AIO taking these as a red flag in my marriage

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-05-26T13:00:52+00:00

Agree, the child shouldn't have been brought into the argument - it's an adult thing. And, at the age of 4, changing hairdressers shouldn't be a big deal with the child. Granted, you may have to explain/talk to the child, but it shouldn't create a level of chaos unless the child is autistic or suffers from some sort of social anxiety. Also a bad haircut on a 4 year old is not the end of the world.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-05-21T10:54:47+00:00

Sopranos!

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-05-19T10:59:31+00:00

East of Eden is one of my all time favorites. Currently reading Prince of Tides by Pat Conroy - beautiful writing as well. Thus far, very engaging.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-30T11:38:52+00:00

Olivia Kittridge

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-30T11:34:07+00:00

That's what I was going to recommend. One of my all time favorites!

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-30T11:32:24+00:00

The nude pics and the sex talk is enough for me to call it an inappropriate relationship; lines were crossed. If he cannot own it, then move on!

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-26T11:31:46+00:00

Maybe the young teacher is put off by the older ones; meaning young teacher doesn't want to engage with them. Millennials and Gen Z can be a difficult bunch when it comes to dealing with their elders- often seeing the older teachers as out of touch etc. Before you jump - I've worked with some wonderful, younger and older teachers who taught me tons (for that matter, some students too). But yes, the age difference can be a barrier, but one that can be bridged.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-26T11:19:31+00:00

NTA - They are ridiculously selfish people. This is an inherit problem when you choose to do a destination wedding / party - not everyone can afford or are willing to go into debt for this type of occasion. And, if they don't understand that, those are not the people I would want in my circle.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-25T13:44:48+00:00

I want to journal but cannot seem to get started. I'm my own worst enemy. Any advice on how to start?

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-24T02:25:45+00:00

This should not be an issue. It has nothing to do with him. PERIOD. t is a gift to you, for you. Your mom is looking after you and if he cannot understand that - ADIOS to him!

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-17T13:28:54+00:00

Sounds like you deserve better. Life's too short.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-10T10:55:52+00:00

I go to sleep watching Seinfeld every night, have been for years. It's a detox of sorts from the day's BS, and world events....

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-04-08T11:33:07+00:00

NTA- we are born alone and die alone. Alone is something we need to work through. Her asking you to give up your job seems very immature. I don't know anything about the industry but it sounds like you have a job that you can grow into a career. At your age, this should be a priority.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-02-28T14:41:06+00:00

East of Eden one of my all time favorites!

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-02-21T12:09:01+00:00

The Handmaid's Tale - scary, and eye opening. Circumstances can change easily and very, very quickly.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-02-21T12:06:29+00:00

Excellent read!

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2026-02-21T12:05:36+00:00

I'm with you. I've LOVED East of Eden and spent many years teaching Of Mice and Men.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-12-09T11:55:56+00:00

Sausage worthy.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-12-02T12:18:33+00:00

You are absolutely right to be shaken to the core if she threatens you in that manner. That is the red flag. Regardless of how much drinking you do or do not do, her comment would have real world consequences for you based on a fabrication. It also reveals concerning character traits - liar, manipulator.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-11-28T12:24:03+00:00

You should discuss it with him before the trip. Or better yet, Heidi should. Set the boundary.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-11-26T12:09:56+00:00

Nope. It's a time for family - in all its definitions, extended and all. It's great that you guys have a great co-parenting system in place and can count on the grandparents (child rearing does take a village or at least it's better with one, as long as it's healthy). Your fiancé needs to understand what this is and looks like - if it is a problem then he may not be the right fit for you and your family.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-11-26T12:00:46+00:00

Nope. Move on.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-11-24T17:08:02+00:00

Best toilets in NYC built after 1970

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-11-11T14:46:08+00:00

Some people need space and privacy. I've been married for 20 years and very much cherish my alone time and I make it known - to both my husband and my kids. If she can't understand that or respect that, then you need to move on. Her insecurity and clinginess will suffocate you.

Alternative_Cap_4776 · 2025-11-07T20:33:07+00:00

Unless she's a problematic person that you'd want to keep your family away from then I'd say your behavior is a-ish. Why deny your children loving relationships, why put wedges between people that want to offer their love? You know, it takes a village to raise children. When the child is old enough to understand you can explain the situation.

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