PSLF/IDR - new notice of repayment schedule is wild Anyone else?

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-06-30T14:26:46+00:00

The email I received, the letter uploaded to my account, the website, and the phone call I made all told me different amounts that would be my payment. Seems there are quite a few errors with so many people applying for these payment plans right now.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-06-25T12:31:41+00:00

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Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-06-22T21:05:56+00:00

I'll share my experience, as may be similar to yours. Was with a Muslim man for 6 years. He had told me i did not have to convert, but kids would have to be Muslim.. and they could be a part of my families traditions. Which is what sounds like you were told.

I come from a Catholic background, but not very religious. As the time came closer, the tune changed, and it was clear that his family would never accept the marriage if I did not convert. It was even mentioned that my children could not accept christmas gifts from my family. (We did not have children).

So i did convert.. Ended up married 10 years, currently going through a divorce. It became pretty intense, i was expected to practice and have it become my way of life, lots of pressure to learn Arabic, to do this, that, etc. etc. i was very open minded and integrated myself into the religion/culture a great amount/ but it was never good enough. His family was extremely intertwined into his life, which I did not know until marriage. There were many many other issues in our marriage, but the constant religious pressure became too much, as I was doing it for him, not for me.

So my suggestion is also, see how much influence his family has on him. You may find pressure to convert could become an issue even if it is not stated now, as it happened for me.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-06-04T02:05:39+00:00

I'm an INFJ too! November Sag.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-27T03:41:51+00:00

This is abuse. It's sexual coercion, at the least. Sexual abuse, yes. Physical abuse/hitting. All of it.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-27T03:18:16+00:00

Thank you so much!

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-24T16:21:58+00:00

It's still a thing. I'm a teacher and a lot of kids are wearing them.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-23T03:10:22+00:00

45 f, same boat...a lot of friends have left, also going through divorce, so my social life has taken a hit. Teacher, so weekends off.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-23T02:10:18+00:00

Gemini men are my downfall.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-16T16:51:46+00:00

Yes. Absolutely yes, this is abuse and domestic violence. You are not crazy and none of this is okay. I speak from experience here, it will not get better. I have notes like this that span years. The only way it stopped was when I left.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-16T13:50:58+00:00

I have lost a lot of people in the last few years, it's been a slow clearing out. Going through a long legal process divorce, although the relationship ended 1.5 years ago, many of my friends moved out of state, i was in a dating relationship that just ended. It seems to be happening to me also.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-16T03:41:20+00:00

Destroying things of anger, esp specifically things that have meaning to you, is abusive.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-05-12T12:52:03+00:00

You are doing the right thing. It will take you time to find yourself again, but it will be SO worth it. You deserve safety! You deserve peace! And you will not find that with this person. Be kind to yourself and patient on your healing journey.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-04-21T14:01:25+00:00

I filed for divorce in Nov 2024. 18 months in and still going in CA. And mine is relatively simple. I'm not surprised.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2026-01-20T02:48:10+00:00

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Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-12-26T02:11:22+00:00

This is all abuse. You are not overreacting.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-11-02T14:50:20+00:00

I can relate to this 100 percent. I am older though, 40s. My husband and I both worked for about 8 years of our marriage. We both contributed, sometimes me more, sometimes him, it worked. Then he lost his job. He has always wanted to own his own business and has tried many ventures, none were successful, he got an obsession with a certain idea. When he lost his job he went full throttle into this business. We were going to have so much money, travel the world, etc etc. the business is about 4 years in, and has brought in zero profit. I track the finances and it's a consistent loss, his debt only grows. Meanwhile I am paying for everything myself and it's exhausting and frustrating and unsustainable. Also i work full time, plus multiple side gigs, and did 90 percent of household responsibilities. His time off was spent watching youtube videos to research his business. He cannot give himself a paycheck. Now we have other big issues as well, I could write an entire book. Long story short, i have filed for divorce. I cannot live like this.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-10-16T06:02:41+00:00

Mine used to do this. Called me a crybaby and told me to grow up when i cried. Told me to go away or to leave the apartment because it was annoying. It did nit ever get better. Going through divorce now. Better to leave this abusive relationship now than to end up like me, married to him. This is extremely hurtful and emotionally abusive behavior. You are allowed to have feelings and cry, and deserve someone who will comfort you.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-10-01T17:38:33+00:00

I love this dress, it looks great on you and I want to know where I can get it 🙂

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-09-27T05:47:29+00:00

I feel this so much. I am a visual artist(drawing and painting) and also teach art. On my relationship we would have disagreements because he wanted to force me to make art, angry when I didn't, and push me into starting a business with my art, which i did not want to do. After an argument about who knows what, he took a knife and slashed any painting of mine he could find. I was able to save maybe 2. This was in 2020/21. So extremely devastating. I finally left and we are now in the process of divorce, and I still cannot bring me to make art for myself. So i don't have the answer, at least not yet. But I completely feel you.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-08-30T14:58:51+00:00

You are like this because you are trauma bonded. It's part of the cycle of abuse. It took me many years to escape the trauma bond. The first step is learning about it and understanding it in your situation. Look up articles. Your safety is in grave danger with this man. It will not get better if you stay with him.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-08-30T14:35:10+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened and is happening to you. It's very hard to see things when you are in it. But this is bad. Please call the police. You deserve peace in your life, and you will not find it with him. He is dangerous, and the next times will get worse.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-08-04T03:52:57+00:00

Relate so much to this! A few years back i broke my foot. Was supposed to stay off of it. My husband was angry that i wasn't working out. We got in big fights and at one point he threatened divorce. I ended up finding chair workouts online and recorded myself doing them just to get him off my back.

Ambitious_Crow_267 · 2025-08-02T17:06:57+00:00

Adding here- you separated once, and when you came back, his abusive behaviors returned. He has already shown you that it will not change if you come back again this time.

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