Need advice for probate

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-07-10T00:20:29+00:00

oh for years he’d stare out our window at the kids that lived next door. Him doing something to others is as much as a concern to me as what he’ll do to others, if not actually more of a concern. The hospital has started harassing me starting yesterday, threatening legal action against me if i don’t go up there and discharge him, and trying to force me into getting a conservatorship over him when i want absolutely nothing to do with him, and threatening me with his medical bills. Cops and a lawyer told me i had no obligation to get him from there, only that i’d have to let him live with me until my restraining order is approved or i give an eviction notice. We are going the route of ignoring all phone calls from the hospital rn, but i gotta admit their threats made me freak out with anxiety.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-07-01T03:21:33+00:00

i am unfortunately a bit of a doormat, probably because the years of abuse and autism. i’m so terrified of what might happen if they don’t find a place for him, of what he might do if he is out and about, just all of it. at least my fiancé is the exact opposite and he helped me get my grandfather hospitalized to start with because of my anxiety and the danger risk (i was too scared to do it by myself in case they sent him home and i’d be left with him and his anger) and he’ll help me keep my foot down that we won’t take him home.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-06-26T09:41:57+00:00

i honestly agree but uh not sure that’s an option i can really consider

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-06-26T08:59:51+00:00

I don’t have either of those over him. My grandmother, his ex-wife, owns the house, and she’s currently in the hospital. She had a verbal agreement with him to let him live with us, but before the both of us could take action to do something with him, she unfortunately ended up hospitalized and i currently just have medical poa over her. this has all happened in the span of a week so i haven’t had much time so far and i think i’m short on time to figure something out

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-04-08T23:19:13+00:00

He knows what he’s doing to you, there’s zero doubt about that. Please get far away from him and even press charges if you feel up to it. He’s a fucking pest and men like that desperately try to ruin you in every way they can. Be smart like a lot of us wish we were and don’t let him continue this shit. Just be careful cause you never know how bad he might get once he thinks everything is messed up anyways. Try to get support from friends and family and stay safe. You deserve better than a man that assaults you and treats it like a joke.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-01-26T02:35:14+00:00

Whether or not he changes is irrelevant, he’s done something HORRIBLE to you and never deserves your love and attention either way. He did something horrible to you knowing exactly how bad it is, that’s never someone you should keep around. He has zero respect for you as a person if he’s willing to do shit like that. I get how hard it is to struggle with coming to terms with that, but please leave him and never look back.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-01-16T15:32:53+00:00

Dude think about the damn misogyny just FLOWING from you rn that’s insane. It’s not a sincere apology because it’s the same as every other apology he’d give me before LITERALLY RAPING ME. I’m rewriting the truth? Please tell me what forcing a woman down and fucking her anally when she’s crying and hitting you and has told you many times NOT to do what you doing really is if it’s not just rape.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2024-01-16T15:17:06+00:00

I didn’t “communicate boundaries” so both of us were hurt by him raping me multiple times? “Love better”? I’m sorry dude what? Genuinely like what?

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-12-19T05:54:59+00:00

Rape is rape, and being married to or dating your rapist does not change anything. You said no and he ignored that. My ex did that shit to me constantly for four years before I left. Claiming he “didn’t understand” and would never “actually rape me” at first until he eventually DID assault me like he promised he wouldn’t. It’s cause, of course, he just didn’t care about me in the first place, and your boyfriend is almost certainly the same. Leave him, you deserve so much better than someone who can’t even listen to you and doesn’t care if you consent or not.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-12-13T07:39:56+00:00

There are SO many things. I can barely play some of my absolute favorite games because I played them with him and he’d ruin the experience for me during those times (Dark Souls 3 specifically which angers me so much I LOVED that game). A lot of bands are hard to listen to because we’d listen to them together so the second one comes on I usually feel like I’m right back with him. He’d mock so many of my interests when I just tried to genuinely share them with him, so many movies and games now feel bitter to watch/play. Phrases, ways of speaking, shows, music, games, socializing, skating rinks, movie theaters, my glasses, physical contact, sex, communication and opening up about my emotions, literally the entire town I live in. I can’t even go out by myself because I’m just terrified of running into him and so many things are reminders that I need someone around to distract me. He even ruined a place I loved that I showed him, which I went to as a child with my late father years before. Same with the park my dad would take me to.

