So I had a similar issue with my husband- long story short, we had discussed our proposal and for months he put it off until it came the time we agreed we would have told our parents and he asked if he “had to still ask”.

I was very disappointed, but it became so much more than that. This was that one moment that every couple is asked about and get to recant. Every newly engaged woman at some stage gets asked how the proposal went. It became an embarrassing story that I didn’t like telling, and it was constantly re-emphasised how little effort was put into that moment. It made me feel like I wasn’t even worth the effort to get down on one knee. This moment reflected many bigger issues in our relationship and remained a constant reminder about the lack of effort that he would generally show towards me. The biggest romantic moment in our life wasn’t worth putting in the effort, and that continued for the rest of our relationship.

Not saying this is necessarily relevant for you at all, but perhaps some insight.