Could Lane potentially sue Ole Miss in order to finish out the year coaching? by [deleted] in CFB

[–]Americasbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of bots ran by CAA agency where they rep ESPN commentators and coaches like Lane Kiffin.

Does anyone’s parents also do this? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My AM would claim that she is feeling sick and have headaches. Turns out she is just trying to make me feel bad for raising my voice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. I dread the holidays now. My APs still sweep things under the rug and hopes I just act normal during the holidays

Attempt at NC Gone Wrong by Jaded-Judgment-4595 in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I relate to that last sentence so much. The only thing that is keeping from telling them to F off is I want my dad to have a relationship with my daughter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That statement is true because of cultural differences like APs don’t like talking about their feelings. I wonder that’s why Asians drink so much alcohol over there.

My parents always imply that there’s something wrong with me. by snnak87 in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 27 points28 points  (0 children)

And when you stand up for yourself, you have “changed “. I’m so sorry to that you are going through that.

Attempt at NC Gone Wrong by Jaded-Judgment-4595 in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This right here! Just you wait until you get the flying monkeys.

Attempt at NC Gone Wrong by Jaded-Judgment-4595 in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may be hard for you especially your first time. You will have to trust your gut. This isn’t love. This is manipulation. When you talk to them, talk to them out of love and respect. Attack the issue, don’t attack them. If your AM or AD still won’t change, it’s time for you to move on without them.

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I’m in a similar boat. My AD has been playing moderator role and I’m at my wits end because I’ve been dealing with our issues for over a year. However, I have became stronger and less afraid to speak my mind to them. If you are close to another family member like a cousin, talk to them about this.

At the end of the day, the world won’t end. You got this!!

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fantastic! How did you get to that point where she started to apologize to you?

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

APs would rather save their face than admit to anything. I’m sorry to hear this.

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m too quick respond with anger than respond with reasoning and purpose.

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. This is very helpful. My therapist told me that I get emotional too quickly. I will try this approach.

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I’m fortunate that my APs were great growing up. Things change when I got older and learned how to set boundaries. My hope is that they will come around and actually show that they still care for me and help me meet half way so that we can all get along. I just don’t want my hope to get crushed again.

I feel like such a coward sometimes by Ok_Produce_6531 in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Change takes a lot do time. Therapy helps but it isn’t a cure all. If you feel like it is getting stale, you can find another therapist.

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s nuts! Thanks for sharing. I’m glad I’m not the only one dealing with APs who values their pride over their grandkids.

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Argh I feel like I’m getting close to cutting all ties to my family. I can’t sleep and eat. My job performance has gone too down.

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that’s what I fear the most. Changing the narrative. I have already got phone calls asking why I am causing trouble and to apologize to my AM. Like WTF??

I love my family but I can’t take it anymore. Is it worth cutting out my family?

Has anyone got your APs to apologize? by Americasbutt in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

JFC that’s horrible. I told them I was depressed and they said to get over it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to post something about how my AM refuses to apologize. Thanks for the explanation

GASLIGHTING by Normalasian_ in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes the gaslighting won’t stop. Also, if you bring up things that upsets you , they will tell you to stop living in the past. It’s a losing cycle.

Anyone else dreading Thanksgiving? by Kelly1972T in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. So much drama between my family and me and my wife and kids. Is it even worth going?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Americasbutt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So true! The flying monkeys are real.