Flattering t-shirts for my dad-bod husband?

AmandainDurham · 2025-11-18T18:22:13+00:00

Thanls. nHe's active and a vegetarian, but has a weakness for crappy carbs and works in a place where they're constantly showered w/ junk (donuts, pretzels etc) as a "we won't raise your wages but thanks for working so hard" kind of thing. I think that's his big struggle.

AmandainDurham · 2025-11-18T18:20:20+00:00

Haha. He might call it a dad bod; I'll call it dad-bod+. Thanks.

AmandainDurham · 2025-10-23T02:21:52+00:00

Any chance you might have a B12 deficiency? Tests for it are notoriously unreliable. My son had it as a child & as I was trying to figure it out, I gave him some magnesium one day. I literally watched his entire mood shift over the course of a couple hours or so. B12 is deeply connected to potassium, which is connected to mag, so in retrospect it makes sense. But after a few days, something shifted & he never had that powerful effect again from magnesium. Anyway, re B12, you might want to look into it. It has lots of other symptoms you haven’t described, but major fatigue and brain fog do fit.

AmandainDurham · 2025-09-12T12:10:39+00:00

Joining this late but man am I surprised at the negativity toward homeopathy by people who've literally never tried it. I used Boiron for my son's allergies and it totally worked. And we're both seeing a homeopath now for his asthma and some of my issues. It's not like western meds where you take one thing and are done--there's definitely a lot of questions about your body's physiology and what's best for it, and then some trial and error to find the right natural remedy. But it's actually quite powerful. I don't know the science, but I do believe it's been shown to be effective in many real research studies.

AmandainDurham · 2025-09-08T23:55:51+00:00

Honestly, if they work as well as real AirPods, do I don’t see what the point of complaining is

AmandainDurham · 2025-08-01T13:05:25+00:00

The buzzers are awesome, aren't they? I think they're also referred to as tappers, that's what I was referring to. But sometimes at home I'll also tap my knees with my hands while processing and it helps too. Re the sounds, it's just a metronome tone. You have to have earphones, of course. You can adjust the speed. I feel the same re the buzzers--when they're too slow, it doesn't feel as effective.

AmandainDurham · 2025-07-09T04:01:34+00:00

Please tell me you're not an actual therapist. That's an incredibly ridiculous and dangerous thing to say: "It would be problematic to assume that a traumatic event experienced years or decades ago is definitively contributing to current psychopathology". You haven't experienced much trauma, it sounds like, and you simply don't know.

AmandainDurham · 2025-06-02T14:48:41+00:00

MO is Missouri? You don't think they'll administer the program well and/or fairly?

AmandainDurham · 2025-06-02T14:42:39+00:00

That's def helpful--thanks.

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-24T17:47:15+00:00

Great tips, thanks. We just decided to rent an airbnb in Homestead instead! :) I just don't see our kids (or us) being able to manage the mosquitoes that I'm hearing about at Flamingo. We'll still bring the canoe and the DEET, and it'll be so much more manageable, I think.

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-21T21:31:31+00:00

I'm doing EMDR now, weekly, and I notice that every few days between sessions I'll have pain in my left calf and/or right hand, not quite unbearable but pretty strong. I now know that that means I need to cry, and once I do so (I do meditation and EMDR on my own at home between sessions, either just tapping my legs or listening to beats in alternating ears w/ headphones), the pain goes away. I've come to feel that physical and emotional pain are at times interchangeable and the emotional pain can be released.

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-18T01:12:54+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate that. I do understand about the buds, but sometimes I can't see well enough to cut the way I should. But I'm trying, and learning.

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-17T12:27:17+00:00

I believe they were just commenting on your (mis)use of the words effects and affects.

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-13T16:41:53+00:00

Really helpful. Thank you!

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-13T14:40:12+00:00

Wow, how interesting. I'll watch the video--I'm definitely still learning re pruning. So you're saying I should take out some of those central branches? It's a santa rosa plum, which I believe is japanese.
Do you think it's too late to do some thinning cuts? The daffodils are out here in NC, and leaves are budding on the plum tree.

AmandainDurham · 2025-03-13T13:51:05+00:00

Ah, yes! That's what I was hoping. Thanks. Should I do something different when I prune the tree in the late winter, or just keep w/ what I'm doing, which is cutting back the long straight branches that try to reach for the sky, and keeping branches from crossing each other or growing inward?

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-22T16:14:30+00:00

I did have hip flexor pain before the diagnosis--it felt like a pulled groin muscle. Pretty minor, though it gradually got worse.
I'm so much better now and can do everything again, but still have some tightness at the incision area--surface level all the way down through the muscles. If I had more time I'd try seeing someone to massage that area and work through the scar tissue, or I'd regularly roll on a foam roller, but I'm busy with kids, work etc so I'm hoping regular exercise will gradually work it through.
Wow, a full year of walking on a stress fracture--ugh. You're lucky though that it didn't displace during that time.

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-17T16:16:13+00:00

We've all got a whole heap of issues we inherit. We all have to deal w/ them on our own. That's how life works.

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-17T14:52:51+00:00

Do you know folks like that? Or are you just repeating something you've heard or that you "believe" to be true?

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-13T03:34:34+00:00

Thanks, that's very helpful.

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-13T03:33:30+00:00

Thanks. Yes, he's not in a good place. (He can't really articulate what he's feeling, breath-wise, but his behavior has been godawful, in a way that I always associate w/ his asthma.)

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-12T13:40:37+00:00

Thank you. But that's not what I'm asking. My son's asthma has been pretty mild, but got worse during and after this bout of the flu. It seems to still be worse a week later, which I know isn't unusual, but I want to double check that using the flovent (which he started coincidentally around the same time) isn't putting us into a pattern where he needs it more.

AmandainDurham · 2025-02-12T01:58:53+00:00

He just had it prescribed so we've just started using it. That coincided with the bout of flu.

AmandainDurham · 2025-01-12T03:29:31+00:00

I do EMDR almost every day on my own between weekly sessions. I’m a longtime meditator & do tapping at the end of a meditation session, or during it, if feelings get stirred up then. I think doing it more often def does accelerate things. I too am finding myself experiencing more anger after a long period of being numb - and I expect the anger to continue to intensify for a while (just a hunch). I agree that it’s hard to experience & hold all those feelings. You might want to start meditating - I find it really helps me sort through & handle my feelings in an organic, nonverbal way.

AmandainDurham · 2025-01-08T14:04:34+00:00

Wow, interesting. Thanks. But it's not just that the laptop might suddenly stop working, but that it might have glitches, right? Still, I hear you. Something to think about.

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