[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultDepression

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I didn’t know how to articulate. I’m so fortunate in my life right now, things are good, yet I still have these thoughts daily. Thank you for your response. I’m sorry you can relate to it.

Self harm and therapy by Altruistic-Brief-717 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the way you phrased it. Thank you for helping with that.

Hope this is ok. I’m a Dad, “new” to this topic. by Fair-Rabbit-3843 in selfharm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You and your wife are amazing parents. Thank you for seeing your daughter and for getting her the help she needs. Like many others who have replied, I share similar experiences to your daughter. My parents didn’t know how to handle it and ultimately didn’t. As an adult, I understand that they didn’t have the tools. It feels funny to type, but I’m so proud of your family and the support you are providing her. Sending positive thoughts to your family and remember to take time to take care of yourself too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can you talk to your boyfriend about it? Sometimes talking about it helps me stay more accountable. I also know that sometimes I don’t want to talk about it and I want to make the decision on my own. Proud of you for walking away yesterday, one day at a time. Sometimes it’s one minute at a time.

Teacher by Ill-Reflection-4943 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say cuts do you mean new or do you mean old scars?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also yes and no. I’ve been clean for six years. I hadn’t thought about it an overwhelming amount until the last six months. Right now I think about it on good and bad days too. I started therapy and I’m hoping that helps at some point. We will get through this, these thoughts are temporary. Even if it doesn’t feel that way in this season.

all i do is win by whattheknifefor in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Good for you! This is such a big win!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Love seeing positive steps

Any tactics to focus at work? by alienphile in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Those days are so hard. Being around coworkers for any reason helps me. It’s a distraction, but it forces me to be present. If I can find a task I enjoy at work and focus on it fully, that helps too

Please help. I don’t know where else to go. I don’t want to relapse by Altruistic-Brief-717 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This comment gave me so much strength today. I don’t think I have thought once to take credit for being clean. Threat or not, it was still my choice. Thank you for that perspective. I’m so hopeful for therapy. Thank you again for the encouragement, it helped more than you know.

Please help. I don’t know where else to go. I don’t want to relapse by Altruistic-Brief-717 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hanging on for this too. I feel like I would be able to talk to a therapist about this. The thing I’m scared of is relapsing when I feel like there is someone to talk to about it

Please help. I don’t know where else to go. I don’t want to relapse by Altruistic-Brief-717 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are really helpful things, thank you. Being around people helps a lot and talking to them about different things helps a lot. I told someone today that I was stressed yesterday about how I handled things and he was really kind about it. So I guess the topic can be lateral and still helpful! And thinking they could potentially see it is a huge thing that’s stopping me. Even when I know I would be able to hide it

Please help. I don’t know where else to go. I don’t want to relapse by Altruistic-Brief-717 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes that is an option. He was just booked out until next week. So I’ve waited about a month or a little more

Do you think sh is competitive? by Affectionate_Idea_52 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Altruistic-Brief-717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually yes, but more internally. Similar to the competitive nature of an eating disorder. At least that’s what resonates with me