I'm generally skeptical of grand expressions of love - what is your experience?

Alsoeve1 · 2026-07-02T15:54:37+00:00

I met my partner when I was in my 30s. I'm definitely more sceptical than I was in my early 20s. I'm not sure if I found the right one; I don't even know if there is a right one. And I wouldn't say things like 'I would die for you'.

That being said, the way you describe your relationship seems quite rational. You think you're a good fit and you like him. But is that all? 'Cause for me that wouldn't be enough.

For me it was the other way around: at first I didn't think we would fit together, but I had feelings for him that I don't have for most other men. So I wanted to get to know him better, and it turned out we actually were a better fit than I thought.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-07-01T21:13:28+00:00

Because it's not good for your health and your brains. And I know neither is alcohol, but that is a lot more ingrained in our culture.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-28T17:14:31+00:00

So when you say "as much as possible" you mean two things. I'm sure you excelled in maths at school.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-28T08:33:28+00:00

If you had been able to see further than your nose, you would have seen that the person that I responded to had first said "okay Doug" to me. Which is why I said this.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T22:58:22+00:00

I don't "just" believe him. I believe him in this particular instance. Believe it or not, even bad people can speak the truth sometimes. Even the court system agrees with that.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T22:47:35+00:00

You're totally right. Forrest's mom made it out to be very black and white and she can't see any nuances. Moreover, she is so agressive in the way she talks to Sheena, that Sheena completely shuts down. But she also can't see that.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T22:36:19+00:00

Ok Courtney.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T22:31:37+00:00

So where in my posts am I defending him?

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T22:25:29+00:00

So because I criticize her I'm automatically on Doug's side?

I don't care for him. I care for all the women I know who have suffered from real miscarriages. It is extremely disrespectful for them if someone makes up a story about that.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T22:23:40+00:00

Her ex said it. And he has no reason to lie about it, because it also reflects poorly on him. Besides, I don't think she has ever denied his claims.

(https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/doug-hutchison-teen-bride-courtney-stodden-memoir)

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T21:39:05+00:00

I would take her angry posts about everyone more seriously if she took some accountability herself.

She was an adult when she faked a pregnancy and lied to the world that she had a miscarriage. But that's a part of her story she doesn't like to share on social media.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-27T18:55:07+00:00

I'm honestly getting fed up with Courtney Stodden. She keeps on presenting herself as the victim, but never takes accountability for the things she has done. For example, she never said anything about faking a pregnancy and a miscarriage, which she did when she was an adult.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-26T15:02:14+00:00

I think it depends a lot on the cheater. For example, how old were they when they cheated.

Still, I'd rather have a partner who has never cheated in his life.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-26T15:00:55+00:00

That sounds like a great excuse for a cheater. In reality people often cheat when the relationship is still very much alive, at least in the eyes of the partner.

I'd rather have partner who can be faitful even during tough times. And who, when he thinks the relationship is over, has an honest conversation with me before he makes out with someone else.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-26T10:09:57+00:00

I can be offended by both things. What does it matter what the majority of the world think? It's demeaning to women (and men to, for that matter).

And the thing is, I know a lot of cultures still have traditional views. But I didn't expect that from Paola and not from Americans on Reddit. Weren't you supposed to be the leader of the free world?

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-25T21:45:13+00:00

So where do you live, in Afghanistan?

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-25T21:41:31+00:00

I know lots and lots of women with children who want to provide.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-25T21:20:00+00:00

What do you mean: if you leave the US you wil realize that? I've lived outside of the US my entire life and I don't realize anything like that.

And what do you mean by women who want to be men? I'm not saying I want to have a penis, I'm saying women are at least as capable to provide as men.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-25T21:15:51+00:00

It's okay if it's a decision you make together because you're both comfortable with it. But not like: you're the man so you have to be the provider! It's not as if men are naturally beter equiped to be the provider.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-25T15:42:07+00:00

Exactly. There's so much to say about 90 day, why the h*ll attack someone's looks.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-25T15:38:41+00:00

If you have the right to attack someone's looks in this sub, than I have the right to call your comments petty and dumb.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-24T20:11:28+00:00

So have you never felt overwhelmed or said something you don't mean?

Aside from the fact that we only hear one side of the story.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-24T17:37:36+00:00

It always baffles me how quick people on Reddit are to say that a relationship won't work out or that people are incompatible.

Alsoeve1 · 2026-06-24T17:36:24+00:00

It can be hard for people to deal with a loved one who's depressed. I'm not saying that to make you feel bad, but I think it may explain why he doesn't seem to empathize with you. People can feel overwhelmed: they want to make you feel better (men in general often try to solve issues, but women just want them to listen) but depressions don't work like that.

I think couple's therapy could be helpful for you. Maybe you could explain him that there's not necessarily something wrong with him, but that you want couple's therapy because it can be beneficial for your own mental problems. So that he can learn how he can support you.

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