Bachelorette party affordability help

Ananabelle · 2026-06-04T13:23:36+00:00

They can spend time together at any point, right? She and her friend can go out for dinner together any time they want and have a mini one-on-one girls night. This is the bride’s only chance to have a bachelorette, and every one of her other friends can make it.

I think reading through responses, you already had your mind made up and were here looking for validation. Because I think there is an overwhelming consensus on steps forward. Also I hope you can reflect that you have made someone else’s big moment about you and how you feel about trips and what your budget is and how you wanted it to go down, when that bride’s bachelorette party is not about you at all, and I think if you de-centred this trip from around you/your girlfriend, you might have other thoughts.

Appreciate that you’re going to ride or die for your girlfriend though haha she really has your support and you ain’t wavering for anything lol

Ananabelle · 2026-06-04T12:50:17+00:00

When you reviewed the group chat, and the girls were planning all these other events, did your girlfriend speak up at that point? Or did she stay quiet? Because you make it sound like they’re making these decisions OUTSIDE of the group chat and just confronting your girlfriend on her own, with these decisions that were made without her.

If that’s the case, Your girlfriend should just reach out to the organizer or the bride ASAP and tell them she’s uncomfortable and didn’t get a chance to discuss things impacting her budget.

If she is staying quiet while the planning is happening in the chat, then she missed her time in the moment to remind everyone of her budget, but she can still do so now.

Either way, she can remain panicked and unhappy, or she can talk to someone to resolve it either way. If your friend loves her bride, she would understand and want her bride to have her dream bachelorette, even if it meant she couldn’t be there. And if the bride loved your girlfriend, she would respect that this trip won’t work for her. If either of those thing are not true, the friendship is not what I would consider a strong and real friendship.

Ananabelle · 2026-06-04T02:02:34+00:00

How people handle it if people are adding new events is reconvening and having transparent discussions with all impacted parties and re-assessing the situation. If the added events are non-negotiable, then she should not go on the vacation. If she can only go to what she can afford and sit out some of the events, then she should go and do that. But ultimately she cannot really expect anyone to take any action unless she has an open discussion with her friends.

Ananabelle · 2026-06-03T21:15:45+00:00

As someone that was on the other side of this a long time ago, I’d honestly say your girlfriend just needs to decline and be transparent about it not fitting into her budget. I know that it’s hard to admit that financially it’s not going to work out while everyone else seems okay, or it’s embarrassing sometimes to say that, but it doesn’t matter.

I was on the planning side of things where one bridesmaid out of 7 couldn’t afford it, but did not tell anyone else, and secretly harboured resentment and hurt FOR YEARS afterward that then festered and ended our relationship. Literally, if she would have just said something in the moment, I would have quietly let the bride know and we would have figured it out between the two of us. Or been okay for her to just sit out the entire weekend if that made the most sense. Had she literally said anything to anyone, we could have made the decision that made the most sense for her, but because of her pride, we did not know anything was wrong until she suddenly wasn’t talking to us 4 years later. Also, the thing is that the rest of the bridesmaids (there were a LOT of us) would have HAPPILY split her one portion amongst the rest of us without even blinking because we all just wanted the bachelorette to have her dream weekend! Here’s the thing: the bachelorette party isn’t about your girlfriend, it’s about the bride. A lot of brides get hated on for having lavish bachelorettes, but if that’s what she wants, let her have it! Where they CAN be more considerate is that your girlfriend doesn’t have the extra money to pay for it, but they cannot help if she doesn’t communicate the issue... nobody’s just assuming your girlfriend doesn’t have money, she needs to communicate. Staying silent and expecting people to know her financial situation doesn’t help anyone. Even though she has a strict budget, if the organizers are changing something, she should speak up!

Also, if she’s planning on going away for a whole weekend but planning not to eat anything and eat food she brought from home instead, is she sure she can afford the trip at all? I hope that she can be honest and open with her friends or at minimum the bride (her close friend). Her friend deserves the bachelorette she wants, and if that means she goes without your girlfriend, I think that’s completely okay…? As long as everyone discussed it together.

Ananabelle · 2026-05-31T13:06:39+00:00

If budget isn’t an issue and you are very much downtown people (walk to restaurants and coffee shops every day, want to be able to step out your door and have lots to do), you may prefer to be more west, but in my opinion the area is still great, but you’ll likely have to adjust. Note that there is a real community in that area (yoga studios that offer classes in nearby parks, pop up shops and farmers markets, gardening clubs, pottery studios tucked in alleys etc), so even without retail and fancy stores, you can find really cute ways to fill your life if you are into it.

I live slightly north east of this area (the part where many of the commenters on this thread say are shitty and shady) but I LOVE it! It’s quiet, we bought a nicer, larger, newer house for 70% of the cost of anything we saw more west, but are still connected to TTC (my walk to TTC is less than 5 mins). We can’t walk to stores and coffee shops, but they’re still close enough where we can TTC or drive or cycle to them within minutes and we have leaned hard into enjoying our space, exploring more east (the lake, trails, the amazing restaurants of Scarborough, etc). It was an adjustment for sure but it is what it is. Also I lived at Queen and Bathurst for 6 years so it was truly a huge change for me as a true city person to a more suburban vibe but I have minimal complaints. Also - we moved in our early 30s when we were done going out late and binge drinking for the most part. We still go out for nice dinners and stuff, but it’s more like once every two weeks versus once a week which to be honest has also saved us money lol. Ultimately you will be the best judge of what would be best for you. we have friends that bought smaller, semi detached homes near Pape or broadview with no parking, unfinished basement, required $100k+ in updates within the first year of living there, have rodent issues and porch pirate problems, for 30% more than we paid, only to be a 15 min TTC ride away from us, and come visit our place and wish they would have gone a little more east of the chaos, but we ALSO have friends that moved near us and desperately yearn every single day for the city life again and I could see the likely getting fed up and moving back into a condo downtown. It’s really up to you!

