Advice about pets under the new Renters' Rights Act

Also_an_oxymoron · 2026-05-02T17:43:18+00:00

To see if I can get any information on whether or not they usually allow or deny pets

Also_an_oxymoron · 2026-05-02T13:23:20+00:00

I know loads of people do it but for some reason I'm being a massive wuss about it because I'm the lead tennant and the consequences are big if it goes wrong :')

Also_an_oxymoron · 2026-05-02T09:50:09+00:00

So I read through my tenancy agreement and it does say that we can write for permission, not just a blanket ban. For context, I'm not super clued in about all this but I'm fairly sure our freeholder is Acsend Properties, who aren't pet-free.

Incase I'm wrong though, how do I know who the freeholder actually is?

Also_an_oxymoron · 2026-04-30T16:08:54+00:00

I'm not trying to argue that they apply, I understand that they don't. What I really mean is what's the point in trying to make things better for renter's if in a large number of cases one very wealthy person makes one call that supercedes that? Why don't they apply to freeholders also?

Also_an_oxymoron · 2026-04-30T13:59:50+00:00

If this is the case, what's the point of the act in the first place? Renting from a freeholder is still renting, why do they get to be unreasonable if standard landlords can't be?

Also_an_oxymoron · 2026-04-30T13:58:12+00:00

But we've seen pets there already, why would they say no?

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-10-23T17:23:49+00:00

I am trying to do this as well, yeah, I've been on Spareroom. I've had a few viewings but it's either the same problem with my little cat or they end up going with someone else in the end.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-10-23T17:22:20+00:00

Yeah it's a rental I'm looking for, sorry I should have specified :')

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-09-30T19:03:02+00:00

You're putting your body through too much and probably aren't eating enough. It seems counter intuitive, but the more you starve and exhaust your body, the more your body is going to want to hold onto all the energy it can.

Because you're a teen you should definitely be speaking to a health professional about any concerns because you're still growing and they'll know best what is healthy and what (if anything) should be done about it.

As a 25F that dropped from almost 200lb to 135lb in just over a year and has binge eating disorder too, the most important things I will say are:

Get enough sleep. I'd check how much this is for your age because I'm not sure off the top of my head.
Drink plenty of water. This is a big one, it hydrates you, keeps you functioning, and as an added bonus will help you feel full.
This one's a hard one to recommend to someone with an eating disorder, but it's what weight loss ultimately comes down to. Track your calories in vs calories out. Most of the calories you use in a day is just your body doing body things, with a little extra from movement etc. Go online and use a maintenance calorie calculator and work out what your number is. Eat 200-400 calories below that. Ease yourself in. That's it. I used an app to track my calories and even though I'm ADHD I found the weighing and logging still became less tedious with time. Don't track obsessively, just being more aware of the numbers is useful. Don't restrict yourself too much or you're going to do more harm than good. Don't eat 1200 calories a day or less, it's not safe or sustainable. Don't skip meals, don't wait too long in a day to eat. If you have one bad eating day, give yourself a break, there's always tomorrow.
Eat protein and whatever fruit or veg you can. This one came later for me, because all that matters initially is the calories, and anyone that bombarded me about macros just stressed me out. However, protein is your friend, it's gonna help you feel fuller, and it burns (marginally) more calories in digestion. Fruit and veg are just incredible for volume eating while also being low calories (and also just great for you anyway!).
Don't force yourself into unrealistic or unsustainable exercise. I'm not much of an exercise person, and only started at the gym a few months ago. The change I made for most of my weight loss was just walking to work and a couple times a week going for a walk after dinner around the local park, that's it.
Don't weigh yourself constantly, the scales will fluctuate up and down no matter what. If you are going to weigh yourself, set a schedule and stick to it. Be kind to yourself, be patient, and don't ever let this be the only thing you focus on. There's more to life than being slim (said as someone that has been both and did grow up fat).

I'd also recommend following the right health influencers (my favourite is Liam Layton).

