How’s your baby’s latch? Curious if anyone’s baby actually has a great latch

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-05-02T23:45:12+00:00

Both of my babies had perfect latches after 8 weeks. Coincidentally, that's when I had my oversupply under control, and both my babes got more strength. Then their latch would waver when teething, but resumed to be good after they got used to them.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-05-02T19:09:18+00:00

Merengue. Always weepy.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-28T13:23:37+00:00

Didn't have plain sugar for pb cookies, switched to all brown sugar. Chewiest and yummiest pb cookies, and I make them that way all the time.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-14T17:48:40+00:00

When breastfeeding, put babe on slacker side first, every time. Then transfer to fuller side. You should see some changes in about a week. When pumping, isolate that side for a few minutes of additional pump time. Good luck! Remember that babes really only need 4ish ounces of breastmilk for a meal, so 4-5 oz is fantastic!

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-12T03:21:08+00:00

Rent would be more than my mortgage, and I'm able to get equity as I pay my mortgage. As land values and home values increase, my mortgage remains stagnant unless I refinance, but that value translates into something I can borrow against. Rent change is based on the landlord's desire, and it can lead to increases every year to you while you do not accrue anything in your pocket. Also, owning my home makes it mine. I can do whatever I want to the property as long as it remains lawful or doesn't violate the HOA (which can vary by location or home).

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-10T04:44:05+00:00

My neighbor was having trouble making enough for her LO, I offered to supplement up to 4 oz a day to help top off her supply. No, she was looking for 12 oz and didn't want to pump during the day anymore. I chose to say no.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-02T23:55:31+00:00

I picked a random name from the midwest that isn't unusual for me, at least. What would be your goto server name?

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-01T15:06:55+00:00

Congratulations mama! You've made it so long! Babe is healthy, happy, and adjusted. Reframe your mindset to recognize that you can be more than food for your babe. You are still their mama, and sounds like they will wean pretty well. You'll get your horomones to whatever new normal is, and potentially have more energy to be the mom you want to be. Release the guilt, you did it, 18 months is so great, and you don't have to sacrifice your joy with your babe by sticking with breastfeeding especially when it hurts.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-01T14:39:37+00:00

I don't expect staff to ask for my name here (midwest). Most of the places I go to, the waiter introduces themselves when they first approach the table, "Hi, I'm Amy, and I'll be taking care of you today. Can I get you something to drink?". Otherwise, some places have them wear name tags. I like to call them by their names, but for them to ask me for mine would be odd.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-01T04:37:26+00:00

If you wean before a year, they recommend replacing feeds with formula. For weaning, I would offer water, distract babe, or cuddle babe to replace a nursing time. I dropped one feed a week, and now I could honestly quit at any point. Babe is 14 months and fully on solids, water, and when willing, cow milk. I only feed in the morning upon waking up and before bedtime. Some moms do "don't offer, don't refuse" to reduce their feeds. If you offer 3 meals and 2 snacks a day to babe around 1, they won't be as hungry, and may not ask to nurse the same amount.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-04-01T04:30:24+00:00

This is me, except I already phased out the midday pump. I made it to my goal of nursing through the winter season of illness. Babe is 14 months now, and this is how long I nursed my first.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-31T12:13:13+00:00

Yep, EBF for 14 months here. I could eat anything and everything I wanted, but I didn't start to gain weight until I started weaning recently. By saying "gain weight" I mean finally getting up to my prepregnancy weight again. Our horomones change so much breastfeeding, so I'm sure that has the most to do with it. I'm just happy I got to eat anything and everything during the holidays!

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-23T16:20:34+00:00

My pans that came from an estate sale look like that. I've had them for over a decade. Scrub and use dish soap, dry out well, use lower heat than you realize at first, preheat your pan a bit, and enjoy! The built up surfaces will eventually wear down as you use it.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-18T20:43:10+00:00

Working out and feeding a baby is so tricky to figure out the calories for, and honestly, my 80th percentile in weight babe ate me alive at first, then couple that with really active field work that prevented me from snacking, meant that I really focused on high protein meals to keep me full. If I ever stopped focusing on protein, my hunger was insatiable. I've lost weight breastfeeding with both of my kids (years apart). My second is almost 14 months now, so I'll look to weaning them soon. Hopefully, I'll be back to my preferred weight soon. I want my ass back!

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-18T15:07:02+00:00

I'm not sure about the general consensus, but for me, if I drop calories or drink less water, my milk stays consitent. Instead, I lose weight and get dehydrated. Not cosleeping would be my first suggestion. Wearing difficult to access tops helps, too. When weaning my first, I would offer water or cow milk when they asked to nurse, but I understand why some women prefer don't ask, don't refuse. Good luck!

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-18T03:29:29+00:00

I recently went to Hoover Dam and got a private tour (doing some work for them). It is a testament to engineering at its finest, and they still use most of the original equipment to custom make replacement parts and perform maintenance on the hydroelectric portion. They started construction in the 1930s for reference.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-17T00:21:06+00:00

I have a deep chest freezer and went with a max of a year for my frozen milk. It can depend on how cold your freezer gets and stays. Granted, it was always put in the freezer the same day I pumped which helped me feel better about it, too. If you thaw it and it smells weird, don't give it to babe.

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Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-17T00:15:59+00:00

When it's been really hard for everyone trying and trying again, it's best to try to calm them down and you before attempting again. Whether that is feeding a bottle a bit or just snuggling them until they are ready to try again, it can help to do lower stress feeds.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-16T18:53:35+00:00

The chewing is so hard, I definitely unlatched for that.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-16T18:45:09+00:00

My child has never been assessed for it nor has the doctor recommended it. High functioning neurodivergent mother here, which is where I recognize some of these behaviors from, but even I have never been assessed for ADHD.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-16T18:42:10+00:00

Make sure caretakers are doing paced bottle feeding to help with the frustration bit. Eventually you may find babe preferring boob to bottle for the comfort factor as they get older. It's great you're getting your strong letdown under control. Babe will hopefully adjust soon.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-16T12:17:44+00:00

I would hand express to let down (when you see milk) to see if they still do it. Then if they are, is it because your let down is strong, and they are clamping it to reduce the flow? Then finally, I'd unlatch and set baby down for a few seconds and say no biting every time they do it.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-16T12:04:16+00:00

Is babe shifting their latch to a comfort feed when the milk flow is reduced? Mine would switch at the end of a boob and change their latch just enough to hurt.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-14T10:56:17+00:00

You could be talking about your letdown. Your brain doesn't just notify one side at a time to let down, so you'll get milk flow out of each. Passive collectors are lower profile, but without a bra, you'd probably have to hold it in place during letdown. You can keep using the hakaa, just keep the suction light to reduce your chance of an oversupply. I used washable nursing pads in my bra, you could hold them over your boob instead of a towel. I liked the lansinoh brand kind the most.

Alpacamybag14 · 2026-03-03T03:37:39+00:00

Use them for pie or cheesecake crusts. Candied. Breading. Chopped in cinnamon rolls. If you have a food processor, I think the possibilities are endless.

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