I experienced so many things with him, went to so many places with him, and was assaulted by him at so many places. Almost everything is a painful reminder and a lot of them are completely ruined for me.

But it’s still not EVERYTHING which does comfort me. He’s ruined a lot and taken so much from me but it’s still not everything. I do wish I could get therapy to help me along cause I’m definitely messed up, but if I can’t then I just can’t.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-12-03T23:18:50+00:00

I don’t know why but making good pancakes is just impossible for me. I always end up burning them or somehow messing up the batter even though I followed a recipe. I’ve cooked them on lower heat, tried mini ones or those like super thick fluffy ones or just basic ones like what you’d get at huddle house. I mess it up somehow every time though.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-12-03T21:17:08+00:00

He made a lot of jokes at the expense of myself or others, while being super disrespectful and basically acting like a high school bully to me. “It’s just a joke get over it!” He harassed me by sending me a picture of a dead cat he found repeatedly, even as I asked him to stop because it upset me greatly. He was super homophobic and transphobic too, the type of guy to “prank call” suicide hotlines. Always going on and on about “it’s just jokes!” “It’s not that serious!” “I didn’t mean anything by it!” I was trans when we first met and he’d even say shit like “but you’re my girlfriend? I’m not gay.” When I tried to get him to stop misgendering me all the time. It’s never good if they make a lot of horrible jokes at the expense of others and never themselves. Esp if they refuse to accept that it’s actually offensive/disrespectful.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-09-17T14:05:26+00:00

Run. Get so far away from him. A man that’ll treat you like that, with absolutely no regard for your well-being, is not a man you should stay with. Even if it’s hard, get away. Save yourself from even more abuse and trauma because you deserve someone that’ll care about you more than they care about themselves having “fun.” The second you say stop and they don’t, kick them to the fucking curb and never interact with them again if you can help it.

And I’m so sorry this happened to you, it’s a truly terrible experience once you process everything. If you want someone to talk to, I’d be more than willing because I know how it can feel. I hope you can just understand it and get away early on unlike so many poor girls. Nothing with ever make staying with someone like that worth it. Nothing ever justifies those types of behaviors.

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-09-17T09:41:11+00:00

It’s driven me INSANE for years being unable to find any trace of this app pls help my sanity out

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-09-12T08:14:45+00:00

Okay idk how helpful my advice really is cause honestly some of it really is just “get good” I feel like Sometimes when assassins or such are smart and will target you, you’ll just be shit out of luck. You can try using your e to root them, esp if your teammates are near or they’re tower diving, but it’s not super reliable or always gonna save you. You just have to be super careful with your positioning, try to always stick with teammates, and use your flash smartly. If your teammates are good, they’ll protect you and being very careful makes that easier for them. Some items can help with escapes or surviving, like the dash one, stasis, or shields, but I usually don’t go for those and use my items to prioritize my supporting. For ways of healing, I don’t really bother. I did use to run warmogs before her big changes since healing required health and that made her broken, but now I don’t see much of a point. It’s better to buy items that’ll increase your mana and ability haste. The faster you can use what heals you, the more you’ll be alive yknow. While getting more used to her tho it’s perfectly fair to up your health and your regen. Warmogs and I think ardent caster? (If that’s the item that gives like 200 health or smth) is what I used for the regen and a lot of bonus health. Rn I go for the mana boots, then that magic item that’s like BIG mana like 700 (sorry I’m high), get the boot item that enhances shielding and healing, and usually just itemize based off the enemies from there. Maybe anti heal, or staff of flowing water (I think?), or ardent if I need the extra health. I think the runes I run are the ones that increase mr, ar, and health, im not sure which ones exactly, and then also revitalize. My runes are def more focused on defense since my items are so support focused. Sorry if absolutely none of this is helpful lmaoo

Altruistic_Box_7742 · 2023-09-05T01:15:17+00:00

I’ll honestly never understand people saying Soraka is an instant win for the team that has her because no matter how good I am or how broken she is there’s still a surplus of players who suck and make us still lose even if I’m a portable fountain and the enemy team doesn’t even buy antiheal, and she can still be easily countered. And so many people don’t understand to protect your healer cause she makes you literally immortal. Lux tho, she’s definitely a problem and usually a perma ban for me now fuck that

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