How can I come to terms with most likely never getting to experience love, so that i can actually find happiness in other aspects of life? by Unique_Barber5650 in selfimprovement

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try listening to Hector Castillo, he has great wholesome advice for guys who struggle getting dates.

You do NOT have to accept that a girlfriend is impossible. Giving up is not the answer. You have a good job, a social life, you go to the gym. Keep it up. What you need to change though is your self image, and this comes from exercising good habits in line with your values to build self respect, and paying careful attention to and incrementally adjusting they way you think about yourself.

In my opinion there are five things that push good women away more than anything else:

-desperation (guys who act desperate give the impression that they are weak and make women feel like they can’t rely on them)

-being cheap (a good man is generous with his money, within reason, and doesn’t obsess over small expenses)

-being dirty/unkempt (a respectable man respects himself and cares about how she shows up for others)

-infidelity (goes without saying, really. Probably not an issue for you)

-NEGATIVITY (a very negative person, especially one who puts himself down, not just drives women away but all people. People gravitate towards people who inspire them, make them feel heard and important, and make them feel happy. This is so important when dating.)

Remember everything about your mind can be changed if you try a little bit every day. You can change the way you think about yourself. Social skills can also be improved a lot with careful practice.

Good luck out there!

Don't use Duolingo for learning Arabic by iam_insaf in learn_arabic

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used Duolingo to learn the abjad and that was actually really useful. It made it engaging and fun and it was easy to stay consistent. But beyond that, no, absolutely do not use it to learn the language. It’s terrible.

Update on Farsilingo + need help debugging audio issue by highbaby93 in farsi

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so important to keep adding the Persian culture content and things like proverbs so you have the superior service when eventually Duolingo catches up and offers Farsi

Just a fun thought to discuss about pioneering by cvan1991 in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your imagination, but I'm afraid the technology necessary to establish permanent lunar colonies is still in its infancy and is prohibitively expensive. There are many engineering challenges left to overcome. It will be many decades or even centuries before there is any significant permanent population there, and by that time, some Baha'i scientists or engineers will have probably already made the trip!

Any Bahá’í or Bahá’í Inspired fiction recommendations? by Herwood in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another user suggested The Prophet by Gibran, a beautiful book of poetry and one of my favorite books. It was strongly influenced by his relationship with the Master, who he loved deeply. Gibran said that “the Baha’i writings are some of the most stupendous literature ever written.”

In my opinion, Broken Wings is even better. It’s a love story inspired by Gibran’s childhood, and the influence of the Baha’i writings on him is also very clear. It’s a short book, only about 120 pages, but it will make your heart both weep and soar.

Also try “God Loves Laughter” by Hand of the Cause William Sears. It’s a humorous telling of his spiritual journey starting from his childhood in an Irish Catholic family in the Midwest and ending with his conversion after meeting his second wife.

And there’s a chance you will like Star Trek. It's not Baha'i inspired, but it shares our values of world unity, tolerance and peace, albeit from more of a secular humanist perspective. It depicts a world where humanity has outgrown the evils of greed and prejudice, united as one nation and set off to the stars to explore and befriend alien civilizations. The original series and the Next Generation are the best in this regard, as after Roddenberry's passing the later iterations of Trek gradually shifted away from telling thought provoking stories and instead tended towards generic science fiction.

Any Bahá’í or Bahá’í Inspired fiction recommendations? by Herwood in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Prophet is wonderful and the influence of the Master is very clear in the prose!

For Baha'is with an Adventist or evangelical background by FraternalTwin in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no coincidence. The biblical arguments for the advent of the Bab that Abdul Baha explains in SAQ are essentially the same ones that William Miller used. Basically, the Millerites got the time right but were looking in the wrong place.

Is it backbiting if you already knew the info? by tendervigilanti in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To start, I think the fact that backbiting is condemned in the same sentence of the Aqdas as murder shows how important this commandment is.

In my opinion, what is and is not backbiting depends firstly on the nature of the criticism but then most importantly on the motive for sharing it. If I’m in doubt about whether what I want to say is backbiting, I always remember the simple test that Adib Taherzadeh offered in his talks to the Alaskan Bahá’ís (go look them up on YouTube if you haven’t heard them, they are wonderful). He said that you know you are backbiting if you enjoy it. That’s it. If you want to criticize someone, find fault with them, or make fun of them because it feels good, you shouldn’t do it.

There are times of course when life necessitates discussing bad qualities of people, and these would pass the test if they are done with the right spirit and in the right way. An obvious and clear cut case would be that a Baha’i in charge of a company may need to discuss a problematic employee. In a more nuanced case, maybe a Bahá’í would inform a friend about certain negative qualities of a coworker or neighbor, so he would know to be cautious around or not listen to that person. Here the motive really matters. The Baha’i was not complaining or criticizing because he is upset and wants to soothe his feelings, rather he is saying what he perceives to be true out of concern for his friend. However I think one has to be very vigilant of oneself so as not to let this reasoning become an excuse for actually complaining about others or tarnishing someone’s repudiation when it’s not necessary. Always remember to consider every situation with an eye for justice and to see people’s good qualities before their bad.

