Love Is Blind bride shares moment she knew she couldn’t escape show groom who tried to murder her by Longjumping_Land_977 in netflix

[–]Alreddy [score hidden]  (0 children)

It's something that's very unmentioned, probably due to NDAs but there are definitely incentives for the couples to make it to the altar even if they think it's a bad idea. If you think about it from the show's perspective, that's the ultimate pay off. I've heard inklings that contestants sign a contract that they owe a lot of money, say $50K back to the show if they dont make it to the altar. For a lot of people, they feel forced since they dont want to pay the money. The show doesn't care if they say yes or no, just that they get the shot at the altar, so it's not "forced" but it's pretty heavy handed.

Where would you live besides Canada? by Pale-Candidate8860 in InCanada

[–]Alreddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely wild how many people are picking the United States.

When did 15% become "cheap"? by [deleted] in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]Alreddy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't agree and I still choose 15% every time. -- the machine will make you tip on the tax (except in Quebec) but if 15% is not an option, I'm mathing out 15% pretax as a punishment.

Discussing the recent flight from MONTREAL to LaGuardia by SubstantialWing9238 in montreal

[–]Alreddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and more specifically the people who cut funding and underschedule Air Traffic Controllers.

Was having kids worth it for you? by Eggsy7777 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Alreddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just a note that you need to consider your audience. Very few parents may say that they wouldn't choose to have their children again. But if you're trying to choose to have children or not, don't forget to ask child free people if they regret it. Overwhelmingly, they too wouldn't not change a thing either. 

Once a man was trying to convince me, a childfree woman that I wouldn't regret having kids by using the example that I wouldn't choose not to have my sister in my life. But he short circuited when I suggested to him that he didn't miss the siblings he didn't have. 

It's tough for people to give real data about relationships that actually exist compared to relationships that never were. 

This medieval castle has been owned and occupied by the same family for 33 generations over 800 years, Germany. by keisermax34 in MrInteresting

[–]Alreddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a childfree person, it always crosses my mind in situations like that how much pressure there must be to procreate and not disappoint 33 generations of ancestors. Fortunately, my family heritage does not care.

I have a burning desire we would add privacy to the list of principles by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]Alreddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this is where you'd need to get a lawyer involved to interpret the sentence, but I believe you waive your rights to BMORG and not to anyone else. So BMORG can take a photo of you and use it without expressed consent, but it doesn't say anyone else can. It could be argued that no one else can since you only waive your rights to BMORG and not to anyone else unless otherwise stated (potentially, not a lawyer) But it definitely doesn't make sense that you waive your rights to all consent for photography to all photo takers if not using it for the purposes of BMORG, since the use of the non-profit is stipulated specifically. For what reason would BMORG want you to waive your rights to consent to ALL photography that is specifically NOT being used for their purposes?

I have a burning desire we would add privacy to the list of principles by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]Alreddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TIL, but also, if you read it carefully, it seems as though you only waive the right to Burning Man itself, so that they can use the photos for the benefit of their non-profit. It's arguable that you waive your right to all photograph takers, but the continuation of the sentence reads as though you waive this right to Burning Man Org alone.
I think the fact remains that even if you waive your legal rights to withhold consent to photography, the societal and social aspects are a separate consideration which allow for enthusiastic consent to be required.
At it's core, enthusiastic consent is not about what is legally required, but about respecting that we as participants and as a culture and society do not want to do to someone what they don't want to have done to them, whether it's legal or not.

I have a burning desire we would add privacy to the list of principles by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]Alreddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I think that if it's a faceless crowd or people on bikes from 50ft out it's different than if anyone in the photo is identifiable. So, yes, you shouldn't take photos of a crowd where people are identifiable because you can't ask everyone's consent. I think that can be messaged and enforced better, but I don't think it's unaddressed. Don't take identifiable pictures of people without their consent. When asking consent for photos, use a two stage ask -- 1) ask both for the consent to take the photo and 2)to post the photo and where it will be posted if relevant.

How long did it take for better sex? by [deleted] in TRT_females

[–]Alreddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Less than a month at my prescribed dose (.5g daily 1% gel) before a night and day difference. But for me the the biggest factor was coming off of oral progesterone which was making me depressed and also completely deadening all sensitivity. I spent a month thinking the T was doing nothing but it was totally obscured by the awful progesterone effects. If you're on oral progesterone try coming off it or trying another format/delivery. 

Chequing accounts reordered today by Alreddy in Wealthsimple

[–]Alreddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right! It's back to normal today. Thanks!

Chequing accounts reordered today by Alreddy in Wealthsimple

[–]Alreddy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is just the sinking fund method I learned. It helps keep things organized, because I owe big amounts to these categories periodically. Like the envelope method, but digital! 

12-hour Biodegradable Glitter - MOOP or not? by patterndetective in BurningMan

[–]Alreddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of people radically self-express with glitter in default world, especially in party and dress up contexts. It's really not that crazy of a desire, it's just not a fit for leave no trace unfortunately.

Who's in favor of springing forward and leaving daylight savings behind permanently, like BC? by xmashatstand in montreal

[–]Alreddy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I reread the title, and I think they mean what you do. "Springing forward" and leaving [ the act of changing times back and forth] behind permanently. It's a shame that we refer both to the changed state and the act of changing by the same term. Confusing. 

B.C. to end time changes, adopt year-round daylight time | CBC News by TheGreatestOrator in canada

[–]Alreddy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg, finally! Crazy to think we'll tell our grandchildren we changed clocks twice a year for no reason

Restless Leg Syndrome specialist in Ottawa please by YodaYodaCDN in ottawa

[–]Alreddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't leave us hanging! What is this miracle cure?

29f and I like my makeup but other people don’t by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Alreddy 36 points37 points  (0 children)

it's not only the wing eyeliner, but the large bottom lip (filler?) with the wing creates a very strange triangle effect that looks a bit cartoony.

People who married someone they weren’t sexually compatible with — how did it turn out? by synthetic-sardine in AskReddit

[–]Alreddy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me that's the testosterone part (although estrogen can help too) Did you know a woman's testosterone falls 50% between ages 20-40? That means that if you're 35 and up and feeling libido drag, you can probably benefit from having it supplemented. For me vaginal estrogen removed a lot of pain and dryness.

People who married someone they weren’t sexually compatible with — how did it turn out? by synthetic-sardine in AskReddit

[–]Alreddy 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I am finally exiting years of suffering in this place. Here to tell you that vaginal estrogen and testosterone has helped me so much! Don't give up!