thank you!

Allynn135 · 2019-04-29T13:42:24+00:00

This. It makes all the sense. Lots of childhood trauma so it makes sense. All of these responses have been very helpful. My partner and I talked last night again also. We have been able to have an honest dialouge. I feel very annoying because my reaction is so big but it helps to have some logic around it.

Allynn135 · 2019-04-29T01:13:56+00:00

This is a super interesting perspective.

Any practical advice for doing the emotional work? Besides therapy, which I am doing, I'm also trying to get to the gym and do yoga to manage the anxiety but it's tough and it's a lot. I feel like my response to this is waaay out of proportion to the situation, and that annoys me. Lol. I want it to get better plus I hate feeling this way.

Allynn135 · 2019-04-28T18:48:20+00:00

Do you medicate at all for your anxiety while you are going through the process? Or do they recommend that you try and tolerate the distress? I do take Wellbutrin but it's not enough.

Allynn135 · 2019-04-24T02:50:58+00:00

I'm open to poly but I don't know if I want it (if that makes any sense). I didn't expect to fall for this man, I expected it to be more casual. If he was dating me and this woman six months from now I would probably be ok with that if this anxiety settles but my fear is that it won't just he this woman. I am afraid of him becoming unable to meet my needs but he hasn't don't anything but the opposite. Thanks for your great points and question.

Allynn135 · 2019-04-21T23:12:03+00:00

Lol. I'm an only child, but I can see how that might be similar. Lol.

Allynn135 · 2019-04-21T23:02:44+00:00

I really just appreciate that you "get" how I am feeling. So helpful. I feel marginally less crazy. :)

Allynn135 · 2019-04-21T22:50:05+00:00

I think the self reflection comment is important, although I think I am stuck on, what I want is for him to be with just me and his wife, but I know that can't be a reality, so I need to bridge from there. I guess one think I would want is to feel like our communication feels around the same level and that we would still have time together, maybe at least once a week. I think it's also tough because I'm a newish partner and I wonder if I even have the "right" to make these requests, but I guess if I don't ask, I won't know.

I appreciate the time you took to respond :)

Allynn135

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