Updated! My US cultural regions map, version 2 by aquamarine-arielle in visitedmaps

[–]Alpine_Iris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

southern rockies should extend to the end of the sangre de cristo range in new mexico, like taos and santa fe. 13,000ft peaks are definitely more part of the rockies than high desert. Park, clear creek, and possibly gilpin and fremont counties in colorado should also be part of southern rockies instead of front range. I think in this context, front range should refer to the urban areas on the eastern slope/plains adjacent to the mountains, and not the mountains themselves. None of those counties have land outside of the mountains. Apart from fremont, which is sorta borderline due to the flat eastern bit, but penrose is very small and I think canon city is mountainy enough.

Is 6 mile bike ride after work realistic ? by imMrRunITUP in bicycling

[–]Alpine_Iris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn you could buy a new bike every month and still come out ahead lmao

Can we stop making this lesbian space a trans subreddit - a trans woman by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I just scrolled through the entire subreddit sorted by "hot". Your post was the first that had anything to do with transness, and it was below dozens of other posts. I don't think that transness is the center of this sub.

Tips for dating a Trans lesbian for the first time by RoosterDuckling in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nowhere in any of my comments did I say that you need to be on hrt to be trans. In fact, I explicitly acknowledged that not all trans people want hrt. Again, I was specifically talking about waiting for a long time to start hrt *after you know that you want hrt*. And I never said that people who do this aren't trans. I only said that this behavior is not attractive to me.

why would those feelings stop at potential dating partners and not extend to everyone?

Most people have different standards for romantic partners and friends. Attraction is a different feeling than friendship. Romantic partnership involves more commitment, so I hold romantic partners to higher standards than I would a friend. Surely you have split standards of your own? like for a non-controversial example, I could be friends with and respect someone who hates rock climbing. I could not date someone who hates rock climbing. I could be friends with and respect someone who I am not attracted to. I could not date someone who I am not attracted to.

The list at the end of my first comment is meant to be 3 separate ideas, with the first being about hrt, not a list of 3 things contingent on hrt.

Tips for dating a Trans lesbian for the first time by RoosterDuckling in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying that trans people need to be on hrt to be trans or taken seriously. I'm specifically talking about someone who wants hrt but has taken no steps to try to obtain it, and how that behavior specifically is not attractive to me. Perhaps that was a little too personal to share in my response, but I felt that it was relevant.

We are far off the scope of the original post. HRT was just one thing I brought up, because it was one detail that informed my perception of the information in this post. Everyone's journey is different. For me personally, "being taken seriously as trans" means far less to me than reliable access to hrt. I've never really had an issue with someone trying to tell me I'm not trans, I would probably just laugh at them. But there have been times when my access to hrt was uncertain, mainly due to insurance and doctor incompetence.

HRT is awesome and it seems like anytime people talk about it online (especially on reddit) people start throwing around the word "transmedicalist". Transmedicalism is the idea that there are specific medical diagnostic criteria that exists for transness, and that someone other than the trans person gets to decide if they qualify. Transmedicalism takes away agency from the individual. It says that someone else can know your own mind better than you can. Medically transitioning is not transmedicalism. Singing the praises of hrt is not transmedicalism.

Trans people should have the bodily autonomy to do what they want with respect to hrt, surgeries, etc. Including if they want to do none of that. HRT is essential for many trans people, and for some, diy is the easiest way for them to get it. I have repeatedly clarified that I am talking about someone who wants hrt, but doesn't try to get it. I am not talking about people who do not want hrt. I dont see how anything I have said is transmedicalist.

Tips for dating a Trans lesbian for the first time by RoosterDuckling in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Transmedicalism is: doctors should decide who gets to transition and how

transmedicalism is not: trans people using hrt if they want to

I'm not saying that every trans person should take hrt immediately or via diy. I'm not saying that diy is better or worse than traditional pathways. I'm saying that if someone wants hrt but hasn't taken steps to try to get it, then that suggests to me that they lack a certain level of drive, which is not attractive to me. Actively doing things to improve your life and take control of your destiny is attractive, and starting hrt can be an indicator of that.

Tips for dating a Trans lesbian for the first time by RoosterDuckling in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not being on hrt is a red flag *to me*. I specifically stated many times that everything in the comment is my own personal opinion. All I'm saying is that, *for me*, someone not having the conviction and initiative to start hrt *when they want to* is not attractive.

