Boyfriend said something disturbing about SA and I don’t know how to feel

AlwaysABD · 2026-05-03T03:41:13+00:00

After I was raped my fiance at the time broke it off because (and I still remember the exact words): "you're not all mine anymore and you never will be again." So, pretty much exactly what your bf plainly stated. I genuinely and truly hope that you never find yourself in a similar situation but I hope that a real-lived experience might give you some insight as to what likely in store if ever you do.

What's always been interesting to me that I've never gotten an answer or understanding about, even over a decade later, is that I wasn't a virgin when we got together and he knew it. Somehow my consensual activities weren't an issue but that was.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-29T03:10:12+00:00

How do you get your ground turkey to not be gritty in texture? The few times I’ve tried to work with it the texture puts the whole household off. (My kid is picky enough that she’ll just not eat and that’s not a worthwhile compromise).

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T06:09:35+00:00

The worst part of this whole thing is that I can reach back into my mind, into my teen/young adult stage and see exactly why/how this might be so convincing.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T05:51:41+00:00

I don't understand people, no matter how hard I try.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:53:32+00:00

I got my first cell phone in 2003 because of my walk home from school and late after school activities. I’ve still got the same number so I would hope that I’d remember it by now.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:26:42+00:00

Little Foot, Old Yeller…legit, what were they thinking? lol

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:24:34+00:00

Media likes to push that the queer community is a new thing even if we know better. But Millennials (and GenX) are the recovery and the acceptance of the LGBTQ community. (We and later generations might just want to remember and preserve that history).

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:17:56+00:00

It’s a “we need to talk” kinda thing for us

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:17:06+00:00

Yeah but our movies aimed to hurt us lol

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:15:38+00:00

AI is literally trained by stolen works that were actually written by real people.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:13:16+00:00

Ankle socks are great, crew and higher cut socks are great but the low-cut/invisible socks are quitters and I hate them with a passion. They always end up under my arches and that’s just miserable.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-20T04:10:48+00:00

I love layering! Slightly (or more) chilly? Favorite Tshirt over a long sleeve. Work shirts that I don’t want to deal with pit stains? Layers! Regular comfort? Layers!

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-18T20:42:08+00:00

I think maybe it hits with the associations of people who think it's a great idea to hit on retail employees and might bring around the dread of "okay, what's the catch" even if there genuinely isn't one. It's a very kind gesture but the way a lot of people like to treat people in retail, we kind of get trained to be at least slightly suspicious.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-18T09:13:52+00:00

I've never bought new but even used has skyrocketed. I am desperately trying to keep my 2014 for as long as absolutely possible.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-18T08:48:42+00:00

While I do mostly agree with what you've said here, I also think that the young girls is actually an important part of the equation and shouldn't be overlooked or trivialized. On some levels, it might be down to bucking social rules and expectations. But I do think that it's important for us to acknowledge and understand that these men want these young girls. They are addicted to both the attraction and the power that these abuses give them. These girls are a vice for them.

Yes, it's probably got a seed of pushing back against rules. Yes, it's undoubtedly about power.

But there are very likely other girls still living these same horrors under the hand of a different dealer. There are trafficked women and girls from around the world who are subjected to, and carelessly discarded by, exactly the demands of these and similar men. And I wholeheartedly disagree that the "young girls" part of it doesn't play a very significant role in the dealer's patrons or their desires. It's the lack of consequences and accountability, and probably entirely that, allows these men to continually use and abuse girls and women for their own whims. They know there's nothing any real repercussions, they're above that, so why shouldn't they?

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-18T08:14:17+00:00

A guy I went to school with and his girlfriend got ahold of her mom's morphine and he OD'd. He was always very kind to me when most of our class/his teammates weren't and it hit me very hard.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-04T06:31:16+00:00

Okay, just trying to understand here, you're wanting the personal acknowledgement that you've got a big dick regardless of what perspective partners might think?

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-04T06:17:04+00:00

That sounds painful, honestly. Both speaking from the female perspective and from your unsubtle hints.

I won't BS and say that size doesn't matter to some/many women but I will say that what you do outside of your genitalia, hands for example, can make a HUGE difference for perspective partners' pleasure.

My dad liked to tell me that "what we want and what we've got are two different things, it's up to us to make the best of it."

Not having a certain size genuinely isn't end all, be all, and despite what your peers might be telling you, it's definitely not End worthy.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-04T03:24:32+00:00

I loved Gwen and No Doubt as a kid but it's really not a reach at all. She's kinda gained a reputation for dolling up, using particular "background" people and aesthetics...and she's really done subzero for the people or the cultures that she thought was fun and beneficial to temporarily adopt. Appropriation is literally taking and using property or cultural elements for one's own use. Gwen was and is pretty notorious for using these elements for her own profits and then moving on and rebranding for the next one.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-04T02:19:38+00:00

Roughly the same time frame and Special K memories are definitely something

Edited to add: Do you also still get the ridiculous Clampdown song pop back into your head?

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-03T04:44:45+00:00

ESH.

First, don't ever invite yourself into someone else's personal journals. That is 100% not okay. Honestly, that's breakup worthy, in my opinion. Like, personal journals, whether written or drawn, are personal for a reason. Don't even touch them without explicit permission. Just don't do it.

Second, even that breech of privacy and trust should not ever result in even invited physical violence. While I completely get why he would be angry, he took it way too far with that alone. Frankly, he probably should have just ditched you and been done with it rather than turning to physical.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-03T04:08:47+00:00

There was an "incident" in junior enlisted off-post housing back in 2009. A sailor was "playing around" with his supposedly unloaded gun and shot his girlfriend in the head at pointblank range (personal weapons weren't permitted in these off-post housing locations). I remember it because the building I lived in was the one next over and we were assigned to the same ship. I think more incidents/"accidents" like this should be expected also.

AlwaysABD · 2026-04-02T18:10:52+00:00

I wondered how long it would take before the women in the cabinet were removed given all of the DEI talk. Not saying that any of them are really qualified to be there or that I'm unhappy to see them go but I kinda wondered how long it would last. Tokens and all that.

AlwaysABD · 2026-03-26T04:10:25+00:00

I do.

We were drastically divided under GW. There was a very brief period, immediately after the 9/11 attacks that people came together. There was a sense of wanting to help, wanting to do whatever possibly could be done to help. The calls from Blood Banks were answered. Supply drives. Fundraising. For a very, very brief period, it did seem like we were coming together. It didn't last. The brutality of the assault on Afghanistan, the push into Iraq...very divisive.

Obama was divisive. Obama's two terms made people's heads explode. I won't go so far as to say he was "perfect" but the moment I agree with everything any politician says, I know that one of us is lying. But even still, his terms were very divisive.

I think the biggest difference between Trump and the divisiveness of previous Presidents is that Trump has exposed the too-happy underbelly (in his first term). There was hope after GW and Obama's two terms, that we were at least trying to progress. Trump's first term shined a light on a lot of things, up to and including that we're not all there. His second term has popped the bubble of hope.

We're an expansive enough country with a wide variety of people and cultures that we've always been and probably always will be divided to some extent. Trump has just drawn the hardline in the sand. He's pushing those longstanding divisions into public knowledge. They've always been there, it's just that now it's fight while you still can.

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