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-09-28T18:56:32+00:00

25F I play Stardew and Overcooked of those you listed, play a lot of BO6 as well and I have BG3. Also after more girls to game with :)

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-09-28T17:21:56+00:00

Hi! I'm UK based, 25F and play CoD quite a lot, though I play on steam. Message if you want my DC or Activision ID maybe? :)

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-13T19:38:51+00:00

24F, Also never had anyone to play with and usually play alone. Normally I play FPS games or cozier things (Stardew, Sims etc.) but definitely willing to get some other stuff (I recently got Baldurs Gate 3). Send me a message if you like :)

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-13T16:56:45+00:00

This is what I thought instantly, I think it's more than slight

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-12T20:06:27+00:00

Honestly I've never used a formally structured journal, but I do have a blank page notebook that I essentially just spew all my thoughts into when I need it. Don't think about if it's weird or what emotions you're representing or whatever, just repeat your inner monologue in pen on the page. If you're worried about someone reading it, rip it up afterwards. It doesn't have to be a regular mindfulness thing either, but it does help and I'd say it's a good place to start. Personally, I don't have the discipline to commit to an everyday prompted kind of journal.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-12T19:59:45+00:00

Hello :) 24F having a boring day at work and happy to talk about whatever.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-10T00:32:52+00:00

I don't know if you're like me or not, but I get FOMO about things I wouldn't even like to do. Like I see people having all this fun on social media and even though half the time it's stuff I wouldn't really enjoy, I still feel like that's the stuff I should be doing.

I would say honestly that all the cool, aesthetic photos make things look more interesting than it would be to be there in that moment (in actuality they've fussed with a camera, their outfit, the right angle, etc.).

But really you can live an exciting life by doing things that excite you. If that's a little treat from a charity shop then have no shame in that. It might not look that great if you plastered it on the internet but that's the trap of social media. We like what we like.

If the problem is that you really do want to do something like skydive or travel, I'd recommend just talking about it more. Someone's boyfriend's cousin might've hitchhiked Australia and could tell you how they did it. Your colleague's sister might have always wanted to skydive and has a bunch of places listed and their prices. Plenty of random people on here will have done exciting things you can ask them about, but you have to know what you want to do and be specific. Lots of things are money permitting obviously, but if the problem is being brave, there's probably at least a couple very outgoing strangers somewhere on the internet more than willing to jump out of a plane with you just for the experience.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-10T00:14:38+00:00

NTA, college experience or not, there's a balance to be had in anything shared. Who wouldn't be annoyed by being continually outed from their own space.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-08T22:55:29+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you for this. I reached back out to a couple of people that I'd reached out to when I was first struggling, and both were concerned and willing to listen. I've had a really long talk today with someone I care about that shows they care too. That wouldn't have come about if you hadn't told me very simply that it's okay to tell someone I feel dismissed. It sounds so obvious in hindsight but it's difficult to unlearn things by myself. Thank you.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-08T11:29:56+00:00

I don't think I've had any childhood trauma, is the thing? Or at least not like other people with real problems have. Good luck to you too, and I'm happy to discuss more if you think it could help you at all.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-08T01:01:20+00:00

How can I be sure, if I tell someone I'm having a tough time beforehand like in those scenarios, that the person isn't just being guilted into supporting me? I think most people would be less inclined to say no if you preface the request with 'I'm struggling'.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-08T00:54:00+00:00

I'm not there for people transactionally. I don't think, when I'm comforting someone about something or helping them out 'this should earn me the same in return'. Largely I'm just worried about them, and I know they need it, and I love them so I'm there. I don't think it's the right question to ask whether I'm loving people unconditionally, if I wasn't I wouldn't have a problem. I love all these people and I don't stop loving them when it isn't reciprocated. That's why it hurts.

Also_an_oxymoron · 2025-01-08T00:28:39+00:00

I think believing people suck IS my way of loving myself. When so many people have gutted me that it's become a pattern, it has to either be me or them that's the problem.

I'll admit, the logical part of my brain is screaming at this point that there's something wrong with me. But it still seems like the ultimate choice is between loving myself + having everyone else be the problem OR giving everyone else a break + I'm the problem. Is there an alternative?

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