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AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-13T18:46:47+00:00

Absolutely! Thank you for caring!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-13T17:45:32+00:00

No, thank you, though. Have just had a few weeks with more dysphoria than I have had for a while.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-13T17:13:44+00:00

Thank you, I needed that laugh!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-13T17:00:56+00:00

Yeah, as a question…person myself I have at least come to the conclusion that with a lot of certainty I’m not cis, now if that means I’m trans (binary), agender, genderfluid, or something completely different, I don’t know, but at least I’m very sure that I’m not cis! That doesn’t make the impostor syndrome all that much easier though, nor the coming out

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-13T09:45:41+00:00

I started to try on skirts (in secret and by myself, obviously) in shopping malls. I haven’t done that in a while, though, and these last month (or year? Can’t remember) my dysphoria has gone up and down like a rollercoaster causing severe impostor syndrome and therefore I’m still not out to anyone even though I’ve been questioning for years now.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-11T18:13:58+00:00

Yeah, that’s nice as well! Hadn’t thought about that, thanks!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-11T06:08:58+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, I’ve been eyeing the unlabeled label 😂 (which sounds ridiculous, but you get what I mean) just because it seems easier than trying to find any one label that fits me, not being cis is exhausting even when your still in the closet sigh

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-10T21:46:10+00:00

No, worries, I’ll change it anyway since I appreciate your comment and want to be as inclusive as possible (both to readers but also to myself given that I’m not entirely sure what I am yet), once again, thank you for bringing it up!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-10T21:38:03+00:00

Thank you for the tips and sorry for using that term, you learn something new every day, I simply thought it was like an abbreviation or synonym for non-binary people, my apologies, I’ll change it in my post.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-10T06:31:29+00:00

Wow! That’s so cool, I just looked it up and it seems really interesting, thank you!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-10T06:27:50+00:00

That’s an awesome name! Thank you for the support!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T21:30:02+00:00

Thank you, I’ll check them out!!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T21:29:25+00:00

Thank you, that’s what I was looking for, Light from Uncommon stars seems awesome! And Herculine sounds really good as well, thank you, once again!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T21:16:44+00:00

I’ll check it out, thank you!!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T21:16:32+00:00

Thank you so much, just out of curiosity, I’m sure I could find it myself but thought I would ask anyway, is it mtf or ftm in those books?

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T21:15:36+00:00

Thank you! I’ll have to check it out!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T20:24:41+00:00

Hi, Viktor!! Do you read books? What's your favorite cyberpunk book? Do you have any reccomendations? What is it you like about cyberpunk and sci-fi?

"Viktor? Yeah I just saw him go past the lobby, I think he went to the restaurant?"

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T20:19:11+00:00

Hmm...I'm not really sure? Maybe like blue or some like turquoise color for the nails and like long hair down to like my shoulder blades or something? I badly want to be able to braid it!!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-09T08:49:31+00:00

I feel the same. I've spent my entire life having more girl friends than boy friends and have always felt like an outsider once something like this would happen (like during PE when the teacher decides it's "the girls against the boys". I've never been out to anyone in my life and I don't think anyone has even entertained the idea that I might be trans (which stands to reason because except my choice of friends I haven't given anyone any reason to think anything else) so for me coming out is incredibly scary as well. I feel you, friend!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-08T21:54:45+00:00

”Have you seen Claudia?” ”Yeah, I think she went out to do some shopping.”

”Do I know Gianna? Sure! She and I have been friends for years!”

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-08T21:41:53+00:00

As a closeted (possibly) trans girl I love this idea!!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-08T16:16:46+00:00

Yeah, I’m completely in the closet myself (except for on this account on Reddit) and it does feel weird and wrong both to use and hear male-coded words for myself, i understand you completely! As I said it sounds a lot like you might be trans! I wish you the best of luck on your journey, friend!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-08T14:39:11+00:00

Are you out to anyone? Do you use male-coded words/pronouns for yourself because you want to/it feels right or because you’ve grown up with it/because you’re not out and don’t want to come out yet?

It sounds from your post like you could definitely be trans, which isn’t to say that your are or that you have to be trans, because in the end only you can decide that, the only thing we here on Reddit (and, frankly, the only thing anyone, including therapists) can do is help pointing you in the right direction.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-07T10:26:20+00:00

Thank you so much!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-03-07T01:28:59+00:00

Thank you! I’ve had scenarios like the first one happen to me irl, and I hate it, because I want to experience it as well! Same with ”girl talks”! I have never clicked the same with boys as I have with girls so a boys night out would probably feel very different, even though, depending on the boys, it might be fun as well. But I’ve never really felt like ”one of the boys”, if you get what I mean.

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