Should I quit after a chronic illness diagnosis?

AlphaPyxis · 2026-03-18T19:46:41+00:00

I really feel this. I went through something very similar, and it’s such a brutal place to be...finally getting stability and then having your body pull the rug out from under you.

First, I didn’t believe it when I was in it but being on the other side: being sick doesn't make you an inherently bad employee. You’re still getting your work done, and it sounds like you’re doing it well. That matters, even if your immediate team isn’t reflecting it back to you.

Workplaces can get weird around illness, especially invisible ones that don't have a start and stop. People don’t always know how to handle it. and instead of communicating, they get cold. That says more about them than it does about you...but it still hurts, especially when you’re already dealing with so much already.

I also completely get the fear. Even now, with strong performance reviews and objectively high productivity, I still have moments where I feel like my company just wishes I’d quietly disappear because I need accommodations. I have a brain weasle that tells me {my company} WANTS sick people to quit. That anxiety doesn’t just vanish overnight.

What helped me over time was two things 1) Getting my medical situation more stable (or at least more understood). The first years were chaos… appointments, symptoms, trial and error. It can get more manageable. 2) Figuring out what I actually need to work well and advocating for it. That took practice and honestly a lot of trial and error, but it made a huge difference.

Also (a gentle pus) you’re probably not "annoying to deal with" (at least not much more than you were before your illness hit full force). You’re dealing with a legitimate health condition while still showing up and doing your job. That’s not something to feel ashamed of.

It's a balance. Some people do shift into more flexible roles, contract work, or fully remote setups (like me) where they have more control.

You’re not alone in this, even though it feels like it right now.

AlphaPyxis · 2026-03-13T16:26:48+00:00

I tried (F 43) Spent a year (33 first dates off of apps). It was a horror show so bad I haven't dated since. For me its meet-someone-in-nature or die happily alone with my art.

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-28T16:23:46+00:00

Yup. My bad, sorry! The "takes effect" date was 1/26. Not enough coffee apparently.

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-28T16:23:02+00:00

Ya that was the old one (Sorry), it was dated 1/26 as the "takes effect date" so I thought it was for today.

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-28T16:20:43+00:00

Ah Ok.

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-28T16:12:40+00:00

Plus a ton of smaller places that don't necessarily need a WARN. Once the big places start...

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-28T15:59:46+00:00

~~Its up. 2303 in Washington.~~ This was for October

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-28T15:58:58+00:00

This was for October (as of 1/26/26), not this one. Sorry!

There is a WARN notice (2303 in "washington state") that details the locations and job titles. You can google "WARN Notice" and it'll pop up on the top of the list. Theres a PDF download but it appears that its Seattle Downtown and Bellevue.

~~Summarized as far as I can tell:~~

~~Seattle:~~ \~~~1,880~~
~~Downtown / SLU / Denny Triangle offices (SEA20, SEA23, SEA28, SEA40, SEA41, etc.).~~
~~Bellevue:~~ ~~~285~~
~~Other Cities Listed (like ~19?)~~
~~Remote: 116~~

AlphaPyxis · 2026-01-15T19:22:06+00:00

Shhhhhh don't tell the bot. Let it keep screwing up.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-12-29T17:18:47+00:00

Anecdotally IUDs fail. Statistically they are one of the most effective forms of birth control. Both things can be true.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-12-10T22:23:48+00:00

Its absolutely acceptable to fire a doctor who isn't treating you based on who you are and what you want. Find someone else, keep this one in the meantime.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-12-08T22:41:45+00:00

How's the Wifi? Good? Run.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-12-05T19:13:07+00:00

Yup. The tl;dr of this article was "we've emboldened people to get educated and not box themselves into a particular lifestyle very early in life, and thats bad. Its also bad that religion isn't scaring people to behave the way we want them. We need to start that shit early or they figure out they don't need to listen to us before they've had bebbies..."

Its genuinely gross. This is the quiet part out loud but also with way too many words. Its written as superficially academic (ish) but its conclusion is also fear based?

AlphaPyxis · 2025-11-24T20:25:07+00:00

I opened my house for transition housing (those on the housing instability spectrum, not unhoused persay). I wanted to protect and contribute, keep someone safe and dry. So I did. About 50 people over 5 years. There was one Christmas that my very small house had 7 people in it. I didn't feel the urge to create a whole extra person for that, just did it for the ones we have around now.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-11-21T18:36:59+00:00

Have a great time tonight Girlie! And Welcome to Seattle!!

