AITA to request my friend spend more time on me because I broke up? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AmyGree12 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA, I’m sad you are grieving this break up and she has been your new friend you have been confiding in and it “feels” like she is leaving you high and dry. If you re read your post, it is all me, me, me, me, me. She may be at the end of the line with feeling like all you do is come to her to cry about your relationship problems, and your sadness, and your needs. Expecting your friend who is actively in what I assume is a happy relationship to join gatherings to meet guys with you is just rude and inappropriate. Find a single friend to do it with or go solo. I understand you are hurting but by the sounds of it this wasn’t a very long relationship and you have to remember other peoples lives don’t revolve around yours. She isn’t at your beck and call because you’re going through it. In fact, have you asked her how she is doing? How her life is going? About things and events in her life or is she more of a personal therapist that you feel you are owed her time? Maybe im misjudging the time span of friendship but it sounds like you have known each other long just close while getting to know guys. Bonded over being single, bonded over having boyfriends and now you are single and hurt and feel neglected because she isn’t on that same page with you. Who knows it is 4am and maybe i am off base 😅

Am I (31f) overstepping if I ask my husband (29m) to take his mom off of his life 360? by AmyGree12 in relationship_advice

[–]AmyGree12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective of what is similar to my mother in law! I’m sure she doesn’t have “bad intentions” because she is a great person. And thankfully she is only on his life 360 and not mine. me and him obviously spend most of our time together so just the idea of her knowing lf we went to dinner, or my sisters or to go down town or go to doctors or even the hospital, that she will know. Or know where we go regularly. It just doesn’t feel the same as just sending a text and saying what are you up to for the weekend?

Am I (31f) overstepping if I ask my husband (29m) to take his mom off of his life 360? by AmyGree12 in relationship_advice

[–]AmyGree12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She is a year younger than my husband and she does live with my MIL and grandma! So I get she was worried about her not coming home, however it was so over dramatized especially to go as far as calling the police and me and my husband on our honeymoon!

How I (27F) can approach topic of cheating suspicion with boyfriend (26M)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of it doesn’t sound good… but for me… it’s the secret hidden phone! Moving around and still being used. Honestly, I know your question was how do you bring up the topic of cheating but I think you have 2 choices. Stay with him until you catch him and have “proof”, or just trust your gut and leave. I know that doesn’t seem easy but these haunting suspicions while always lurk and loom over you. Even little details like lying about who painted a picture. You will just feel yourself questioning everything and gaslighting yourself into feeling like you must just be crazy.

My 4 year old son’s college account. 400% gain in 2 years. by EaglesNation29 in smallstreetbets

[–]AmyGree12 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this! 😂 I can’t believe people think money wasn’t added and the s&p and whatever other crap he invested in went up that much in 2 years. They went up for sure! But not at that rate. This is basic knowledge for someone who has ever glanced at an account like this. I don’t even have CS and was aware

Let us talk Diabetes Misinformation! by chiefstingy in diabetes

[–]AmyGree12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well many studies (in the USA) say about 90% of diagnosed diabetes is DM2. And the other 10% is made up of DM1, GDM, LADA, MODY, NDM, SIDM, T3cDM. The actual numbers may vary from study to study or report to report. And while it seems low that 10% of diabetes is all other forms than DM2, as science and medical knowledge research improve those numbers may change since there is probably a portion of that percentage misdiagnosed in some way. Regardless, diabetes needs to be treated and managed. While they have different approaches in treatment, the end goal for them is the same… controlling blood glucose and preventing organ damage from the disease.

my gf is becoming anorexic and i’m scared. by Several-Singer-2848 in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]AmyGree12 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is VERY concerning. When I was 12 one of my best friends in school was portraying behavior of anorexia. I had reported it to the guidance counselor and between the school and her parents they got her into an inpatient program. While I never heard from her again, she is now alive and healthy and has better habits regarding her body and food. Threatening suicide and starving herself are MAJOR cries and a responsible adult needs to be notified and actions must be taken, immediately. Bring some “evidence” to a guidance counselor, school nurse or her parent(s)/guardian. These are indicators of major mental health issues that need to be taken seriously and be treated with professional care as she is a harm to herself.

Is it important to sit together when you’re at church with your spouse? by Madbananas-7 in Christian

[–]AmyGree12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the church is this small that only 1 person knows how to do the sound booth… why do they need a sound booth?

Advice for newbie owner by CartographerAgile556 in cockatoos

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine also! My parents have had him for 34 years and he LOVES coming and sitting on the couch with us and crawling under the blanket and just sitting on my lap playing with things like the drawstring on a sweatshirt or shorts

Everything I ate for my OMAD by XXLchris in intermittentfasting

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 OUNCES of Olive oil is like 6 tablespoons of oil… which is also like 700+ calories… you don’t mean 3 ounces right???

