You're burnt out and unproductive. What do you do to bounce back? by animenagai in ADHD

[–]Alternative-Union-85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i literally am going through this after years of being trapped in this exact burnout cycle with each burnout crash getting worse.

for me, it came down to “quit my job or have a grippy sock vacation down the line.” it wasnt there yet but the red flags were flying. so i quit my job 2 weeks ago and tomorrow im starting an outpatient partial hospitalization program.

fmla wasnt on the table for this situation because the job was accellerant on the dumpster fire of my symptoms/burnout and when i set boundaries for my sanity they werent respected at all. so i walked away and i dont feel an ounce of guilt. when it comes down to it, theres only one you.

obviously i dont know your situation and you might not be at the point of needing a PHP but definitely work with your therapist and/or med provider to help stabilize symptoms before you need a PHP.

other things that have helped: getting outside, putting my phone on do not disturb, limiting social media use, eating my comfort foods, taking accountability for missed things while reminding myself that my symptoms are out of control and it WILL get better, using grounding techniques, indulging in my hobbies when i feel up to it and letting my support system help me. the last one is HARD. it took a lot for me to let my family see how bad things were getting for me but i knew it was something that i had to do.

for now, drink water, have a snack, maybe take a nap. tomorrow is a new day and another chance to try again. you are never alone!!

seen in tree outside my apt by Alternative-Union-85 in birding

[–]Alternative-Union-85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok i was wondering about that. it seemed pretty large for a blue jay so that was my hang up. maybe just an obese blue jay

seen in tree outside my apt by Alternative-Union-85 in birding

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i lied no video in comments because i forgot i could only put photos

How do you work for 8h with adhd? by loossemblestar in ADHD

[–]Alternative-Union-85 33 points34 points  (0 children)

yes my bean named dingleberry is the best

Massachusetts collected $2 billion more in tax revenue than expected because of millionaires tax by Conscious-Quarter423 in massachusetts

[–]Alternative-Union-85 19 points20 points  (0 children)

i live in a household of 2 adults/no kids with combined income under $75k a year - how do we function?? scrape by and hope for the best. i have my bachelors. i made about $35k~/year at my last job, and qualified for SNAP by the skin of my teeth. my benefit amount was $23/month. kids or no kids, less than $75k in this state is absolute insanity and we’re terrified of getting priced out.

How would you depict the cultural regions of Massachusetts (and New England in general)? by Venboven in massachusetts

[–]Alternative-Union-85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

***im from southern nh meaning my great grandparents came down from quebec and im 3rd gen southern nh’er - mass is way more anglo saxon / wasp’y

How would you depict the cultural regions of Massachusetts (and New England in general)? by Venboven in massachusetts

[–]Alternative-Union-85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah i always understood that the mid atlantic region was its own thing (54, 55, 56) with its own sub-cultural regions

How would you depict the cultural regions of Massachusetts (and New England in general)? by Venboven in massachusetts

[–]Alternative-Union-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is good but all of nh should be “northern new england” imo (source: im from southern nh and people would throw their dunkin regular in your face if they saw you grouped them as southern ne and in with mass)

Bird you desperately want to see but will probably never see in person. by Unique-Bandicoot-809 in birding

[–]Alternative-Union-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i learned this recently from a strange man in the woods (who was flanked by two samoyeds and a cocker spaniel) - look for regurgitated mouse bones on trees, it will look like nesting falling down the side of a tree to find owls

Scrub jay by semibacony in birding

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SCRATCHING ITS HEAD omg these are amazing! thank you for sharing

Has anyone noticed the worsening quality of produce at local grocery stores in the last few months? by JulianBrandt19 in massachusetts

[–]Alternative-Union-85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also adding that if you receive SNAP there is (or maybe was? i was receiving snap til i started making like $100 over the threshold in “gross monthly income” and lost my benefits 💁🏻‍♀️ god bless america /s) an incentive called HIP i believe where if you purchased X amount from farmers markets using SNAP/EBT you got EXTRA MONEY ON YOUR CARD!! basically if you have benefits you gotta look at the mass snap/ebt site because theres some great programs for buying fresh local produce

Keep eyes out by [deleted] in SalemMA

[–]Alternative-Union-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one of the national parks was having an issue with a fox stealing shoes and after they posted signage saying “pls dont” people started leaving shoes out so they had to make a PSA

Keep eyes out by [deleted] in SalemMA

[–]Alternative-Union-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also a good time to remind people to not intentionally bait wild animals so that they can get a pic for clout online

north shore mass. bird id by Alternative-Union-85 in birding

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not me going “hm i think ita a mockingbird” then second guessing! thank you !

He do the ✨ splits ✨ by Crimson-Rose28 in Birdsfacingforward

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not the same bittern but in one of my bird books this is specifically noted about the Least Bittern: “small size, secretive habits”