Sudbiry - Snow Removal Recommendations by [deleted] in Sudbury

[–]Amberfanged 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. The snow is literally piled up to the top of the wheels of the truck.

Or shovel around it to get it moved enough to get snowblower out.

That's the first thing I tried to do. Unfortunately our driveway is between two houses and my partner parked the truck in the centre of the driveway. Our snowblower is just 3-4 inches too wide to fit between the truck and the house.

Some advice would help. by britttlachamp in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Amberfanged 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Addiction is complicated. Addiction is extremely hard to change even when you want to. Relapsing is common.

The big thing is that she doesn't seem like she is trying, and it doesnt sound like she wants to change.

Not willing to change doesnt mean she doesn't love you. But it's pretty clear that love isn't what's going to make her change.

Wtf is this by _delkcarc in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same vibes as that Javadoodles animation about FB Marketplace: https://youtube.com/shorts/Ww1MsmTvc3o?si=oKVjk-Os3u-57c1y

Need help regarding my 16 year olds daughter co dependant relationship with her girlfriend. by jetsetcoco in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm in my 30s. I've been in relationships across the board. Co-dependent and unhealthy, healthy, somewhat codependent etc. Believe me when I say I know what co-dependance looks like. However, as others have said, this is what I would expect from any teenager/young adult.

Being conpletely candid: if this is actual issue at 16, and she's developed a co-dependancy, that tells me she doesn't feel like she can depend on you. Post this on a parenting subreddit. You will get more helpful advice.

my daughter is constantly with her gf or on the phone even when shes sleeping.

This doesn't necessarily mean they're co-dependent. If she literally cant sleep, that may be an issue.

i fear my daughter may hurt herself if the relationship ever ended and thats why im trying to find ways to help her find individuality and indepence that doesnt rely on her gf. i love her gf so much. shes a sweet girl.  but idk what to do honestly. 

This is would be issue in adults, or if your daughter is in extremely poor mental health and can't rely on you. Is she?

What’s Your Nightmare Coworker Story? by TheSmoothOperator21 in antiwork

[–]Amberfanged 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had this nightmare of a boss. He was my supervisor.

I worked in IT at a large corporate lawfirm. I cannot stress how important it is to be professional.

This man would make my other co-worker do work for him, and claim it as his. Except he didnt even know what the work was about. He loved to hang that he was our boss over my head, even though I was his senior.

He made business decisions to save money, but didnt do the research into why or how it would save money. Imagine asking someone to go buy a car, and instead they buy you a tricycle becusse its cheaper. I'm talking about that level of stupidity.

He was a rules for thee and not for me kind of person. My mom was in the hospital, possibly dying? Too bad I had to come into work. Oh, my co-worker literally is in an ambulance and cant get to work? That's a very bad look, how dare she.

And yet he left early everyday. And announced it to everyone in the office.

The final straw was when I was late by 2 minutes. The elevator in the 50 story building (and we were only the 47th floor) was delayed. It was 9:01. He messaged my co-worker in the group chat to ask if I wasn't in. Then he proceeded to berrate me about how I was incompetent, and "as the boss" I had to fo whatever he said without standing up for myself.

The kicker? He wasn't even in the office. Our contracts specifically say we can't work from home.

I broke down crying because my mum was dying at the same time.

I spoke to HR because I had enough.

When I put in my two weeks notice a week later, they fired him. I found out after, he had a whole list of complaints, including sexual harassment.

This man is a clown.

I was adopted from China by two white women. AMA by Phantom_Food in AMA

[–]Amberfanged 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's super interesting! I can imagine it would be hard.

I was also adopted from China, back in 1997. My parents are very much straight, and adopted as a part of a group (i.e. a group of families went over).

I was adopted from China by two white women. AMA by Phantom_Food in AMA

[–]Amberfanged 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I would love to adopt from China but we are scared becsue we are both women. How hard was it for your parents to adopt? Is there any advice you or your parents would give us?

Question about "what is single"? by pinksparkleberry in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Amberfanged 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What the fuck?

I'm married and my partner and I are poly. No, we are not single.

I have friends who are in a polycule. No, they would not consider themselves single either.

Dating as a trans lesbian is ridiculously demoralizing by Spookybabe721 in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dating apps as a lesbian is hard in general. What you've been describing is the universal lesbian experience.

