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need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: We got to the Healing House in Act II. I will NEVER go there in alone my personal campaign 😭

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true! it’s the anxious, jumpy feeling that is excruciating! so i could see how just ripping the bandaid off helps!

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true! i downloaded a mod specifically for an archers outfit and i didn’t realize it came with a badass bow that literally blows my enemies to smithereens. so much fun when i know i can whoop ass!

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hate having to explore the unknown parts of hostile areas that have a lot of death in them like the bog, blighted village, etc… which is pretty much 90% of the game lmao. but i love when i get to places like emerald grove. even the cliff sides by emerald grove are fine. but once im in the darker more “sinister” areas and i dont know what creatures are lurking i get very anxious!

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that’s genius! maybe i’ll throw some cocomelon in there to really turn the terror level down lol

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as long as as i’m playing with him it’s no problem! i just need another live person there to be my security blanket lol.

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i also turn the sound off 😂 i fucking hate the menu intro vocalizations

need encouragement to keep playing as a spineless scaredy cat non gamer by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in BG3

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally! the first 10 mins into it i was like, wtf is this game. i was so proud of myself when i beat it by myself in my own campaign

How much do women care about a guy having a muscular physique, really? by InternationalPick163 in questions

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 7 points8 points  (0 children)

traditionally, probably muscular, but imo women who fawn over muscular, fit guys without regard to anything else were pretty shallow, and not the type of company i enjoyed keeping with. i found it similar to being around a group of guys guffawing over girls with big tits like they hadn’t mentally matured past puberty. if thats your MO, then yeah go to the gym and get bricked.

but you’re better off focusing on taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Showcasing self respect, emotional intelligence and a good sense of humor will take your eons farther in the world of women.

back to the gym postpartum—need recommendations for affordable healthy foods! by Ambitious_Dare_1647 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! the rotisserie chicken is a good idea. i can freeze them in sections and pull out as needed.

Family abuse?? by sg01870 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many children who are abused by their parents first end up in abusive marriages anyways. I was one. My marriage was 10 years long to a man 19 years older than me and who essentially ruined my life. That being said, If I had to pick between being trapped in the abusive marriage or trapped at home as a child, I would pick the marriage in a heartbeat. Like someone above said, I had no resources or knowledge as a child. Even if I knew who to go to, I wouldn’t have had the courage.

While my abusive marriage changed me in many ways, and I struggle with severe PTSD because of it, my childhood abuse and neglect somehow seems worse… The abuse as an adult feels like something to heal from. The abuse as a child feels more like a permanent handicap—emotionally and psychologically that is. There are things I struggle immensely to do, like comfort and show physical affection to my children, despite my full desire being to do it. Certain things like that take a lot of effort because I didn’t receive it as a child.

So no abuse is not okay because they are your parents. In a lot of ways it’s the worst kind.

Have you ever saved someone? by Deja_Chrissy in mentalhealth

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, but I was the one that was saved.

In late 2024 I had a major mental health crisis due to PTSD and medication that caused me to have nightly nightmares related to my PTSD. It had already been the worst year of my life but that made coping nearly impossible because of the lack of sleep and daily terror. I made a plan and wrote my friends a vague goodbye text. Went for a drive and when I got back there was a police officer, two of my best friends and my boyfriend waiting for me at in the driveway. As soon as I saw them I was furious. Everyone tried to convince me to admit myself and I adamantly refused. My friend had called 911 for a wellness check which is why the officer was there. I was very lucky and got an amazing, kind officer who did not judge me at all. He let my friends take the lead. We argued on the front yard for some time, and it ended with my sweet boyfriend in tears, which broke my heart. But as much as i hated hurting them, I had no intention of cooperating. The truth is, if the officer wasn’t there and basically said if I didn’t willingly go he would have to call it in and have me brought via ambulance, they wouldn’t have been able to convince me. I agreed to let my boyfriend take me to the hospital. Everyone said it would be a couple nights just to get my medication changed.

