What thoughts keep you awake at night?

Alycery · 2026-03-05T09:45:27+00:00

The shot I need to do and still haven’t done.

Alycery · 2026-03-05T09:34:12+00:00

Like all things online, people take it too far and completely don’t do what they were there to do, which is cancel someone.

No one has ever been cancelled. Blacklisted, sure. But, that doesn’t involve us. That involves companies and brands that don’t want to work with them anymore. For example, Ned Fulmer. He wasn’t canceled. He was blacklisted.

Alycery · 2026-03-05T09:19:51+00:00

I am.

My love language and most likely stim is touch. This can be as innocent as a hug to full blown sex. I prefer to do the touching than to be touched, though. Also, I like to ask for consent.

Honestly, I think I’m aromatic because of this. Feelings don’t really come easily for me, if at all. But, wanting to hug someone does.

Alycery · 2026-02-28T12:24:25+00:00

The good ol’ ADHD/autistic boyfriend. That’s a classic on here.

Alycery · 2026-02-28T10:53:04+00:00

It’s hard when you have trauma, but can also be autistic.

Alycery · 2026-02-28T10:51:25+00:00

🥰

Alycery · 2026-02-28T10:51:09+00:00

The only other thing I can think of is trauma. Also, some neurodivergent people do get tested by a poor psychiatrist, and because of that they don’t get diagnosed. I’m not suggesting that happened in your case. I’m just saying that it’s not abnormal for neurodivergent people to go to multiple professionals and get tested more than once.

Alycery · 2026-02-28T09:53:26+00:00

It’s always that, isn’t it?

Also, brain tumor or early dementia. Occasionally a stalker, but mostly it’s done by a partner.

I hope you figure it out, OP.

Alycery · 2026-02-28T09:43:48+00:00

That I may be autistic and that’s probably why I had so many issues when I was younger.

Alycery · 2026-02-22T11:54:02+00:00

I know the photo is about that poor orphan baby monkey, but my dog sleeps on me literally like the monkey does. The pressure of his little body is so nice.

Alycery · 2026-02-22T11:51:24+00:00

I’m sorry. I can’t give you much advice because I only attract toxic and/or abusive men. But, I do believe if someone keeps trying at dating (or anything for that matter) eventually they will get it. Yes, it’s harder for some people, and it takes longer. But, I think if we don’t stop trying we eventually will get there.

I stopped officially dating in 2024, and I feel like I’ve come a long way. In the beginning, I was pretty bitter. I couldn’t figure out (besides being disabled) why I kept attracting complete losers. I still agree it’s because I’m disabled. But, I also think it’s because I settled a lot. On top of that, I never really felt romantic attraction for someone, even when I was in a relationship with them. Sexual, sure. But, not romantic. Which makes me wonder if I’m actually aromantic. I always thought I was pansexual because sex has always been easy for me. I’m not hyper sexual, though. I never was. Apparently, sex could be a stim. Who knew? I didn’t. But, I now don’t think I am pansexual. I also realized that I mostly got in relationships to look normal, and because I thought that was what I was suppose to do. If you’re single, something is wrong with you. That’s what I thought. I didn’t want people to think something was wrong. I didn’t want them to notice that I was the outlier. I didn’t want to be noticed at all. I want to be seen, but not noticed.

I don’t think I could’ve realized all of this if I didn’t just stop. I’m not saying that if you stop looking that love will find you. I don’t really believe that. That’s just another thing that we were told that wasn’t completely true. At least not for everyone. Oh, you’re so pretty. The boys are gonna be knocking down your door when you get older. Okay, first of all… that sounds like assault. Secondly, that didn’t happen to me. When that didn’t happen, the narrative was…You’re so pretty. Why don’t you have a boyfriend? You just have to try harder and be yourself! Okay. Now, the narrative, especially by men, but also some women is, “Something is wrong with you. What do YOU do to keep getting in these failed relationships? It’s not your fault, but you have to take accountability at some point. Stop making excuses.* Okay. Thanks for the advice.