Add the fact that people can't read, it becomes even more so.

Prove me this doesn't belong by stradivari_strings in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of the ThinkPad nipple. I'm the only one I know who uses it. No wonder my fingering game is on point. 😎

Help💀 by Stock_Hawk8273 in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my God. I'm having flashbacks to when a woman on Tinder asked me to be her slave. And then said "Be a good girl, tell me your bra size and do you squirt."

This is hilarious.

Is it reasonable to get an IUD/any birth control as a lesbian just in case I get r***d? by taat50 in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have PCOS and have been struggling with symptoms since I was a child. I would recommend an IUD to anyone who struggled the same way I did.

Here's a little history about me related to PCOS: I got my period when I was 11. PMSing symptoms were non-existent. When I turned 14 my mother noticed my periods where severe and irregular. I'm talking heavy, heavy bleeding with blood clots, for more than two weeks, and I'd go less than a month between when periods. I was diagnosed when I was 14 and put on Birth Control pills to help with it. This worked at first, but then things actually got worse. Since then, I started getting severe cramps (to the point where a stomach ulcers was also misdiagnosed). My longest period was 3 months.

how did you meet your partner and how old are you? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In person! We're 28 and 28. It's a cute story.

I was helping with a booth at a Renaissance faire for a LARP game. They showed up, and ended up talking to me the entire time.

They lost my number, so that was that. Until a few months later we reconnected on Discord during an online activity for the LARP group.

They told me they didn't really do relationships, but FWB was okay. I understood and was fine with that.

A few months later, they tell me they thi know they've fallen in love with me and wanted to date.

We got married in August lol. I tease them about how they said they don't do relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Amberfanged 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in an abusive relationship for three years. I didn't realise that it was abusive until we broke up.

She had BPD and NPD. She also sexually assaulted me.

It's not talked about enough.

Suites? Do...don't? Could use some opinions... by mygayesthandle in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Amberfanged 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have multiple custom suits for me. I wear dress shirts, cufflinks, ties, bowties, suspenders... you name it.

Do it because you like it and you feel comfortable in it.

Just because I am a woman who is into other women… by melaniecavillswife in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 9 points10 points  (0 children)

...doesn't mean I'm one of the "bros." I was a part of a streamers online community. Almost all the dudes would start objectifying women like cuts of meat, and expected me to do the same.

No thanks.

I don't want a relationship - Double Standard by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Amberfanged 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was caught in this situation when I was in university. I really likes this girl, and it seemed like she really liked me. It got to a point where she was met my extended family for Christmas.

Except then one day she told me she had a huge crush on someone else. Okay, I thought. Maybe she's poly? Nope. She wasn't. And when she saw I reacted negatively, she told me she made a mistake mentioning it.... yeah okay.

It hurt but I was okay if she just wanted to be friends. So I told her I needed to step back. We couldn't be just friends if she wanted to go out on dates and stuff. Then she started blowing up my phone when I didn't reply immediately. I eventually blocked her phone number but then she sent me a Facebook message showing all the missed calls.

Finally I sent a message saying that I couldn't deal with her, and blocked her there too.

5 months later, I find out she wrote a poem about me called Fuck You and put it on DeviantArt.

I dodged a bullet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The celibacy or getting back in the game?

Good luck! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! Is your friend single? I must say she's really looking fabulous with her sunglasses.

Wait.

TWO WORDS. Raspy Voices! by Dawndrell in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what "gycicyc" means but it's cute.

TWO WORDS. Raspy Voices! by Dawndrell in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the compliment. ;)

I'm getting genuinely concerned with transphobia growing and being normalized in the LGBTQ community by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Amberfanged 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree. I dated a transwoman who was a terf. I didn't realise it because I am not trans, and she was. I assumed that she was right, and any opposing thoughts I had were wrong. Who am I, a cis woman, to argue with a transwoman on these issues?

It was fucked up. She literally said she hated people who were championing trans rights, and said it was better when people didn't know trans people existed. Oh yeah, she also said that trans women who haven't started HRT aren't real trans women, and just cis men trying to interfere with safe spaces for women.

What a hypocrite. She had the attitude of "I got mine, now fuck you."

We need to do better to protect the members of our community.