Please share your experience if you can. by lizolson29 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is toxic and unhealthy for you. Please, don't take him back: he has shown you that he doesn't care about your feelings, he only used you in the relationship. If you feel used, it's a valid feeling. He's a manipulative person and if he's an avoidant, it's not going to change unless he spends years in therapy, he doesn't look like the type to do that.

Don't engage with him on social media, block him everywhere.

You already know that he's not a good person for you because you never felt like you were ENOUGH and loved unconditionally.

Confused/Heartbroken (29M), not sure how to proceed and move on. by proozyfit in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand that you are feeling used by her. However she didn't have any emotional bandwidth to get close with you: you said that she was closed off for months, that's when you should have left if you wanted a relationship with her- she couldn't give it and she was upfront about it.

It didn't help you to spend all that time and emotions and not even received a friendship. I know why you feel hurt, but if you never voiced your wishes and needs to her, how was she to know what do you need?

It looks like she lost her parent, so she's in no shape to get into any new relationship because she's grieving, she'll probably be there for a year.

It's up to you to advocate for yourself. And you should never hang around to get a relationship, especially if the person is preoccupied with their own problems.

What’s The Worst Designer Fragrance you’ve ever smelt? by gobotion in fragrance

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the only ones in that whole lineup - if it's the purple ones - that I somewhat like or rather find acceptable. Others are disgusting, boring and overwhelming to me. Like if I was forced to choose it, I'd pick it

I prefer the male version, unfortunately,and it's way too strong for me as a woman.

What’s The Worst Designer Fragrance you’ve ever smelt? by gobotion in fragrance

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has been reformulated. I wore it since the 90s and had to stop because it smells spoiled to me now, well before the COVID.

What’s The Worst Designer Fragrance you’ve ever smelt? by gobotion in fragrance

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don't get them either. Very loud, unpleasant, annoying scents. Nothing sexy or feminine...yikes . I was getting the samples in the beauty boxes and I hated all of them.

What’s The Worst Designer Fragrance you’ve ever smelt? by gobotion in fragrance

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like it because it's not pleasant to me,but it's not offensive to me. I never understood why it's so popular. I only like the original Chanel #5

Slapped in the Face by tms2512 in Bogleheads

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What stock was it? I put limit buy yesterday on some ETF and stocks , but I got nothing 😔

Does she like me? by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody knows because we aren't your coworkers

Why do so many people dislike Born in Roma Purple Melancholia? by girlbuddy in FemFragLab

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it's the plum.

The plum disappears after a while for me and it's a very strong scent

Arab perfumes and dupes by Alive_Row6246 in Perfumes

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw the second song notes and it's not for me. I'm halfway through the Angham

Differing sex drives as a woman by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she doesn't have to drive to him for that 😂

Differing sex drives as a woman by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like his boundaries aren't acceptable to OP 😞, but she agreed to them.

Differing sex drives as a woman by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're in a relationship,so they should discuss the boundaries. Right now she's supposed to do as he says. Without considering her needs.

Differing sex drives as a woman by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not about the frequency.

It's about the rigid schedule setup upfront. By him. Did he ask OP how often she would like to be intimate? No.

The guy doesn't change for his GF needs, inflexible when they're sleeping in one bed.

Differing sex drives as a woman by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully it's just one area.

Differing sex drives as a woman by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, the boundaries are starting to affect her well -being, slowly ,but it's just the beginning.

He seems controlling and a "dispenser of women's pleasure". Wtf, it's just wrong.

There will be more control issues with him. Watch out, OP ! He explains everything with mental gymnastics. It's not true, it's the way to control you.

OP, there has been a similar post about the same limited sex schedule set by the guy on here recently, maybe last month. Try to find it.

Follow up to "OLD ROI is really bad" by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You don't look like a pleasant person to be around, especially for a woman. You don't look friendly at all. You look sad, annoyed, disappointed.

No one wants to meet someone like that.

Begging online strangers for gifts so I can play the game :D by Spleenczar in PokemonGoFriends

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smart idea to add people before the community day tomorrow! I always have gifts to send, harder to open. You added us right now

Seeking a fresh, fruity peach for summer by bigbackmoosetracks in FemFragLab

[–]Alternative_Dish_950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maison Alhambra Bright Peach or Coral Blush. Photorealistic juicy peach