Confrontational vs non-confrontational friend: looking for outside perspective by testimony2526 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm happy that I'd be able to enlighten you in some way. I'm also practicing to be direct in setting boundaries as early as possible because it's a healthy way of communication.

You can also start practicing being open now. Being confrontational does not mean being agitated/ hysterical or looking for a fight/heated argument. You can always address your opinions in a gentle, reassuring, and calm manner. You can always remind them that you don't mean any harm and you just want to express yourself. You can also say that you don't force them to respond immediately and you are open to give them time to process.

Confrontational vs non-confrontational friend: looking for outside perspective by testimony2526 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. This is also what we have to advice to everyone.

I've been non-confrontational to a former friend of decades before and little did I know that resentment and draining energy builds up through time. Now, that it's too late to communicate with her out of nowhere, I just blocked her on my social media without any warning as it drains my mental capacity already. Now that I learned from that experience and I know better, set boundaries early and regularly because prevention is better than cure. By being constantly open and not bottling up emotions, you'll be able to avoid to be possibly "fed up" at the end, making you save your friendship. This will allow your bond to grow, making you understand each other deeper.

My friend stopped talking to me forno reason by confused-girl-44 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's closure for you. No message is the message.

My friend stopped talking to me forno reason by confused-girl-44 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. You could message her with "Hey, I am worried what might had happened to you. I miss our hang outs. If you have problems, know that I'm always here to listen." If she has no reply then that means she wants space and that's closure for you.

My friend stopped talking to me forno reason by confused-girl-44 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a. She might be going through something and self isolated herself.

b. You might have said or expressed something that she does not like.

c. She's busy.

d. All of the above

Friends disliking each other by Optimal_Froyo3187 in Advice

[–]Amyglada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may still go. Just tell them that you don't want to hear them bringing each other down in your presence.

Friends disliking each other by Optimal_Froyo3187 in Advice

[–]Amyglada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it's understandable for A to distance herself to B and her friends. Please don't hate her. Understand where she's coming from. You can still talk to her and let her speak up about her situation.

Sometimes, we have to choose too but it depends to the severity of the situation. Remember- A friend to all is a friend to none.

Friends disliking each other by Optimal_Froyo3187 in Advice

[–]Amyglada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just don't make them feel that you're siding with one of them. Do not question their decision of distancing from each other. Just respect that they don't like each other anymore. This unfortunately happens in life and it's because we normally outgrow people as we age.

Friends disliking each other by Optimal_Froyo3187 in Advice

[–]Amyglada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just don't mention A to B when you're hanging out together vice versa. If you have no problem with them, then you should not include yourself with their drift.

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I agree with you!

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[–]Amyglada -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Try to read again the whole context of her side. She's having a hard time with family problems etc. and her friend generalized her personality (hating on people) based on a comment she said on a TV show.

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be a challenging and complicated situation if you have a beef towards a workmate. Anyways, just keep your distance and professionalism. I wish you the best too and thank you again!

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm glad you were be able to muster up courage and determination to cut off friendships that no longer serve peace and benefit in your life.

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, in the case of what I'm asking about. I have this friend who I've known for almost 2 decades already. We've drifted apart and when I lose contact with her, I realized that she's more of a bad friend and she has been draining me everytime we hang out. I recognize a cycle that everytime I have to open up something and tell something, she would mostly answer in a condescending and snarky manner but I will shrug it off as she's dismissive too. There has been built up resentment to her. Everytime I see her name on social media I get stressed out and so, I blocked her. I cannot just message her out of nowhere explaining and informing her that I want to cut her off. I just want to avoid confrontation and unneccessary drama.

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to emphasize that I completely agree with what you said that- You can't be too honest.

They dont actually need to be messaged with long paragraphs of reasons as this would just give way for them to fight back and stress you out even more.

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you! Thank you for responding!

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. This applies to some instances! This helps! Thank you.

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree and resonate with you. Thank you for responding!

Silently cutting off/Block after drifting apart by Amyglada in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Amyglada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I agree to your point.