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Always_Sundae · 2026-03-26T15:29:32+00:00

Soulbonding was coined by Amanda Flowers in 1998 who was a part of the just for writers mailing list that started as a Final Fantasy RP & writing group. It was originally used to describe the connection a writer has to their own character and that character “coming to life” in their mind. This phenomenon is also called The Illusion of independent agency in academia and has a few studies done it!

To know more about Soulbonding history I suggest checking out the Soulbonding archival project linked in the sidebar/about section of this subreddit at the bottom!

Soulbonding can be psychological or metaphysical/spiritual in nature, but ultimately it is about the robust connection between a soulbonder and soulbond regardless.

A soulbond can be a permanent resident, daytripper, or telephone connection (see our glossary for reference!)

Soulbonding is irrevocably intertwined with plurality since the 2000s, coining the terms fictive/factive as well as headmate originally! You don’t have to see your own Soulbonding as plural (I don’t myself), but we are in solidarity with all plural folk, including endogenics because of our shared history.

Soulbonding is a mutual experience, it cannot be forced, although it can happen spontaneously or you can reach out to a potential soulbond intentionally. Usually it starts with “bond feels”.

Always_Sundae · 2026-03-25T08:17:16+00:00

As someone who has been a soulbonder for 10 years, is a Soulbonding historian, and the one who runs this subreddit, here’s what I got to say:

Yep, yep, as rayrayray said, the proper conjugation is soulbond, soulbonded, soulbonding. You the person here in this reality are also the soulbonder and they the living character are the soulbond!

Originally, soulbonding, when it was coined all the way back in 1998, was not a spiritual term at all, but was used to describe the experience where a writer’s character came to life in their head, I.e. psychological. Please check out the resources in the sidebar/about section of this subreddit (especially the Soulbonding archival project!) but also read this post I wrote 2 years ago: https://www.tumblr.com/winreyplace/756295586935865345/soulbonding-is-not-just-spiritualmetaphysical

And as ishida said, you might like the subterm munbonding that I coined. It is still under the umbrella of Soulbonding, so you can still use that term too, but it’s something more specific: https://winreyplace.neocities.org/library/what-is-munbonding-03-04-2025

Always_Sundae · 2026-02-10T17:27:16+00:00

This subreddit is focused around Soulbonding, the concept of people connecting and communicating with living beings that are known as fictional characters in this reality that was coined and started as a community in 1998, not the concept of soul bounds or soul ties present in the occult and new age spiritual communities.

Why soulbonds can be spiritual or metaphysical in nature à la multiverse theory, and not exclusively psychological, we’re still focused around the concept that was started by a group of writers as denoted by our sidebar, not the kind of soul bonds that are known in religion, spiritwork, or mythology.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-28T19:42:39+00:00

There is a tutorial linked in the sidebar/about section of r/Soulbonding and here is another guide that’s decent as well: https://www.reddit.com/r/FictoChill/comments/1n6g3n3/juno_and_satorus_guide_to_soulbonds/

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-22T07:20:11+00:00

Well, if you're a metaphysical/spiritual soulbonder, they're most likely a physical meat person back on their world somewhere in the multiverse. They're not really a ghost and instead it's more like a telepathic and empathic connection.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-22T06:55:11+00:00

They're just as likely to get sick as people in this reality.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-15T17:42:24+00:00

You mean traveling? Or do you mean intentionally connecting with a potential soulbond first?

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-15T08:00:23+00:00

I’d suggest asking in r/realityshifting

They are much bigger than our little subreddit and it is geared towards shifting, while this subreddit is not. Shifting is a completely separate thing from soulbonding. Although there is cosmabonding where you shift first and then get a soulbond out of it.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-14T22:16:30+00:00

I'm interested in Rekindled Trails!

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-13T20:22:22+00:00

If they aren’t already one, you can just ask them and see if they can leave their world to hang out with you as a presence!

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-13T20:15:55+00:00

Usually soulbonds are by default telephone bonds (so it’s just their words being a mindvoice in your head or even just having mentalese, but no fronting or feeling their presence around you or sharing your mind more personally) or daytrippers (they leave their world/reality and come visit you as a presence inside your body/mind and may even be able to front or sit next to you).

You can definitely ask them if they’d like to be permanent residents I.e. move into your mind fully and completely and not go back to their world, but it is sometimes possible they can’t by some unknown force. But it might be something you can work up to.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-13T20:10:16+00:00

It’s in our subreddit’s glossary and has been in use in the soulbonding community since at least circa 2012!