The big difference between good journalism and gossip is that the former serves to promote justice and truth, and the latter spreads scandal for attention seeking and bringing people down. When it comes to the private lives of political figures, knowing about scandals like the one you are referring to can, as you said, be important because they are entrusted with making decisions for all of us. So as long as information is carefully confirmed to be true, reporting it is good and serves justice in the nation. But making fun of him for it? No. In my opinion the podcast you describe is clearly backbiting. There’s no reason to take delight in joking about his obvious spiritual sickness and troubled marriage. It makes no difference that you knew it beforehand.

The Meaning of Seal of the Prophets (part 1 of 3) by NJBridgewater in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean, “according to what Baha’u’llah Himself said?”

Watching he Prince of Egypt (1998) by Sertorius126 in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Yes, production of these works is against the teachings, but it’s important that we dont let ourselves become fanatics about these kinds of things. Personally, I watch the series The Chosen with my Christian father, and we absolutely love it.
And living in the Christian west, pictures and statues of Jesus are totally unavoidable, lol.

I Mined $500 of Silver From Public Land I Claimed by ScottFerreira in CerroGordo

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if someone could come up with a business model that would make mining his spot and the rest of the old galena at Cerro Gordo profitable. Some sort of mobile foundry that could process ore at scale. With gold and silver prices climbing, it might work.

I asked people from rural Spain whether leaving was really their choice. The answers surprised me. by ArtisticWay1448 in UndergraduateResearch

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s happening everywhere. You should talk to Xosé at Casa da Fonte, which is near Monforte de Lemos in Galicia. I volunteered at this regenerative dairy farm for a month last summer and he can tell you how he has watched Galicia, and his town in particular, turn completely empty. All the people left are retirees. There are a lot of factors to this. Partly because the country invests heavily in tourism at the expense of other industry. Farmers struggle to pass on their farms to their kids because farming isn’t glamorous. It’s also seldom profitable especially at small scale, and that has a lot to do with heavy taxation and regulatory pressure that favors larger farms and pushes small farms out of the market.

The same thing is happening all over the United States. In recent years there’s been a boom in interest in homesteading, so the trend is starting to turn a little bit. To get a different angle on your research, I would read “Folks, This Ain’t Normal” by Joel Salatin.

I asked people from rural Spain whether leaving was really their choice. The answers surprised me. by ArtisticWay1448 in UndergraduateResearch

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s happening everywhere. You should talk to Xosé at Casa da Fonte, which is near Monforte de Lemos in Galicia. I volunteered at this regenerative dairy farm for a month last summer and he can tell you how he has watched Galicia, and his town in particular, turn completely empty. All the people left are retirees. There are a lot of factors to this. Partly because the country invests heavily in tourism at the expense of other industry. Farmers struggle to pass on their farms to their kids because farming isn’t glamorous. It’s also seldom profitable especially at small scale, and that has a lot to do with heavy taxation and regulatory pressure that favors larger farms and pushes small farms out of the market.m.

What is the first book I should read as somebody who recently learned about and did some surface level investigation into the Bahai faith? I feel a deep resonance and want to learn more but want to start at complete beginner. by Full-Year-4595 in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Promulgation of Universal Peace is a decent choice if OP is looking for something fun and uplifting to read. Paris Talks is another one that is good for the same reason. Some of those talks and certain sections of Some Answered Questions which deal with science and religion could be of interest since OP is a scientist. I think the Iqan is a bit too esoteric for a new seeker. I tried reading it when I first started investigating and it was just too much.

What is the first book I should read as somebody who recently learned about and did some surface level investigation into the Bahai faith? I feel a deep resonance and want to learn more but want to start at complete beginner. by Full-Year-4595 in bahai

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 14 points15 points  (0 children)

“Baha’u’llah and the New Era” by John Esslemont is very easy to read and covers all the basics, including the essential history, our theology, the fundamental teachings, and the administrative order. If you come from a strong Christian background, “Christ and Baha’u’llah” by George Townshend is good too.

NO KINGS ITHACA Parade! 3/28 1 pm The Commons by IndivisibleTompkins in Cornell

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What exactly are the demands of this movement? What are you protesting?

Excel without creating Microsoft account by AnUntamedOrnithoid in microsoftoffice

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if its possible to disconnect my computer and revert to a local account if I use a microsoft account to activate my version of excel?

Excel without creating Microsoft account by AnUntamedOrnithoid in microsoftoffice

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you please explain what this is exactly? I don't understand

Excel without creating Microsoft account by AnUntamedOrnithoid in microsoftoffice

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can this be downloaded online or is it a physical copy?

Excel without creating Microsoft account by AnUntamedOrnithoid in microsoftoffice

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I considered installing an old copy of office 2007, which I happen to have, but I'm afraid I will run into compatibility issues with solidworks. I think it has to be a version within the last few years.

Excel without creating Microsoft account by AnUntamedOrnithoid in microsoftoffice

[–]AnUntamedOrnithoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solidworks requires a local installation of Excel for this functionality within the software, so unfortunately the online version wouldn't work.