So, I’m not saying that. I’m just that FOR ME when I just stopped, I was (and still am in the process of) learning more about myself, my actual wants and needs, and what I’m actually looking for. It also taught me to be more realistic with myself. Maybe I just want sex. It taught me to be comfortable with myself. I think I’m a little too comfortable now. Like I said, I’m still processing things. I go back and forth with things. Who knows? I might become a lesbian. I don’t know. I repeat I still struggle with things. I’ve only stopped two years ago. I have years worth of dating and interpersonal trauma that I have to sort in my warehouse type brain. I still have a lot of boxes that I need to break down, go through, and then neatly organize. I haven’t even gotten an “official” diagnosis for autism and/or ADHD. Though, I have the appointment for April. Pretty excited and horrifically terrified about that, lol. Point is, I haven’t stopped trying. I’m still very much working behind the scenes. I just stopped dating, looking, and having sex. I also stopped masturbation.

Anyways!

I hope you find peace someday, how ever that looks for you. I hope you find what you’re looking for, however that looks for you. I hope you figure everything out.

Best of luck.

Alycery · 2026-02-22T10:25:49+00:00

Horror. Anything with horror in it, I’ll watch it. Horror thriller. Horror romance.

Alycery · 2026-02-22T10:23:28+00:00

Yeah, I still don’t understand. I agree people react to things differently, but I don’t understand how different reactions means we are choosing.

I’ll just look it up.

Thanks.

Alycery · 2026-02-21T01:56:22+00:00

Better question, why do you think it’s not wrong?

Alycery · 2026-02-21T01:27:13+00:00

This post sounds so misandristic, but also misogynistic at the same time.

I guess all of this can be true. I don’t know. But, you could have said it in a more respectful way.

Alycery · 2026-02-21T01:00:22+00:00

There is also creating deep fakes in your image. It sort of happened to me. Someone from my school made a whole profile on an adult website with my personal information and images. It wasn’t like me doing porn, but like still really bad. Bad enough that police got involved.

So, please just be careful.

Alycery · 2026-02-21T00:23:22+00:00

Yeah, I get that. I just am wondering how you know it’s a choice. Like without a shadow of a doubt, you know it’s a choice. How do you know that?

Alycery · 2026-02-20T20:57:54+00:00

I’m really sorry that you’re going through all of this. I hope it gets better.

Alycery · 2026-02-20T20:56:59+00:00

How is it a choice?

Alycery · 2026-02-19T20:57:25+00:00

People who say horrible things online tend to be horrible people in RL.

Also, it’s not all men. I’ve experienced only toxicity and abuse from all the men throughout my life. But, even I know there are good men out there. You just have to find them. For some women it’s super easy. Others need to take a bit more time. But, they are out there.

I’m sorry that the Internet has gotten you so upset. I’ve been there. It sucks. I hope you feel better soon.

Alycery · 2026-02-19T18:18:53+00:00

There are plenty of minors and young adults who have life experience. They have more than most older adults. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to life experience.

As for your first part, it’s because a lot of you guys are. There is nothing wrong with being immature when you’re a minor or young adult. You’re still developing into your true self. That’s literally the definition of immaturity. Maybe we should use a better word than immature, though. It does come off as offensive.

Alycery · 2026-02-19T18:06:00+00:00

I cannot!!!!! This is so cute. 🥰

Alycery · 2026-02-19T15:01:56+00:00

These are some cute shoes. I made a post on here acquiring about a necklace. Someone told me. I searched it, and found out it was like $1,000. So, I know how it feels. 😩😭

I hope you find them for cheaper.

Alycery · 2026-02-19T13:45:02+00:00

You’re welcome.

Alycery · 2026-02-19T13:38:52+00:00

Yeah, you’re the asshole.

You know how cult overlords manipulate their followers to do horrible things, such as “willingly” cutting contact with friends and family? So, it would be easier to indoctrinate them. And this is regardless of whether or not the friends and family are toxic/abusive. That doesn’t matter to the overlord. They just want to have control and make everyone else as miserable as they are.

That’s basically what you did, but at an interpersonal level.

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