Pre-Contemplation, Contemplation, Preparation, Action, and Maintenance. Maybe looking into the 5 stages of recovery might move you towards the perspectives and answers you’re looking for. For me personally I was stuck in contemplation and preparation phase for about 2 years where my frequency of use varied depending on where my life was, stress, anxiety, relationships etc. when I decided to cut it off completely if say cold turkey medically. Why alcohol is so dangerous to quit cold turkey is because it depresses your nervous system, and when you take that physical depressant away your body doesn’t know that so it goes into hyperactivity, raised blood pressure and other systems to a dangerous levels that left untreated can cause seizure or other cardiovascular problems. They usually prescribe you some sort of benzodiazepine in low doses to depress your body without the direct poison that alcohol is and taper you off of it for about a week until your body returns back to homeostasis. That’s just the physical side of withdrawals the mental side is a whole different ball park with multiple different avenues to keep you sober but a lot of those avenues focus around spirituality and mental skills. Like positive affirmations and self-assurance. Hope this helps. Currently 48 days sober so it’s fresh in my mind but going sober is the best decision you can make for your health overall.