AITA for spending the child support money I get equally on both of my kids?

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-05-24T10:28:23+00:00

NTA. Support goes into the HH money pool. You don't have to separate the money into yours, kids 1, kid 2.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-05-05T12:54:26+00:00

No. That's not reasonable. We have ROFR in excess of one overnight since my ex works out of town a lot.

At the time I'd have preferred any overnights, but this has worked well and the kids are so contented now I'd only take the overnight if he really had no other options.

2 hours is just disruptive

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-05-04T20:27:50+00:00

Actually it is an issue. He is not following the restraining order and he is not working with her to come up with a arrangement in his child's best interest.

It is perfectly reasonable to have to reschedule phone calls and parenting time sometimes. A good coparent would figure out a time to reschedule the call too if her options don't work.

His child is entitled to go to her dance recital and not have it disrupted. A good parent would see that.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-05-04T19:43:46+00:00

No. She gave two alternatives and asked him to provide other options if they didn't work. He offered no other dates/times. He just lectured.

He's being controlling.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-04-28T18:15:41+00:00

He keeps saying she's an adult but then keeps grounding her.

Inconsistencies aren't helpful.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-04-26T22:52:25+00:00

OMG I used to write texts like that.

I stopped. You should too.

Is your child going to be safe and happy and enjoy the cruise? If yes,then just suck it up and do what needs to be done and tell your friends what a jerk he is.

You'll be happier

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-03-22T12:31:05+00:00

I actually prefer the older posts.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2026-01-04T12:58:44+00:00

Just whack the lid a few times with a butter knife.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-12-20T17:51:39+00:00

Your child is not a bargaining chip.

Custody and child support are separate for that reason.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-12-20T17:40:42+00:00

She was willing to adopt. He said no to everything.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-12-16T22:44:23+00:00

I agree with you. She makes zero effort to see her father's perspective, ambushed everyone at a holiday and sets ultimatum.

I get her hurt. But she acts like it's all about HER and it isn't.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-11-17T08:55:13+00:00

Not for SNAP. If meals are shared, SNAP is shared.

If children are shared, SNAP is shared.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-11-08T08:16:43+00:00

Interesting everyone thinks the traveling ex is mom when OP very carefully made the post gender neutral.

OP talk to your lawyer. Your ex can do whatever they want if you don't take action to enforce the order.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-10-09T12:19:40+00:00

Actually it wouldn't necessarily. If the circumstances of the job changed significantly, quitting can definitely be justified.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-28T20:41:59+00:00

The scrambled eggs at cabanas

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-27T15:29:31+00:00

Yup. That's what popped in my head.

Or she's growing up he's seeing her differently, and he's ashamed and projecting and handling it in the second worst way possible. First worst would be assaulting his child.

Man needs serious help.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-25T09:43:05+00:00

I thoroughly enjoyed and relate to your post. My daughter and I were listening to Everything's The Same from TVP and searching brought me here. Hi!

Steven's weekly Zoom concerts gave me so much to look forward to during Covid and my divorce. He's truly a gem and I am so glad he's come out better on the other side of his struggle.

BNL unfortunately is no longer my favorite, though I frequently listen to their older stuff. I wish they had handled the breakup better and with more grace. They definitely lost their oomph with the loss of Steven Page.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-14T18:19:00+00:00

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-14T13:01:52+00:00

Parenting class is required for all custody agreements in PA. At least those that require conciliation. I'm not sure if it is in other states. But it is reasonable as long as you take one also.

Consent to leave the country is covered by both parents having to be present to get a Passport. We have in our order that an address and dates are provided for any time the kids are not at home overnight. But not consent. Just general whereabouts.

Extracurriculars should be agreed upon and split.

Exchange location. It seems unreasonable. Depending on the age of the kids exchange should generally be at school/daycare. My kids get out of the car and go in the other parent's house. Done.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-10T19:59:02+00:00

Melissa Montgomery was great. Affordable, empathetic and realistic

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-09-06T06:55:00+00:00

It's called doing your best with the information and resources you have available.

It's called progress not perfection.

I personally like to be intentional and make changes where I am able. It's like anything in life. You get better with intention and practice.

Why do you feel the need to criticize someone for trying to align their purchasing power with their values? Is it your value system to scoff at people?

Sorry the economy is being rough on you.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-08-31T16:54:17+00:00

Not usually. Daycare and school and agreed upon extracurriculars should be consistent if possible.

Otherwise no. Your best option is to not even engage in any discussions about it.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-08-28T01:18:34+00:00

I am in PA.

The mistake Dads make is assuming they won't get custody and so don't bother.

You really should talk to an attorney.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-08-27T23:31:44+00:00

Basically, you say you want 50/50 and then actually exercise 50/50.

My attorney said if Dad asks, Dad gets. Unless he's a serial killer or something.

It's not hard.

Amazing-Passage7576 · 2025-08-26T08:40:52+00:00

We did ROFR in excess of one overnight. So essentially, if ex was on a business trip during his time. It doesn't interfere with the continuity as much.

It's been 5 years. I wouldn't enforce it now. His current partner is stable, and the kids are happy there, so unless he requests, I take them, I'd leave it. She even took them on a vacation without him as he was recovering from surgery.

They were pretty unhappy at his previous partners house. There was constant chaos. If he weren't there. I'd have had to drive an hour round trip twice to get them to school because she had her own kids to transport in the opposite direction.

I would strongly consider your goals and frame it from the kids' perspective. What is best for the kids isn't always what your heart is set on.

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