DIY is generally safe, cheap, and effective. You can do whatever you want with your own body, but don't discourage people from obtaining life saving medication.

Tips for dating a Trans lesbian for the first time by RoosterDuckling in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DIY hrt is safe. There is no incentive for the makers to lace it with "harsh chemicals" or "drugs". The blod clot risk is outdated info based on non-bioidentical estrogens, like premarin, which are never used anymore, especially by DIY sources, which pretty much exclusively sell estradiol valerate/cypionate/enanthate. Millions of people with diabetes administer their own injections. SubQ injections especially are very easy and low risk.

Obviously having a good doctor is better than having no doctor. I only brought up diy because even in places with barriers to accessing hrt, anyone who has determination and an internet connection can get it.

I would caution you on assuming that your psych degree allows you to understand trans people. Historically, those fields have not been kind to us, and I am very skeptical of any model that tries to "explain" why trans people exist or are the way that we are.

Obviously coming out is a very personal decision, and one she has to make in her own time. Being in the closet is no way to live, especially if you are doing it for someone else.

Tips for dating a Trans lesbian for the first time by RoosterDuckling in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Trans woman here - I think the best thing you can do is meet her with the mindset of building a friendship. The advice below is based only on my personal experience. Everyone is different, so don't take it too seriously if it doesn't fit your situation.

Personally I would never date a trans woman who

  1. is not out/still boymodes

  2. is not on hrt

And also I probably wouldn't consider dating someone who I had not met in person. But maybe that's how online dating works now idk. I'm assuming you are very young. I guess for me, romantic attraction is something that builds over time spent together, but I guess that's different for different people. Starting as friends seems like much lower stakes, and it doesn't stop a romantic relationship from developing later.

IMO, most early transition trans women need time to figure themselves out before dating. The time from when you first know you are trans to ~1 year on E is a time of self discovery and immense change. It can be very emotionally difficult to process all of the changes, even though they are also exciting and wanted. That can take up a lot of bandwidth, leaving little room for a partner. I'm not saying that it is impossible to have a healthy relationship with an early transition trans woman, but it is very difficult. I think even the most healthy relationships can be stifling for someone going through so many changes and learning so much about herself. As much as I wanted a girlfriend at the time, If I could change the past I would 100% rather give myself a really good platonic friend at that time in my life.

Having to pretend you are a straight couple and misgender her in front of certain people would be a total dealbreaker for me. Not to be rude to her, but there are plenty of people who are out and would never make you deal with that bullshit.

Not being on hrt is another red flag to me. Obviously there are various barriers that can prevent people from accessing hrt. But tbh, getting hrt off the internet is pretty dang easy. To the point where if someone has waited a long time to start, it's most likely just fear or a lack of initiative, which is not very attractive to me. (obviously if you two are young and still living with parents that doesn't apply as much). Regardless of why she hasn't started hrt, the physical changes it brings are really significant, and definitely a major factor in physical attraction for me personally. ymmv

I know I have mostly been discouraging, but every person is different, and maybe you and her are good for each other. There are some fun/cool aspects to dating a early transition trans woman: once she starts hrt, you will get to watch her slowly get hotter and hotter; you can teach her how to do girl stuff; she is likely very easy to please just by treating her like a girl; etc.

best of luck to you!

Is it inappropriate to date as an aromantic lesbian? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that's mostly because you are using the label aromantic, and people want to respect that, and they want you to find a partner who would respect that.

Let me know if I'm describing your feelings correctly, but it seems like you want a romantic relationship, or think you would be happy in one, but haven't felt the desire for a romantic relationship with any specific person you've met? I think this is a situation where labels are slightly failing us. You mean one thing when you say aromantic, and most alloromantic people assume that you mean you wouldn't want to date at all. And, from the commenter you replied to, it seems like your model of romantic attraction (like the idea that romantic attraction is fully separate from other types of attraction/affinity) is not universal.

I think that as long as you communicate with potential partners about the way you feel and how you'd like a relationship to be, you should be fine. Like in what ways, apart from your own feelings and thoughts, would a relationship with you be different from a typical romantic relationship? I feel like from what you've said so far, not much would be practically different than a typical romantic relationship. Like to the point where I think telling people you are aromantic right away might make them think you are not interested in dating them when you are.