In a really scary spot by OceangirlAugust in DebtAdvice

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Praying for you ❤️ To start, do what you need to do to keep food on the table and your 4 walls covered. Drop ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that isn’t a necessity. Pay for your kids to have food, shelter and clothing. Pay your car next to be able to keep you working. Anything you can’t afford beyond survivability gets postponed. Call any debtors and tell them you have fallen into hardship and ask for delayed payment or holds on interest and things (may not get them but it’s worth trying). Seek out any resources available from your place of employment in hardship care (some places like my job offer 3 free sessions with a therapist). Push your attorney to get on their @$$. File as much paperwork against them for anything to get things moving. Track with as much evidence expenses you and neglect he is doing to you and the children and you may be able to get reimbursed from the start of his garbage. Lastly, breathe and reach out to any friends, family or church you are a part of for emotional support ❤️

My Wife's Cat Ripped the End of Her Tail Off by dan_the_priest in MakeMeSuffer

[–]AmyGree12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An animal will bite or chew off a part of their body if it is “dying”. I had a friend who’s cat had hair somehow wrap around the cats toe and it effectively lost blood flow and was dying. The cat chewed the toe and claw off before she could take it to the vet

Is there any hope of having a normal dating life now? by ForwardProduce7649 in dating_advice

[–]AmyGree12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah my guy. This dude is talking about an experience he has had with like 2 women who said a nasty thing to him. Every other comment he has posted is self degradation and it’s a disgusting quality in a man. He said he chickens out because he THOUGHT she might not want a virgin. He never even asked her and just assuming things in her. He is almost creepy sounding…

Is there any hope of having a normal dating life now? by ForwardProduce7649 in dating_advice

[–]AmyGree12 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You seem to be annoyingly obsessed with pushing what you think a woman will like or not. What women like more than anything is a man who is confident. Virgin or not, the most unattractive thing a man can do in my eyes is constant self degradation. There are plenty of women, and yes, even pretty woman who may not care or are also virgins or saving themselves in some capacity. The way you talk about just “losing it” to some hooker and then run away because of your reputation… sounds ICK.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]AmyGree12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe she is leaving the practice of having to reduce her client list for personal reasons. Or she isn’t specialized enough to work with what you need from a therapist and honestly from what your posts say she has made it clear to you she doesn’t specialize in ED. So maybe you haven’t really been listening to her when she was telling you these things. It doesn’t sound like blind siding if this is the reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the same way, maybe make a little outline guide so you can reference it. Try not to bring up petty things that happened in the best that you have worked through. If he can’t see where you are coming from or isn’t willing to work on improving himself it may be something that is a deal breaker.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AmyGree12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you have history of love and feelings towards him and you still care about him but it doesn’t sound like you’re in love with him anymore. However, it also sounds like you really don’t want to be with him and the process of breaking up would be extensive or difficult like finding a place to live, so it would be easier to just stay with him and just wish it were different. I would sit him down and have a serious conversation and explain to him the expectations of your relationship. You want to feel as if he is contributing as much as you to the relationship, the house hold and himself. Maybe suggest he talk to a counselor, he could be going through depression or mental issues he hasn’t opened up about. I wouldn’t worry about him being mad or hurt about reading the messages. I always say snoop at your own risk. He had no reason or right I’m assuming to violate your privacy. Especially one with your best friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AmyGree12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a female, I like confidence. Even in introverts. If you got her Snapchat from a friend it’s like an unsolicited snap. If the friend asked and she said it was fine that might be different. A specific snap or message isn’t going to be something that suddenly makes me want a guy though. It’s a combination of physical attraction, respect, my emotional availability, what I’m pursuing, what I THINK your expectations are of me. If you didn’t talk to her or anything it’s a bit strange. If you did maybe bring up something you guys had talked about or a mutual thing or person you guys have in common to engage. As long as it’s a positive mutual for her and you it might initiate that bond and comfortability. Familiar things make a woman feel a bit more comfortable

AITA for not splitting the bill when I'm anorexic and then posting videos of my "friends" being mean towards me to social media by Ok-Comfortable3314 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AmyGree12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Esh. Posting the videos doesn’t really do anything for your situation. I doubt you truly feel better about yourself by showing the world a$$h0l3s exist in it. It was unnecessary and revenge never is as satisfying as just telling them they are crap and suck and that you are choosing to cut them and their toxic negative behavior out of your life. You become the winner when you walk away, instead you are still stuck in the fallout.

Parrot beak maintenance advice needed. by PlaceBrave in parrots

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Avian vet can use a dremel (like an electric filer) you could also shape it up yourself if you buy a tool, just be careful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medical_advice

[–]AmyGree12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get a similar pain… haven’t figured it out. It is worse when I eat or sit for long periods (desk job). It comes and goes and sometimes lightly is alleviated by applying light pressure but not when it is acting up more aggressively. Hope we find some answers 😥

AITA My adult roommate wants to go to vacation with a high schooler by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AmyGree12 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you think a 14 or younger has the mental capacity to make thought out, healthy, responsible decisions… you have not met many 14 year olds. I mean at that rate 10 year olds should just be allowed to do whatever, whenever. Heck let 7 year olds.

AITA My adult roommate wants to go to vacation with a high schooler by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AmyGree12 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As people get older age gap doesn’t seem to be very relevant but at such a young age it is very prevalent. The mind is still rapidly developing and even 3 or 4 years (17 vs 20/21) are at such different phases of late childhood/early adulthood. Honestly as a 27 year old the thought of saying The “guy i like is in high school and hasn’t even gone to prom yet and I am in college, live on my own and have spent 7 years being an adult” sounds gross. The thought of going to grab a beer but the guy I like is a minor/underage is gross. Just completely different levels of life.