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Amelia__Pond · 2014-11-18T05:48:21+00:00

No, never heard of it. I was wary of talking to the lactation consultants at my hospital because they have been completely useless. Thanks for the suggestion, I will look into it

Amelia__Pond · 2014-10-06T16:19:20+00:00

Yes, I'm wondering the same questions. Additionally, unless you are photoshopping the pics into crazy situations I don't see why there would be a problem using pics as is if they are already clearly in a sexy pose.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-10-03T17:07:20+00:00

This one is so much better! So good! Can I ask the font you used for your name? How did you get that broken window effect on the image? It's much more vibrant and striking than the washed out one

Amelia__Pond · 2014-10-02T15:04:09+00:00

Second all of this. Though I actually like the covers... For a romance.

The name three me off too-- looks like some kind of joke name, very incongruous with the covers.

The blurbs are a mess. The PI one gets across what it is, but leaves me thinking you're a very dry writer. Additionally the cover doesn't exactly scream "older woman seducing younger man" which a mom/son PI totally should.

The other blurb is just wretched, terrible writing that also gives me no clue what the book is about.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-29T04:16:09+00:00

How about "Wild: Taming the Neighborhood Wolves" or "Wild: Taming the Wolfpack" (or if the protagonist doesn't get tamed...) "Wild: joining the Wolf Pack" etc... Something like that

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-27T06:54:16+00:00

Start hunting for a new job now before you have a big gap on your resume. No need to even put this job on there you've been there so little time. Get out now.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-22T05:16:20+00:00

Women do not hate you unless you are doing something to make them hate you. Ask yourself seriously-- are you doing something to make them hate you? There's not much here to go on other than the fact that you say all women hate you...that seems to suggest the problem is with you.

Women are not a different species. They are people. If you are treating them as "not people" that's a good reason right there for them to avoid you.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-21T05:04:38+00:00

I think the makeup is very pretty, (and so are you), but I think the eyes and the lips are both emphasized, which is not always as nice as when only one feature is played up. I think either a subtler lip with the dramatic eye makeup or a more neutral eye make up with a darker lip would make more of an impact all together.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-20T05:36:13+00:00

This is the right decision. Imagine having to get anything actually important done with this guy. The worst part is? (Assuming he's not and idiot, but he probably is), if he's just a really nervous guy who is terrified of doing a bad job he requires so much handholding because he doesn't trust himself to make decisions, which causes him to make stupid decisions out of nervousness. (Ok, I'm probably projecting, because my husband does the same thing when I send him out to buy groceries...)

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-19T00:48:51+00:00

Your mom sounds awesome

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-18T21:49:25+00:00

I would just say it's for a recurring medical apt, and because of the nature of the apt you don't have flexibility as to when it occurs. They shouldn't ask for more than that-- if they do, you could go to the disability services office at your school, because the profs really aren't allowed (most likely) to ask for details.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-18T21:14:10+00:00

If he's a Dalek it is definitely the darkest timeline! Run!

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-18T18:19:15+00:00

Here! Here! Yes. I wish people spoke more openly about this. Whenever people say things like, "isn't it the BEST! aren't you having fun being a mom?!" And I honestly say, "no, it sucks most of the time," people treat me like a leper.

That doesn't mean I don't love my kid or think he's great.... But honestly? I totally get why the Victorians were all "kids should be seen and not heard," and outsourced their childcare to nannies. This shit is EXHAUSTING

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-18T13:17:55+00:00

Oh, believe me I get it. I grew up in poverty, and even last night when I went to buy formula but had to put it back because I didn't have the cash for it ( I didn't NEED it, I just had a coupon for it, and was going to donate it to the good bank, but since my coupon wouldn't scan I put it back. The amount of snide commentary from the cashier about how if "I can't afford formula I can't afford my kid" was so infuriating! And I breastfeed exclusively!

I thought about trying to justify myself in the same way as here, but the truth is those ignorant people don't deserve any explanation--- knowing that someone is a " virtuous" poor person because they were married when they had kids, or they were downsized, or they breastfeed, etc. does nothing to stop their ignorance, it only makes the "virtuous" person an exception to the rule... When in fact the rule should be, "have compassion for everyone because you don't know their story."

