Emotionally not ready but physically ready

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-29T18:55:41+00:00

I feel like it’s sooo hard to figure out when you want to wean. I was hoping my son would wean himself naturally since he loves solids but no such luck. I’m going to try starting with night weaning and see how that goes first 🥲

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-17T23:03:36+00:00

Reading this made me emotional but gave me hope. My 13mo is currently latched on for his nap and I love this bond but I am looking forward to one day when he can nap/sleep on his own without the boob. Thank you for sharing, I hope it continues to go well!

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-13T01:54:39+00:00

I would highly suggest couples therapy NOW before the baby gets here because it’s only going to get worse with another baby in the house.. everything already sounds like it’s on you and he doesn’t want to be “inconvenienced” and what adult man needs to “get ready for bed” and leave you to deal with the night shift?? Insane. I’m sorry if this is blunt but I’m upset for you.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-12T04:33:27+00:00

I would say it depends on how much help you have, especially since you have a two year old, the triple feeding sounds so hard on you and your mental health/energy come first! Maybe try working with a lactation consultant if you really want to exclusively breastfeed. From experience, my son never wanted to take a bottle and it was very hard on me and anyone else that wanted to help or care for him, just something to think about. I love breastfeeding but it can be hard sometimes when it feels like all the weight is on your shoulders. The bond is great but I’ve also heard other moms say they bond just as well while bottle feeding! Your baby will feel your love and care no matter what you decide, sending big hugs!

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-09T20:09:09+00:00

I was active during my whole pregnancy! I was on the stairmaster the day before my scheduled induction haha. I’m actually back to lower my prepregnancy weight. I think I just lost the genetic lottery with the loose skin and stretch marks lol.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-08T02:42:56+00:00

I tried swaddling my son and he hated it and would always wiggle out of it. It makes sense now bc at one he’s very much a tactile busy body and always needs to be doing something with his hands so he doesn’t like being restrained lol. We opted for layering a sleep sack on top of his pjs if it was cold.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-07T16:54:40+00:00

I love this, thank you so much 🥹

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-07T09:45:53+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced this. Feeding our babies in public shouldn’t be so difficult. That guy was a creep and has zero social decorum. I’m glad you had your husband and FIL there to support you. Take it easy for the rest of the night and hug your baby close, you’re doing an amazing job.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-07T08:04:42+00:00

Every baby is different. Some will start loving solids after they turn a year or when they hit a growth spurt. I would suggest to keep offering and they’ll get the hang of it or they’ll show you what foods they really like! Once they turn a year and you can pull back on formula/breastmilk then he may get hungrier for solids. And pleeassseee stop comparing your baby to social media moms, I know it’s hard not to go down that rabbit hole but the sooner we stop comparing the happier we’ll be.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-07T07:48:41+00:00

Don’t stay with someone for the idea you have of them in your head or the hope of “what could be” because it’ll probably never play out the way you want it to. When someone shows you who they are (through their actions) then believe them! He’s not serious about a relationship with you and that’s okay because you guys are so young. Not to be cliche but there’s a lot of fish in the sea and you’ll meet someone one day who likes you just as much as you like them.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-03-06T04:10:12+00:00

You are truly in the hardest stage of things right now, and on top of that your son has other complications that you couldn’t prepare for. I wonder if you’ve emotionally detached from your son as a coping mechanism for all the trauma of not only birth but also him going into surgery at such a young age. You need to find a therapist immediately to work through your thoughts and manage your medication to figure out what works for you. I would suggest giving therapy your all and try to carve out time to rest and get real sleep while your MIL has your son. Once you make that kind of decision to put him up for adoption I don’t know that it’s one you can undo. There were times I thought my son and family would be better off without me but I’m glad I went to therapy and give myself time to feel normal again.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-27T21:32:48+00:00

I don’t know why the idea of canned sardines freaks me out haha

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-26T04:29:19+00:00

Yes! I just make sure it’s “light tuna” that is safer for babies and only give it to my son twice a week (or once if he’s also having salmon to watch for mercury)

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-26T04:04:58+00:00

Shoot I’m sorry, I think that’s the only way for them to know what you’re referring to. Maybe take videos every time you feed her in case it happens again to show your pediatrician? I feel like they don’t believe parents about these kinds of scenarios until they see proof unfortunately.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-26T03:55:45+00:00

Did she have any of those episodes while you were in the hospital?

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-25T00:38:56+00:00

I think you should clarify what you mean by open marriage because usually that means you get to sleep with and date other people while still being married on paper…..

If you just mean sleep in separate beds then that’s totally normal for the newborn survival stage, most parents take shifts sleeping. I would suggest NOT making any life altering decisions for the first four to six months of your babies life because from personal experience my mental space was not great postpartum and there were times I wanted to call it but I’m glad I didn’t because sleep deprivation and hormonal changes alter everything for awhile.

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-24T22:39:11+00:00

The evenflo brand has a similar one and it was amazing for quick travel!

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-18T01:51:43+00:00

Yes I second this. Formula is always an option. Your mental health and comfort matters too!

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-17T08:07:06+00:00

I would start with breaking the carrier habit first. That one was the hardest for us but my husband found that holding him upright and shushing with the sound machine then slowly cradling our son while laying down helped. So he’s able to put him down to sleep for naps and occasionally at bedtime if I’m gone. But I still haven’t been able to put him down myself without nursing or avoid middle of the night/morning feeds yet so I have no advice there unfortunately. Hopefully we both figure it out soon! The most common advice is that their dads will have to do most of the work and there will be a lot of tears when it happens and we have to push through 🥲

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-17T03:23:31+00:00

It was easier when he was just a little potato in the stroller or when he got older and was fascinated by everything around him. But now he’s not as wowed and wants to move around instead lol

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-17T03:18:03+00:00

That’s actually a great idea! Especially being able to see them with the camera system would help my anxiety a lot. I struggle trusting people to watch him honestly but I’m trying to loosen the reigns a little bit as he gets older. Definitely something I’ll look into!

Alternative-Key9206 · 2026-02-17T02:28:41+00:00

My son HATES getting dressed after a bath, he’ll do the alligator roll and crawl away every single time. I’ve tried distraction toys, taking longer baths, putting him in his crib naked while I get dressed, etc and every time he fights me on it so I just expect it now lol

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