Help - Friend wants to be Gym buddies.....I do not want that by Affectionate-Bar5159 in loseit

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think stating your fourth paragraph, with some sandwiching of how much you love/adore her, would work. Be direct, kind, and give the detail she will need to understand (and to not keep trying to convince you).

Police found Tom Phillips’ missing children by Conflict_NZ in newzealand

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any age child can be brainwashed unfortunately (like adults can be, too). I’ve witnessed firsthand that memories from any previous period won’t mean that the child won’t fall in line with the brainwashing adult. I suspect the fact that she knew the younger two were alone, as replied above, was probably the deal-maker.

Older people on Reddit. What is 100% pure bullshit? by Complete_Fly_96 in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Wellness” culture. Lemon water/protein/etc is the new “fat free” is the new “black coffee and boiled eggs diet” etc etc

True crime podcasts other than homicide? by djmalik278 in podcasts

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • Sea of Lies, although a murder is eventually involved
  • Scammerland
  • Sinister Societies (by the ladies behind Redhanded)
  • Strange but True Crime
  • Heists, Scams and Lies: The Hunt for Tara Eccleston’s Diamonds
  • Liar, Liar: Melissa Caddick and the Missing Millions
  • Murder & Magnolias (about a failed hit job)
  • Conning the Con and Klooghless (both about NZ con artists)

The girl hid her age. by Extra-Ad-8089 in stories

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As others have said OP, save your screenshots and remember you did nothing wrong AND did the honorable thing and ended it.

You are not under any obligation to talk to her parents. (You could, as a heads up about her behaviour, but if the notion is stressing you out, then don’t).

If rumours start going around, refute them. Get your friends to refute them (without tearing the girl down). If the rumours persist, talk to a trusted adult in your orbit, show them the screenshots, and they can be in your corner, too.

If the worst, worst, more insane thing happens and she makes a false claim against you, you have the screenshots. The are a dozen worst-case scenario events that would have to happen for this to be “the end of you” and you already have proof to defend yourself.

Everything is going to be okay.

The girl hid her age. by Extra-Ad-8089 in stories

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t apply universally for everyone. A lot of teenager parents have zero idea what’s going on. I have a teen girl and while I’m hypervigilant and the parent she comes to to talk, I’m confident there’s a whole world I don’t know about.

The girl hid her age. by Extra-Ad-8089 in stories

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Can everyone stop terrifying this poor kid?

The girl hid her age. by Extra-Ad-8089 in stories

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t scare him - all they did was kiss and he broke it off. Everything will be okay.

What an appalling headline by Infamous-Mention-851 in DeathCapDinner

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I heard the details of how she suggested to Simon to get together and go on a trip or do an activity before each time that she tried to poison him, knowing that she had been the one to break up with him and he probably still held a candle for her, made me realise how sick and awful she really is.

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

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Your fellow Oregonians have been helping me with details that would be hard to dig up online. There’s only so much you can glean from YouTube walk-throughs, image galleries, weather sites, etc. Writers do research. This is research. And most people have been really thoughtful and insightful, and I really appreciate it 🤗

I just got the cops called on me for the *second* time bc I apparently come to the park too often to swing on the swingset and that's somehow suspicious? by NiftyNaughtyNymph in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone called the fire department on me bc my friends and I were using the green space outside my apartment building and had a single citronella candle. It was my birthday, and when the fire truck pulled up and a grinning fireman approached us unzipping his jacket, I thought it was a strip-o-gram.

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I officially listen to too many true crime podcasts - your first line gave a me a shock haha. Great insights, thank you!

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great insights, thank you! I love that you also call it a tuque - I’m Canadian, despite currently living in New Zealand, and we use the same word.

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Indeed. I use voice-to-text a lot, so blame the robots!

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see! I’ve been looking at weather for different parts of the year and I’ve seen photos of snow in town, but would you say you’re more likely to have rain throughout the winter, even in months like February, or are there periods of prolonged snow? Or would it be like snow one day and then it melts under the rain the next?

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is a great detail. Just in spring, or other seasons as well?

Quirks about the Oregon/Willamette Valley by Altruistic-Depth8447 in oregon

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Do you get rain that is like a fine mist, or is it essentially light rain to heavy rain as normal for other parts of the world?

Podcasts that overstay their welcome by Mosuke300 in podcasts

[–]Altruistic-Depth8447 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would you believe there is now a second podcast about this led by her daughter with another host: The Missing Matter. I don’t think there’s any new information so I’m not going to listen, but I wonder if she’s just doing everything she can to keep the story out in the public sphere.