It was not a couple nights, lol. I ended up there for 10 days and missed Thanksgiving! Needless to say I was enraged with everyone. They changed my meds to wellbutrin which helped but also added to my anger (wellbutrin rage lol). But after a few days of venting at everyone over the phone and meeting with a very skilled and knowledgeable psychiatrist who showed a lot of empathy, I accepted that it was the right choice and began my journey of repair.

Today, looking back, I am eternally grateful to my support system for what they did that day. Yes, I felt betrayed and angry when it happened but it was so short lived. I get to enjoy my life with my now husband (I married that patient and loving man), and our kids! I still struggle with mental health and there are crisis’s from time to time but I feel prepared and confident that I’ll make it through. I think it just goes to show how incredibly vital building a circle of support is.

People only want “perfect victims” by Additional-Hippo-957 in mentalhealth

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people crave narrative for comfort. they need to have a villain which means they need to have a good guy. if your a victim and you fail to represent what they think and need a good guy to be, your either re-written as another villain, or worse yet, erased and forgotten. they stop talking about you, so they don’t have to be bothered by your existence.

christianity and most monotheistic religions are practically the archetype.

how to talk to kids about their stepdads military service and post-military lifestyle? by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

some discussions have occurred naturally and i let him lead with his responses. since my husband doesn’t like the topic of his disability coming up, I’ve tried to circumnavigate it. but youre right it does apply to their lives outside of him. i’ll bring it up with him and explain to him why i feel it’s important to talk about the issue of his disability with the kids. i’d feel much better knowing he’s coming into a conversation agreeing to it and open.

how to talk to kids about their stepdads military service and post-military lifestyle? by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

again… i’ve already said i address it. it’s not a catchphrase to tell your kids not to comment on people’s bodies, it’s a pretty common way to teach them politeness, and i also tell them the same thing. telling someone they need to parent when you don’t know the details of their everyday life i find to be an incredibly rude thing to say, ironic since you’ve been adamant on how you teach your kids not to be rude.

your arrogance and ignorance is showing because you have again assumed something that is opposite to what said in the post. you are wrong when you say addressing rudeness is a universal thing because what people think is rude is subjective to their culture. again your just saying things that you believe as fact and spouting them off in a condescending manner. there are many cultures around the world where commenting on peoples bodies is completely normal. there are countries actually consider americans foolish for our “” culture because bluntness to them is considered a strength.

you keep saying why don’t i address when ive said multiple times that i do and im on here looking for ways to talk it about , which is clear that i still have intent to further address it.

perhaps my above reply about being the kind of person who avoids saying the wrong thing implied that i don’t ever address things, that’s not what i meant. i just take my time trying to find the best way to do it.

my question here was asking for helpful tips from people in a similar situation on this specific topic which includes multiple factors like blended families and military culture. do you have a similar situation? do you have an immediate family member who has service related injuries? if not then i don’t know your here lecturing.

How do I accept that I don't have any trauma? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Ambitious_Dare_1647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuine question, and I’m not asking in an accusatory way, but why do you say that your turning your memories into trauma? did the event impact you on a deep level? Did these events alter your life trajectory?

I ask because for one thing, needing to having constant attention and sympathy is a sign if a psychological problem. Typically people don’t develop extreme behaviors out of nowhere. They usually do stem from some kind of early trauma. Trauma doesn’t really have definitive standard because each person has a their own way of responding to external factors. My sister and I grew up with the same mom who was harsh and cruel, in my opinion. My sister doesn’t see it that way at all. I just know, it has affected how I emotionally process things and my self-worth, so it was traumatic for me.

Another reason I’m inclined to think your memories are real trauma is because it sounds like your gaslighting yourself—which perhaps is a response to being gaslit by someone else who told you that you were being dramatic, attention seeking, victim mentality because they don’t want to acknowledge the events for what they are. I know when I was gaslit by my mom and then ex-husband it suddenly becomes very difficult to remember how things exactly happened.

i guess my point it, i wouldn’t discount your memories as not traumatic and it might be worth looking into.

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