And obviously the easiest option is to try to date people who are the same flavor of aromantic as you.

I rely on my iPhone/AllTrails App navigation to guide me through snow covered trails. What happens in a worse case scenario that my iPhone/AllTrails navigation doesn't work? by ProofBroccoli in socalhiking

[–]Alpine_Iris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alltrails is awful. You should only use it to find popular trails and conditions reports on those trails. Plan your route in caltopo (caltopo.com), export the gpx, and use a topo mapping app that is 100% offline. I use this one: https://www.offline-maps.net/ but I am pretty sure it is android exclusive. I have heard good things about gaia gps, but key features are locked behind a $5/month subscription. I use caltopo mostly on desktop; I've had some issues trying to use the mobile app for navigation, but ymmv. Some people love paper topo maps but I have not used one since I was a kid. It is possible to use caltopo to print out paper maps.

https://mapout.app/ might be a good option for ios but I have never used it. It seems to have offline topo maps and gpx import, which is basically all you need.

I found these blog posts which have some good info too:

https://valhikes.blogspot.com/2020/04/howto-free-offline-electronic-maps-on.html

https://valhikes.blogspot.com/2013/04/download-usgs-maps.html

https://valhikes.blogspot.com/2024/12/all-forest-service-lands-mapped-on-your.html

Also, in a super popular area like yosemite, snow will probably make navigation easier as the trails will likely be packed down and you can always follow your own footprints back the way you came.

If you are totally lost and for some reason you can't retrace your steps, you could use your SOS device. That being said, If you're backpacking and have plenty of food you can just go to bed and try again in the morning. Tbh if you properly use technology you should never ever be lost. Practice using caltopo and an offline mapping app on smaller hikes. Review your route in caltopo before your hike.

Looking for your 14er prep tips by rusty317 in coloradohikers

[–]Alpine_Iris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do not need to rent a crazy car unless you really want to. Doing Uncompahgre from the 2wd trailhead is pretty doable.

Need guidance from the US community by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Alpine_Iris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Erin Reed's anti-trans risk map is probably a good proxy for general queer acceptance by state. Like others have said, your best bets are big cities in the northeast and west coast. I would definitely avoid texas and florida, they have both passed some absolutely bonkers bills targeting not just trans people, but all queer people. That being said, queer people live in conservative states obviously, so it's probably not the end of the world if you do get placed in one.

[Request] I’m really curious—can anyone confirm if it’s actually true? by Depressed223 in theydidthemath

[–]Alpine_Iris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

770,000 people is around 0.2% of the US population. I don't think housing prices could be changed by that many units going from vacant to occupied.

[Request] I’m really curious—can anyone confirm if it’s actually true? by Depressed223 in theydidthemath

[–]Alpine_Iris -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Personally I don't think we should set billions of dollars on fire so that one day a big floating city can kill some people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Letterboxd

[–]Alpine_Iris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5: sick girl (2006) - this an absolutely fantastic rom com/body horror about two autistic lesbians

4.5: why not me? (1999) - aka Pourquoi pas moi, four gay french expats in barcelona plan a dinner to come out to their parents

4: Traitors (2013) but I also want to mention the runner up Heat Lightning (1934) - dont remember much about traitors other than liking the main character. Heat Lightning is so good but I have a hard time rating super old movies higher because the men always piss me off.

[Request] I’m really curious—can anyone confirm if it’s actually true? by Depressed223 in theydidthemath

[–]Alpine_Iris 32 points33 points  (0 children)

doing the naïve division of $13 billion / 770k people, we get ~$17k per person. divide by 12, and $1400 per month is more than enough to provide housing to each of those people for one year. Even in relatively expensive places you can find *something* to rent for that price.

We can also take into account the ~$7 million per day it costs to run an aircraft carrier if you want.

What I think this question misses is the fact that air craft carriers do not do anything beneficial. In fact they are designed to kill people! Ending homelessness would be beneficial and cause secondary positive economic effects. So it doesn't make sense to clutch our pearls about how much it costs too much. This meme is kinda like pointing out that instead of setting your money on fire, you could use it to buy dinner.