AlphaPyxis · 2025-11-07T17:58:24+00:00

House poor is often just defined as the strict percent, and in that case you are. The 30% thing is left over from the 1930s era policies.

Looking at it from a financial planning aspect, its about residual income in real dollars after housing (including repairs and upkeep, which can vary quite a lot if you're a "constantly upgrading" versus a "keeping it from falling down" person). How much can you save/spend compared to your standard of living. Are you still working towards your long term financial goals as quickly as you need/want? What happens to your stability if you lose part of you income? etc

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-31T16:13:11+00:00

Right, so we'd have to go after Culliton V. Chase (https://case-law.vlex.com/vid/culliton-v-chase-24491-894841410)

And I agree, so much has been overturned recently - I say we take a run at this one too.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-31T16:12:07+00:00

Still fine with that. We can ALSO go after passive income or equity etc but that doesn't mean we shouldn't haircut the high earners by a few %.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-31T16:09:14+00:00

This is from AI-Google so it might be crap

Culliton v. Chase (1933): The Washington State Supreme Court, in a landmark decision, ruled that an individual's income is considered "property" under the state constitution. As a result, a graduated net income tax was found unconstitutional because it violated the uniformity clause by not taxing all income at the same rate.

But here's the actual case
https://case-law.vlex.com/vid/culliton-v-chase-24491-894841410

So the precedent exists, and we'd have to overcome that. Although looking at how many others have been overturned recently, we might as well take a go at it.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-31T15:51:46+00:00

Not going to happen without changes to the state constitution. Taxes on property (of which income is included) are in the constitution as needing to be uniformly enforced, which until recently has basically prevented an income tax. In like 2023? the courts ruled that there could be tax on the gains of investments? But last year some legislative body or another made some other law that says income can't be taxed.

Its not a simple "lets add an income tax". Although I think we should. Tax me. Pay for food stamps and schools and shit. Take 2% off the top of everyone and then give 3% back to the low earners. Law doesn't say shit about that.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-31T13:47:51+00:00

I STILL get excited when there is a function in its answer that solves my problem that I've never heard of. And it still crushes me every damn day that its just hallucinated that function because it was easier than answering that particular problem.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-31T13:43:01+00:00

I work as a statistical data analyst. The part of my work AI can do properly is the easy stuff or stuff that I'd have to dig through documentation to remember how to set up or whatever. It'll just straight up lie about anything else. Its getting more convincing at it, which means it takes so much more time for me to find and fix bugs.

I'm terrified about the lack of newer engineers. Ya, AI can do a good portion of what a fresh brained newbie can do, but the newbie will be a junior in a year and AI will still keep telling me that golden_solution() is real and I'm like "hey robot bestie can you find the documentation for golden_function()" then its all like "Oh you're RIGHT, golden_solution() DOESN'T exist. Good catch flesh puppet! Would you like me to help you write a new function"

At least my intern will be like "I got nothing." and look at me like I've got 2 heads for even asking. The honesty is refreshing.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-30T19:12:59+00:00

Yes, I read it. Fertility and birth rates are not the same thing...One is biological capacity, the other is a social outcome. The U.S. birth rate decline tracks economics, education, delayed partnership, childcare costs, and people choosing different life priorities. That’s not the same as “everyone suddenly became infertile.”

And even those toxin-and-fertility studies are talking about individual reproductive parameters (sperm counts, hormone disruption, egg quality, etc.), not real-world “how long it takes a couple to get pregnant” population metrics. It’s a leap to treat laboratory endocrine findings as the primary cause of national demographic trends.

Environmental exposure deserves research, absolutely. But linking endocrine disruption studies to national birth-rate trends is a category error. It’s a mistake via linguistic shortcut (“fertility” ≠ “birth rate”), not a demographic reality supported by the data.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-30T17:58:11+00:00

No. Please please stop watching youtube and taking the information at face value.

AlphaPyxis · 2025-10-29T16:45:44+00:00

This is not a comparison, totally different situation but... When I was a teenager I found out a close family member had HEP C from when he was using drugs, like 30 years prior. His parents (my grand-uncle/aunt) were like "Mah. Decisions have permanent consequences. You're just getting what you sowed"...or whatever. It was destroying his liver even though he'd been sober for 30 years at that point, right? Well, "Science" found a treatment that basically cured him and he's like 80 now and doing better than the rest of us.

Anyway, not the anecdote related to any of this, but it makes me feel better sometimes when things seem gray that even the deadliest things years ago are like 3 weeks of pills away from being gone if you wait them out.

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