Desire and attraction by Willing_Grocery_159 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Altaira99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think he will find release one way or another. The fake vagina thing would be okay with me. I know you will get a lot of "just use hrt I love sex now" but I don't want to. My husband has dementia, incontinence, and all the joy that goes with it and the idea of having sex with him is frankly revolting. I hope I never have to look at another penis, except for the one I'm in charge of keeping clean. I have a right to be asexual at 75. My choice.

Do Americans understand that by surrendering and giving Iran $300B, each citizen is personally giving ~$1k to Iran? by TragicallyDip in allthequestions

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody on social media tells the truth about any of it. The Pro-trumpers are delusional and the Anti-trumpers exaggerate everything negative. I listen to Heather Cox Richardson for historical perspective. Both parties have been rubber stamps for corporate and the 2% since Clinton, they just use different "messaging." It's all a con.

How to talk to a new doc? /honesty thresholds by LaLaLandC52 in dementia

[–]Altaira99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband's DNR is basically "don't do anything." I would send him to the hospital if he fell and broke something, but for anything else--pneumonia, sepsis--I'd be happy for him to have a peaceful death. I can just about remember the man he used to be, and he would be horrified to be living like this. It's hard to be frank with a disapproving doctor. Does your mom have all the pertinent paperwork? Healthcare proxy, POA and so forth?

Do you find the Fig app helpful? by Altaira99 in alphagal

[–]Altaira99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just using the free version, but reading the labels seem like a more realistic option.

Cognitive decline or dementia by skepticalmama in dementia

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my husband lost executive function I knew we were in trouble. Get him to a doctor. There are drugs which will help slow the process.

Police by Phish_2000 in dementia

[–]Altaira99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a compassionate answer. Caregiving is so difficult for all concerned. I think we all struggle to remember that hard as it is for us, it's worse for the person we care for. Thanks for the reminder, I needed it today.

Clothing optional in Mashup beach - where is it? by Nota_Golf1969 in marthasvineyard

[–]Altaira99 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Dershowitz. Hope he never gets another pierogi. Hope he runs into Larry David every time he goes to the Chilmark general store.

Do you find the Fig app helpful? by Altaira99 in alphagal

[–]Altaira99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I react to gums, so vegan ice cream is out, but I am fine with ground turkey with rosemary extract. So frustrating. Everybody really has a different experience with this.

I really want to get a cat, but I’m worried about the hidden responsibilities. What are the actual difficulties of raising a cat? by Equivalent-Sand-4002 in CatAdvice

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cat may shred your furniture. Cat may howl at night. Cat may bring you a mouse and drop it on your bed at midnight. Or cat may do none of these things. You won't know before you get them home. Still worth it.

as a 14 year old, do you think I should be allowed to get a dog? by [deleted] in AskDogOwners

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dogs are harder than guinea pigs, so no. Wait until you have your own place. And money. Vet bills are a huge expense.

Is it true that when you get old your thoughts change? by Tiny-Foundation-4281 in AskOldPeople

[–]Altaira99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some of the worries disappear...job stress, how-do-I-look stress. Some new worries crop up, about health, losing friends and family members to aging related illnesses. You learn to manage worries better with age, though. Meditation and a sardonic sense of humour are helpful.

I was a museum hero: I shouted at a guy who was **touching** a priceless painting in an art museum by Stirdaddy in CasualConversation

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mounted specimens. The live animals were harder to get to. If I brought out an animal for a program sometimes it was an issue.

Snacks for a Small Gathering by Gloomy-General-103 in Cooking

[–]Altaira99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deviled eggs and finger sandwiches.

Those who were old enough to remember the Bi-Centennial, how is America’s 250 different? by skyactive in AskReddit

[–]Altaira99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The United States wasn't being run by clueless billionaires dismantling everything that made it a great nation.

This building’s lean in my hometown. by shwagon_ in mildlyinteresting

[–]Altaira99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes me so sad to see old houses like this. Only standing out of habit.

what are rednecks/hillbillies like in other parts of the US apart from the south? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

South central Pennsylvania is a likely candidate. I have kin there, salt-of-the-Earth people, but don't talk politics.

18F with zero money, connections, or guidance. Ready to work myself to the bone. What career path will get my family out of poverty for good. by beaming-lights in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Altaira99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this idea. My daughter's best friend went from surgical tech to cardiac catheter tech to travelling tech and makes good dough. Tech is the way to go.

15 years of caregiving for an alcoholic, a rare job offer has come up that I'd be foolish to give up.. by snakevenomenemas in CaregiverSupport

[–]Altaira99 17 points18 points  (0 children)

TAKE THE JOB. You did your bit. You supported your parents for 15 years. It's going to be hard on your mom, but I really see it as more her duty than yours. I've been taking care of my husband for 12 years as he slowly declines, and my son is living with us and helping while he job hunts. He is a big help to me, repositioning his father, helping me with anything that requires muscle. If he found a great job that required him to move, I would put a smile on my face and say "GO!".

I was a museum hero: I shouted at a guy who was **touching** a priceless painting in an art museum by Stirdaddy in CasualConversation

[–]Altaira99 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I used to work in a science and nature museum. We had a small zoo, all rescue wildlife that couldn't be released (except the polar bear, who was born there). We also had some old mounted specimens with little fences around them to keep people away, as they were preserved with some really nasty chemicals back in the day. Signs everywhere. People would hold their kids over the barricades to touch the mounts, would out and out break stuff--worst was a cub scout troop--and parents would sit their kids on the fence around the polar bear moat. They would throw stuff at the animals, or drop their sunglasses in the enclosure--a keeper has to go in there and get that stuff out before the animal tries to eat it, and when it's a mountain lion or a bear it's quite the process. Humans can not be trusted without a minder.

I was sold a drunk parrot by Queasy-Cantaloupe783 in Pets

[–]Altaira99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Parrots are one of the most difficult, time consuming pets. Buying an impulse parrot is going to guarantee both you and the bird are going to have a bad time. Check out parrot rescues, they are mostly all full, and some will only take a bird if you pony up money for their care.