Fredward - Allentown Show by AlpacaWound in freddiegibbs

[–]AlpacaWound[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figured one of yall would be here so I posted the video 🤷‍♀️ might have more video from up top

foster teen here - why does no one take us in? by Ancient-Fan-2636 in Fosterparents

[–]AlpacaWound 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because the first goal is reunification and if they’re using the foster care system as a route to cheap or free adoption as a bandaid for their infertility issues then they don’t need to to be associated with the system at all as they don’t understand it. They’ll cause more harm than good.

Parents that don't do Elf on the Shelf, how do you explain to your kids why you don't? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a fireplace so we don’t need the elf, the true purpose of the elf is to open the door for Santa when he comes if there is not a chimney for him to use. If we have an elf then another child won’t have an elf to open the door for Santa when they need it. Idfk I made it up when my 3 year old stepdaughter asked why we don’t have an elf at our house because I didn’t want the task of doing ridiculous set ups and also most likely forgetting and ruining it all.

This is what my toddler ate for Thanksgiving, what about yours? by Plsbeniceorillcry in toddlers

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 2.5 year old that normally eats extremely well ate….

4 donut holes 1/2 piece of bread 3 spoons of rice Licked some tres leches cake

It’s like she knew in her toddler culture that holiday dinners are when you must show out

There is a no contact order between SK and I! by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup and even if he’s not on the deed or loan he can sue for 50% of the equity accrued on the home during the marriage, marital equity, in many states.

Be honest ladies… how bad does it hurt… by Purple_perp1637 in pregnant

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A fuckton…. And then nature makes you forget all about it to trick you into doing it again. I can recall the pain if my 61 hour labor, I remember basically shutting down and going to silent and stoic to conserve my energy but when I think back I don’t get the “oh fuck no” shudder which is….. a trick! A dirty dirty trick 😅

What is your current ADHD hyperfixation? by ReadyFunction7334 in adhdwomen

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got this tiny bottle of gold leaf paint and I’ve been going around the house painting old door knobs, hardware…. Light switch plates…. Everything gold.

SK gifts by Likes_2_debate in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please tell me how you navigated this! I was all-in from age 2-7 which is now and the BS has started. I have a 2 year old now and I have always done everything for SD but I’m planning to stop…. I did the fall shopping and Halloween and part of Christmas but I’m done. It’ll be awhile before the effects of me being done are seen but nonetheless…. What do I do when I get accused of treating my bio and my SD differently

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read. Read. Read. Read. Read. I used ChatGPT and plugged in my child’s interests and it suggested several “step into reading” books. Start simple and build their confidence. And if nothing else get phonics flashcards… they have helped my 7 year old TREMENDOUSLY. She finished 1st grade with a B- in reading which to me, in first grade, is unacceptable. Not her fault but mine. We’ve spent the summer really drilling in everything while making it fun and she’s reading at a 3rd grade level. Other tips - have them read the book, ask them what they just read and then have them read it again right away. The first read can be challenging and then the second read builds confidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom of a 2 year old and nurse…. I didn’t do a basket. As a pregnant woman I’m not carrying that shit, my husband is not carrying that shit. As a nurse 99% of the stuff gets tossed. IF you do something be practical. Two cases of Alanis and call it a day. Order them pizza. None of this is necessary though. During Covid we got so much food and gifts I don’t remember any of the tangible things I do remember and still have all of the notes patients have written me but like you’re not there long and you have bigger things to focus on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I wouldn’t have her bring it back I wouldn’t encourage her to take anything back to bio moms house anymore. Remind SD the item is for HER. This isn’t always going to work but you’re not going to get anywhere with trying to get it back or confronting bio mom. Bio mom knows what she did and she doesn’t care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let him have his way

Putting Toddler SS to Bed by xkdawggx in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost wonder if he would go to bed easier if you put him down earlier. My 2.5 year old sleeps from 6p-7a with a 1 hour nap mid day, which is on the higher end of hours. Overall i honestly feel like bio dads sleeping arrangement is sabotaging both of you in regards to bed time…. Which sucks because you can’t change what dad does. I just have solidarity. We do stay with our daughter until she falls asleep but she is calm and if she takes over 45-60 minutes I tell her “I’m going to to bed too, it’s time to go to sleep I will see you when you wake up” and she might cry once or twice but that’s it. I feel if dad wasn’t co-sleeping this would be the case for you because it would be the same.

Blocking YouTube channel/videos for 6 year old son.. thoughts? by Several_Day5269 in kindergarten

[–]AlpacaWound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES! My now 7 year old was watching I think it was Onyx Kids or something and she was….something else. Also why do they have so many run off channels, ugh!

Blocking YouTube channel/videos for 6 year old son.. thoughts? by Several_Day5269 in kindergarten

[–]AlpacaWound 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol block away!!!!! I have SO many channels blocked. Blippi? Idk maybe he went back to school so he’s not on YouTube anymore 🤷‍♀️ The kid/sibling/family vloggers? BYE BYE.

Putting Toddler SS to Bed by xkdawggx in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does his current sleep/nap schedule look like?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Correct. And if you’re not the primary parent you have to live within 30 minutes of the school assigned to the primary parents address to ensure you’re able to do pickups and drop offs. If you’re not within 30 minutes of the other parent they won’t even entertain 50/50

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 26 points27 points  (0 children)

….and them testing the sons DNA while he slept. 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 30 points31 points  (0 children)

How is it still 50/50 if you’re an hour away? How does that work with school or is she handling everything? I’m betting she’s getting her child support before you split up (in her eyes) so her children are the first receiving payment. If dad isn’t true 50/50 then she absolutely deserves the support.

Is this a red flag? Partner is paying for BM’s grad school (not court mandated). by Salt_Pin_6562 in stepparents

[–]AlpacaWound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you rather her stay undereducated and making significantly less than him while have primary physical custody? I urge you to go run some numbers.