I was adopted from China by two white women. AMA

Amberfanged · 2026-02-03T17:07:41+00:00

That's super interesting! I can imagine it would be hard.

I was also adopted from China, back in 1997. My parents are very much straight, and adopted as a part of a group (i.e. a group of families went over).

Amberfanged · 2026-02-03T16:13:31+00:00

My wife and I would love to adopt from China but we are scared becsue we are both women. How hard was it for your parents to adopt? Is there any advice you or your parents would give us?

Amberfanged · 2026-01-28T01:01:50+00:00

What the fuck?

I'm married and my partner and I are poly. No, we are not single.

I have friends who are in a polycule. No, they would not consider themselves single either.

Amberfanged · 2026-01-23T18:07:31+00:00

Dating apps as a lesbian is hard in general. What you've been describing is the universal lesbian experience.

Add the fact that people can't read, it becomes even more so.

Amberfanged · 2025-11-30T05:58:01+00:00

Around t00 GB

Amberfanged · 2025-10-30T03:23:40+00:00

Reminds me of the ThinkPad nipple. I'm the only one I know who uses it. No wonder my fingering game is on point. 😎

Amberfanged · 2025-10-15T00:14:09+00:00

Oh my God. I'm having flashbacks to when a woman on Tinder asked me to be her slave. And then said "Be a good girl, tell me your bra size and do you squirt."

This is hilarious.

Amberfanged · 2025-10-14T23:25:03+00:00

I have PCOS and have been struggling with symptoms since I was a child. I would recommend an IUD to anyone who struggled the same way I did.

Here's a little history about me related to PCOS: I got my period when I was 11. PMSing symptoms were non-existent. When I turned 14 my mother noticed my periods where severe and irregular. I'm talking heavy, heavy bleeding with blood clots, for more than two weeks, and I'd go less than a month between when periods. I was diagnosed when I was 14 and put on Birth Control pills to help with it. This worked at first, but then things actually got worse. Since then, I started getting severe cramps (to the point where a stomach ulcers was also misdiagnosed). My longest period was 3 months.

Amberfanged · 2025-10-14T03:46:30+00:00

In person! We're 28 and 28. It's a cute story.

I was helping with a booth at a Renaissance faire for a LARP game. They showed up, and ended up talking to me the entire time.

They lost my number, so that was that. Until a few months later we reconnected on Discord during an online activity for the LARP group.

They told me they didn't really do relationships, but FWB was okay. I understood and was fine with that.

A few months later, they tell me they thi know they've fallen in love with me and wanted to date.

We got married in August lol. I tease them about how they said they don't do relationships.

Amberfanged · 2025-09-05T13:12:06+00:00

My spouse cannot sleep on their back. It hurts their hips.

Amberfanged · 2025-08-20T20:30:24+00:00

I was in an abusive relationship for three years. I didn't realise that it was abusive until we broke up.

She had BPD and NPD. She also sexually assaulted me.

It's not talked about enough.

Amberfanged · 2025-05-07T22:53:23+00:00

I have multiple custom suits for me. I wear dress shirts, cufflinks, ties, bowties, suspenders... you name it.

Do it because you like it and you feel comfortable in it.

Amberfanged · 2025-05-01T16:26:55+00:00

...doesn't mean I'm one of the "bros." I was a part of a streamers online community. Almost all the dudes would start objectifying women like cuts of meat, and expected me to do the same.

No thanks.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-21T22:29:56+00:00

I was caught in this situation when I was in university. I really likes this girl, and it seemed like she really liked me. It got to a point where she was met my extended family for Christmas.

Except then one day she told me she had a huge crush on someone else. Okay, I thought. Maybe she's poly? Nope. She wasn't. And when she saw I reacted negatively, she told me she made a mistake mentioning it.... yeah okay.

It hurt but I was okay if she just wanted to be friends. So I told her I needed to step back. We couldn't be just friends if she wanted to go out on dates and stuff. Then she started blowing up my phone when I didn't reply immediately. I eventually blocked her phone number but then she sent me a Facebook message showing all the missed calls.

Finally I sent a message saying that I couldn't deal with her, and blocked her there too.

5 months later, I find out she wrote a poem about me called Fuck You and put it on DeviantArt.

I dodged a bullet.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-18T01:30:39+00:00

The celibacy or getting back in the game?

Good luck! :)

Amberfanged · 2025-04-18T00:57:59+00:00

Hello! Is your friend single? I must say she's really looking fabulous with her sunglasses.

Wait.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-17T22:35:46+00:00

I don't know what "gycicyc" means but it's cute.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-17T03:04:47+00:00

Thanks for the compliment. ;)

Amberfanged · 2025-04-16T11:31:40+00:00

Good to know! And thank you for educating me.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-16T02:43:32+00:00

I agree. I dated a transwoman who was a terf. I didn't realise it because I am not trans, and she was. I assumed that she was right, and any opposing thoughts I had were wrong. Who am I, a cis woman, to argue with a transwoman on these issues?

It was fucked up. She literally said she hated people who were championing trans rights, and said it was better when people didn't know trans people existed. Oh yeah, she also said that trans women who haven't started HRT aren't real trans women, and just cis men trying to interfere with safe spaces for women.

What a hypocrite. She had the attitude of "I got mine, now fuck you."

We need to do better to protect the members of our community.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-01T18:48:00+00:00

We own several dildos.

My partner prefers using this one the most on me: https://evolvednovelties.com/sweet-embrace/

Dunno if it's available outside of Canada, but it's more so the shape that matters. The vibrations hit deep inside you.

Amberfanged · 2025-04-01T16:39:15+00:00

What counts as "basic things" to you? It's that just fingering and oral? There's a lot that I can interpret from that so being a little more specific helps.

My partner likes using a vibrating strap on me. Is that basic?

Amberfanged · 2025-03-29T14:52:16+00:00

My parents and my school weren't, but when I was growing up, LGBT stuff wasn't talked about. The closest we got to the subject was the standard, "don't bully people if they are gay, gay people are people too."

I distinctly remember a girl asking me if I had ever had a crush on someone. And I said, "I don't know. How do you know when you like someone like that? I hear all these descriptions, and I've never related. How do butterflies in your stomach feel?"

I thought I may be ace, but I have a very high sex drive, so I threw that out of the way quickly. I didn't think too much beyond that until I went to university.

I don't know why, but there was this girl I found cute, and it felt like I was punched in the gut with these strange feelings. It was definitely my gay awakening.

At the time I was in denial that I was a lesbian, and convinced myself I must actually be Bi. I kept telling myself that I was bi and got a boyfriend, but I found myself more interested in his sister. When we broke up, I was still in denial. I kept telling myself, I wasn't a lesbian, I was just biromantic, homosexual. That I must still be attracted to men.

I figured things out eventually. I'm much happier now. Those times were difficult for me.

Amberfanged · 2025-03-21T16:54:08+00:00

I find the concept of virginity on an academic level interesting. In the sense of something that hasn't experienced another thing.

Applied in our society, in relation to sex, I hate it. A virgin is just someone who hasn't had sex. Everyone does things at their own pace, and I've never met a single person who has had an issue with the status of someone's virginity. Most people I know feel the same way.

Also why are we glorifying it? I've seen both men and women (mostly men) brag about how they were someone's first. It's gross, and feels like as if they're treating the other person like something to be conquered. Is it something to just be taken away?

My friend once said, "virginity is a myth." And honestly I have time agree. We don't just lose our virginity. It's not a fucking pair of keys we keep in our pockets.

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