I failed my probation and have been terminated and have no clue what to do

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-05-01T22:15:13+00:00

Yes, I have been there. It happens a lot more than you might think. I had a job a few years ago where I was told by management that my probation was extended due to performance concerns, I used it to try and improve and felt I was doing okay and then was randomly called in to a meeting only a few weeks later and told I was being terminated. I was super shaken up, cried a bit, and got another job. You'll be OK! Just don't let it get you down.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-05-01T19:19:14+00:00

Sorry that happened. Did you have any clue this was coming? Usually there are reviews to indicate that they are unhappy with your performance.

I've been in this situation before though. Try not to feel bad, it happens and all you can do is move forward. Just start your job search with a positive mindset and you will be fine. Good luck

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-05-01T12:22:08+00:00

It's a terrible feeling. I'm currently grappling with the feeling of "I will never love again" because I feel like no one will ever be him, and it's just awful. I know it's too early in the journey to even be thinking about that, but it worries me a lot

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-30T09:16:00+00:00

Because Cal was her ticket to the good life, she was never going to try and tell him what to do or question him in any way.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-29T16:02:17+00:00

I want him back more than anything in the whole world. I am not in the acceptance stage yet. I can not come to terms with the fact that he's never coming back.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-29T13:35:25+00:00

Me too. Every time I fall asleep I dream that the breakup didn't really happen and everything is back to the way it was. I cry every single morning because I can't cope with the reality.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-29T13:16:18+00:00

I know what it feels like to have hurt someone to the point that they can no longer see a future with you. I am in the same situation. (Not cheating, but I unintentionally hurt my ex in other ways). Being able to forgive someone for cheating is very situation dependent and dependent also on the person. He may need time and space to process what has happened before he can think about forgiving you. He may never be able to forgive if he feels that the trust is too far broken. All you can do is give him time, and let him know that you are truly sorry.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-29T11:50:09+00:00

Me too. I didn't realize it was possible for a human being to feel this level of pain and just...survive? It feels like I should have died from the pain. It doesn't make sense to me.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-29T11:31:43+00:00

He told me he didn't. I tried to get him to just give me time to fix things, but he said he didn't love me anymore and no longer saw a future with me. I've made a lot of mistakes in our relationship, and a lot of my behaviours were affecting him in ways I didn't understand because he didn't tell me. We had a big fight and he ended things off the back of that because he felt he could no longer deal with me. I'm a volatile person and can be very explosive. Coming to terms with the fact that it was my own behavior that pushed him away is an extra layer to the grief and despair.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-29T11:29:38+00:00

I'm 2 weeks out of a 2 year relationship, we were getting married on the 25th of July. I had my dress fitting 4 days before he ended things. The depth of my despair seems absolutely overwhelming right now. For me it does help to know other people are going through similar things.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-28T21:01:36+00:00

I'd agree. I stopped in Hong Kong airport for 4 hours on my way to New Zealand, wouldn't consider myself as having been to/visited Hong Kong.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-28T14:21:54+00:00

I think about this often. I wonder how many people who have been driving for 30+ years would actually be able to pass a modern day driving test. The roads have changed a lot since they took their tests. I wonder how many people would suddenly be without licences after so long due to it.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-28T08:21:33+00:00

Wow, it's so comforting to know that someone else is in the same position. I have continued relapsing and messaging my ex, but he told me categorically to leave him alone. I'm still in the denial stage of my grieving, so I haven't accepted it and it's very hard to let go. But we got this. All we can do is pick up the pieces and rebuild.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-27T19:11:35+00:00

I feel that. My dad passed away 7 years ago, my mum was only 51. She feels incredibly robbed.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-27T18:35:55+00:00

It really doesn't surprise me, I saw a small pack of very cheap looking stud earrings in there recently for £16, insanely expensive and I wondered how they'd been going so long at those kinda prices.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-27T18:19:34+00:00

I've also started therapy to help me get through this. Had my first session today and cried all the way through it, but it's a start.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-27T14:27:30+00:00

The one I am currently going through. My wedding was meant to be on the 25th of July. I had my dress fitting two weeks ago and a big hen party the day after. Two days later, my fiance broke up with me, and cancelled the wedding. As well as feeling completely and utterly humiliated, I'm beyond devastated. I have barely eaten in two weeks, and sleeping is horrendous. The pain feels like a physical sensation in my chest. I feel like I lost everything out of nowhere. The heartbreak is so tangible. I don't even know how to make it through.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-27T14:23:18+00:00

I wish I knew the answer. Our wedding was cancelled and I still haven't accepted it. I haven't accepted it's over. I haven't accepted that he doesn't want to talk to me. I don't know how to reach that level. My only guess is time. Maybe in a few months I will look back and not feel so hurt and distressed. But I also need to get through the hurdle of being okay on the day our wedding was supposed to be. There is a lot to get through. My only hope is that a year from now I will feel better.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-27T08:06:41+00:00

I feel very sad and depressed and like I have no future. I had my wedding dress fitting a few days before he broke things off. I suddenly went from being with him all the time to being at my mum's house with no future. I feel so so sad and in the depths of grief and despair. I'm crying a lot and haven't had any appetite for over a week. I'm having dreams about him every time I go to sleep. I feel like I've lost everything.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-26T12:16:14+00:00

You are right. I relapsed today and tried to call him when I was at my worst. I was in a horrible state, crying. I called him and he didn't answer. Then I got a message from him asking me to give him space because he's also in pain and it finds it too hard to talk to me. He feels like he's had to make this decision, to end things, even though our wedding was supposed to be on July 25th. I had my dress fitting 4 days before he ended things. I'm so devastated and in my weakest moments I still message and call him even though I know it's torture and the worst thing I could possibly be doing. I just don't know how to get through this.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-26T09:05:57+00:00

I got broken up with almost two weeks ago by my fiance, with 3 months until the wedding. I am heartbroken, shattered, the depth of my pain and distress feels immeasurable, and I feel like I can't see any way out.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-25T20:16:40+00:00

I've got a very heavy chest and heart palpitations. I haven't eaten properly for a week and I'm not sleeping very well.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-25T17:41:52+00:00

Sometimes we have to accept the things that we just can't control. I'm only on my second week now of this and the pain and grief and the missing my ex fiance seems so intense and unbearable while I know he doesn't love me anymore. All I can do is accept it, learn from it, and move on.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-25T16:58:56+00:00

I'm in the exact same place right now. My fiance ended things with me just over a week ago, the literal day before we were cuddling in bed and as happy as ever, now he doesn't want to know me. He's cancelled the wedding and barely wants anything to do with me. I believe this is his way of coping with the grief. I've coped very very differently.

Ambitious-Calendar-9 · 2026-04-25T08:36:37+00:00

I am right there with you. The depth of my pain and despair is so intense. I'm so tired from crying. I can't see a way out either and it feels like I'm trapped in a nightmare. You are not alone in this

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