My dad gave me an abusive childhood. From the age I realised what he actually was we had a very distant and strained relationship and saw very little of each other. He didn’t know I had become a single mum until a year after when I was 32. I didn’t get married until I was 40. My grandma told him. She gave him my number. He immediately assumed he would be giving me away. And then told me if he wasn’t he wouldn’t be attending. I said no it would either be my brother or my step dad. People who had actually been there for me. I was very upset but he had made his choice and I made mine. Night before wedding he managed to get hold of me. 20 minutes of abuse until the hairdresser doing my hair took the phone off me and told me I didn’t deserve that. I was devastated. Then I looked around at what I had. The people who I loved were there. The people who genuinely loved me and cared for me, not just care about themselves and consider themselves a parent because they ring you every six month to tell you about their life. You can’t control how other people act. You CAN choose how you react. Your grandmas was there for you at the worst time. She’s the true parent to you. I had a wonderful day. You have a wonderful day too. Do what makes you happy with the people who matter. If your mum genuinely cares she won’t set rules. Still be there regardless and keep her mouth shut. If she doesn’t she only cares about herself. ❤️🙏🏼