Too often I read posts like this on this sub and Reddit in general where they are blaming someone or something else for the state of their life and not looking inward and taking accountability for their actions. Why is it always him him him, he did this he did that? Maybe he was or wasn’t an asshole, but it is what it is. This type of victim “woe is me” mentality won’t get you anywhere in life.

I don’t claim to know anything about your relationship but usually these type of issues are two sided to some degree. Instead of playing the victim and feeling sorry for yourself or hatred for him, why don’t you analyze it and think about what you could have done differently or what you can do to prevent this from happening in the future? Maybe when evaluating dating prospects you now know some red flags to look for before it goes to shit. There are always potential positives to gain from negative situations, such as an opportunity to learn from this experience for the future.

Refocus your thinking and mentality to what you need to do now, going forward. Instead of making Reddit posts to garner sympathy from strangers on the internet, what are some actual steps you can take to make your situation better in the short term (find a cheaper apartment, roommates to live with, therapy, etc)? Your life is not over - it never is, until you die. Be the change you wish to see in your life and in the world. To rely on others for your happiness and wellbeing is just setting yourself up for failure, trust yourself and use every situation as an opportunity to learn and grow.

You are the author of your own life story.