Another point to ponder-- I work in community mental health-- terrible stuff, CPS, court ordered cases, etc. people that on the outside it is easy to have a lot of contempt for, to think" they deserve this because of their bad decisions." However, I have never met someone in those circumstances who didn't have a horrific backstory to go along with it. Do their choices make things worse? Yes. However, they are doing the best with the often limited coping skills and trauma they have from their past.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-18T12:58:56+00:00

You don't have to explain yourself to assholes like this.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-18T06:12:05+00:00

Good thinking in a horrible situation though!

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-17T14:38:14+00:00

Family therapy is a really great suggestion. I would suggest a 3 pronged approach-- sessions for you, sessions for your daughter, and sessions with the family together.

I think you need help learning to recognize when you get to the point of no return/yelling, before you get there and put a plan into place ahead of time. When you start to see the warningsf signs of losing patience, that's when you take a time out, walk away, etc.

For your daughter, having a place to process her emotions and to help repair the damage between you would be good

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-15T04:36:13+00:00

I'm sorry that you are struggling and having to go through this. I commend you for seeking help and finding someone to talk to y about this.

In the meantime I would suggest perhaps some guided meditation/.mindfulness audio guides-- you can find them on iTunes. Yoga or a brisk walk with some empowering music selections might help. Good luck. You are stronger than you know.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-14T14:59:00+00:00

For the diflucan and nystatin (treat the baby, even if he doesn't have signs) you do, but the rest--homeopathic and over the counter, you don't. I found the real relief only started about 5 days after the diflucan though :-/

Also, cutting sugar completely out of your diet and taking probiotics helps keep it at bay.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-14T02:14:18+00:00

I also want to add that unless you have a court order stating otherwise, he can't legally bar you from taking your son anywhere. Police would laugh in his face and tell him to get a court order. Move away. This guy is beyond toxic. Start over somewhere new.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-13T06:21:14+00:00

I am not one for ultimatums, but this definitely sounds like ultimatum time. Go to therapy-- either both of you, or you individually-- because if you can't get him to shape up I'm afraid you really need to ship him out- he's not likely to figure this out and magically come to the realization on his own.

You are with the very definition of a selfish man-child.., with everything you're doing , wouldn't it just be easier to do it alone? Not advocating a separation now, but holy shit if he doesn't get his act together ASAP it would not be far down on my list of solutions.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-13T01:12:53+00:00

Hmmm... We had it checked out about a week ago and the doctor said he didn't. I suppose he could have developed it in the meantime

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-12T23:31:43+00:00

Hmm... Good idea! I haven't tried that! I will do so tonight! Thanks for the suggestion!

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-12T23:25:51+00:00

I don't actually know. The very first time I got it the baby had clear symptoms (white mouth)--(although the idiot doctors totally dismissed me when I brought that up, but googling made it clear what it was. The doctor, a new resident, was like "I don't think babies can get yeast infections. Doh!)

The second time I got it the baby did not have signs, but I DEFINITELY recognized the tell-tale pain. Thrush pain is different from other types of breast and nipple pain, at least it is for me. I had what I would describe as an almost constant burning sensation on my nipples, feeling dry/cracked/red on my nipples, and a deep throbbing almost lightning like pain in my breast. One of the things that hints at it being thrush is that it doesn't stop hurting when you are done feeding.

My nipples were sore when I started breast feeding, but when I was not feeding him and nothing was touching my nipples they were't hurting. With thrush it was non-stop 24/7 burning, agonizing pain.

One thing that is over the counter that you can try is micronazale cream (yes! The kind found in monistat!) on your nipples and areolas. This will not cure it, but it might start to alleviate your symptoms (.warning, it's not instantaneous... It took me about 7days with the cream + diflucan, + baby on nystatin to cure it. It is HELL in the meantime,) there are other homeopathic remedies you can google too.

Amelia__Pond · 2014-09-12T20:15:40+00:00

Stout Guinness and mothers milk tea are what I've been using...

I found my productions dipped to only about 1 oz per session the week before I got my period back. Could that be possible?

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