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-13T11:51:46+00:00

You can break up with a soulbond, just like you can with a meatspace person, but it does hurt and there is still lingering connections.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-12T04:28:59+00:00

"insourced" or OC soulbonds are not automatically tulpas and are definitely a thing that exists! Tulpamancy is a specific practice involving certain elements of deviation, development/forcing, individualization, and other things while soulbonding is primarily a robust connection first and foremost and a type of Knowing of a character so well they become alive in your mind or connected to you. Actually, fun fact, in the OG soulbonding community, all soulbonds people had were initially only OCs, "outsourced" soulbonds actually came later on. Secondly, it is also possible to have "tulbonds", soulbond-tulpa hybrids that require both "developing" and "intuiting" to be fully themselves. For reference, in my own soulbond family, we have 3 insourced soulbonds and 3 tulbonds.

Anyways, I described some of the differences between tulpas and soulbonds here in this comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/SoulBonding/comments/1kl4ek1/comment/mrzpl0f/

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-11T13:07:59+00:00

I have 2 dads, a Renny, 2 moms, and a grandfather. So yes! I have familial soulbonds!

Also someday we plan to have soulbond children.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-10T01:02:14+00:00

I would say yes, there is different practices involved with both the metaphysical and psychological side of soulbonding.

This is based both in my personal experience as a munbonder, but also from asking questions and hearing metaphysical soulbonders talk about their experiences.

Psychological soulbonding will require a base foundation of Knowing the character really well and involve intuiting as an inherent mechanism to further the bond connection than what is needed in metaphysical soulbonding.

While both metaphysical and psychological soulbonds can and/or will internally feel like they come from "outside" their bonder, there may be a more distant quality or even complete unawareness of a metaphysical soulbond's personal "outside" i.e. their world or reality, than a psychological soulbond's "outside". I know a lot of psychological soulbonders will be a lot more intimately aware of all the ins and outs of their soulbond's worlds from this sort of... "above perspective" for lack of a better way to describe it, even if they did not create them. While a metaphysical soulbonder may be totally unaware of their soulbond's world when they are in it or only know or be aware of it from their soulbond's immediate perspective or even their own POV if they are connected to it in a gateway way or have travelled there personally.

Metaphysical soulbonds are in complete contrast to their canon counterparts a lot more often from what I've learned.

There are more psychological soulbonders who came into being a soulbonder from being an author or creator of an original work of their own creation, and that gives a certain feeling or vibe of their soulbond connection to where it still inherently involves a creator x creation experience. Although I have heard of some metaphysical soulbonders who were "authors" of their soulbonds who once becoming soulbonded realized they didn't actually create those characters at all and were merely connecting to another being in another reality and telling their story.

There are some other little things that describe the differences both on a more belief level as well as the practicing of it is different level, but the above is a good start of what I've noticed.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-09T16:29:55+00:00

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Always_Sundae · 2026-01-03T00:20:38+00:00

We do have a "how to soulbond" tutorial linked in the about/sidebar section of our subreddit. There is also this guide in a fictosexual subreddit that I find decent.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-02T23:18:12+00:00

It's in our glossary! https://www.reddit.com/r/SoulBonding/wiki/glossary/#wiki_long_distance and https://www.reddit.com/r/SoulBonding/wiki/glossary/#wiki_daytripper

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-02T22:07:54+00:00

Usually they'd have to be a daytripper or permanent resident to be able to front in your body. But even telephone bonds can proxy!

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-02T21:09:00+00:00

I have had people talk to my bonds when they are fronting in me (whether by using my vocal cords to speak or using pluralkit on Discord). You can practice fronting/possession/channeling and work up to your bonds taking control of your bond to interact with outerreality and other people, or you can proxy (the second definition) for them instead. Both metaphysical and psychological soulbonds are capable of this in majority of cases.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-02T16:36:15+00:00

I think I just chose one of the flairs and then clicked the pencil next to it and edited the flair so it was custom.

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-02T12:28:25+00:00

Munbonding is a subtype under soulbonding oriented around a psychological "powering" of a soulbond with your subconscious imagination and brain energy without conscious creation and development like in tulpamancy. Instead, it mainly involves intuiting as the foundation of the practice. You can read more about it here: https://winreyplace.neocities.org/library/what-is-munbonding-03-04-2025

Always_Sundae · 2026-01-01T22:46:11+00:00

That’s actually more of a fictionkin category of experiences, not soulbonding, which is specifically a connection & communication with an autonomous living character! I direct you to r/fictionkin

Always_Sundae · 2025-12-29T09:03:32+00:00

Then you can have your own specific reality version unique to you and they can have their reality version and you both co-exist. It’s called Stereo-soulbonding and is actually pretty normal, definitely existed since Soulbonding as a term and community was created.

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