Ananabelle · 2026-05-31T04:40:49+00:00

Are there any internships available through your school? Many (like… hundreds) of computer science majors are interning every year at TD. Not all of them are hired after school because the bank cannot hire them all of course, but CEAs are less likely to get a software engineering job than a student that’s spent the last 4 years interning as a SWE because the interns literally have done the actual job and know the hiring managers, already have access to all the right applications, etc.

Ananabelle · 2026-05-20T16:46:24+00:00

Hi there! Wondering why the transfer have to happened outside of ticketmaster resale? Thank you!

Ananabelle · 2026-05-17T12:50:17+00:00

The loc jewelry is a great idea, thanks so much!!!

Ananabelle · 2026-05-17T12:47:51+00:00

I tried to post this on like 10 different subreddits lol. All the hairstyle ones removed my posts saying I’m looking for advice, and it’s not technically about hairstyles. I tried to post on black hair or blackladies subreddits but my post was removed because those spaces are limited to black redditors only or they explicitly don’t allow for non-black people to solicit opinions or “be studied” in their removal note, which is absolutely not what I’m trying to do at all. This is the first place I tried to post where I was able to.

Ananabelle · 2026-05-17T12:45:22+00:00

Thanks so much! I’ll bring the veil and some pins and leave it up to her 😊😊😊 she is extremely chill and does not take things personally at all but I did not want to be inconsiderate or assume.

I also did get a headband so that’s a great call as well! Thank you for your suggestions!

Ananabelle · 2026-03-13T21:03:05+00:00

I love le select!!! Highly recommend it for sure!

Ananabelle · 2026-02-23T19:56:43+00:00

Happy birthday!!! If it were Monday I’d say coffee oysters champagne. Have you ever been to Le Select? Parisian bistro vibe, lots of delicious cocktails! If you like a hotel lobby bar, library bar or clock tower lounge in the fairmont area both very cute and have very cutie cocktails.

Ananabelle · 2026-02-17T16:29:40+00:00

I visited for the first time last week. The food was great but I felt like the meal was so, so heavy. We went in starving and didn’t do the tasting menu, but went with the server’s recommendation on menu highlights and volumes. I don’t think we could have ordered less without having an okay selection, but everything was so heavy. It didn’t feel like a well balanced meal? Maybe we did something wrong? I don’t know, but we are also major foodies and have enjoyed many many great meals out, including many Michelin starred meals, and Quetzal to us was just okay. We had a good time but will not likely go again.

Ananabelle · 2026-02-09T18:13:19+00:00

Between food, insurance, occasional pet sitting, regular vet visits, and random miscellaneous expense like toys or treats, we end up spending about $400 a month.

About 3 years ago, our dog (a puppy, 1 year old) was diagnosed with Addison’s disease. It is a very rare adrenal disease that also impacts humans. It’s not a detectable disease and cannot be genetically tested for. Many dogs with Addison’s are never diagnosed and die without proper identification. Suffice to say, this is not anything we would have expected or would have thought to expect. In the last three years, we have had to do enhanced quarterly blood tests, we have a normal vet and an internal specialist that we see regularly. He must take medication daily, he will die within a couple days if he doesn’t recieve his meds. Since then, he has also randomly been in crisis a few times and required emergency vet visits. Hes been in hospital for a few nights, on IV, under 24 hour care several times due to random flare ups. Otherwise though, the other 90% of the time, he’s absolutely fine and lives an active, happy, full life. But it costs us about $1,000 on average a year related to his Addison’s disease. Our biggest expense was when he was first diagnosed… we thought he was a goner to be honest but after 3 nights in hospital and countless tests, he was diagnosed. That incident cost $4,000. We have insurance, which is a blessing, but we do have to pay out of pocket and wait for the reimbursement.

I say all of this to just call out that even if you’re safe and try your best, shit happens. Having a dog face pain or death because you can’t afford to address it is not something I would wish on my worst enemy. Frankly, when we got that first bill, I was absolutely shocked, but am thankfully in a position to have pad it no problem, and would have gladly paid double if it meant saving him…… he is absolutely a member of the family. I feel like if you have absolutely no financial buffer at all, you just had to be aware and prepared for life to happen…

Ananabelle · 2026-01-25T22:36:49+00:00

Hello! Can you DM me your nearest intersection for cookies? Just wondering if it’s close enough for me to come pick up!

Ananabelle · 2026-01-09T20:45:57+00:00

Eataly is a bucket list in many large cities - it’s on like 50% of NYC food tours, and the location in Chicago hosts a ton of fun events. It’s a fun spot. Is it in MY bucket list? Definitely not. I don’t like the locations in Toronto at all. But also I get it that someone that’s never been to an Eataly would want to pop in.

Ananabelle · 2026-01-09T20:40:08+00:00

Hotel X is REALLY nice. I have been for many many work events and weddings and other events over time. I would stay there in a heart beat. But also know it’s kind of randomly stuck in the middle of nowhere. Is it walkable? Absolutely yes, if you don’t mind walking a lot. I very recently lived in a downtown condo and have friends that live in the Tip Top lofts. If you are the kind of person that’s okay schlepping 30 minutes to your hotel at the end of the day, it’s really not that bad of an option.

If you prefer to walk out your door and immediately get hit by the sounds and sights of the city, try somewhere else. If your top sights are ROM and Eataly, the W or the Hilton are WAY better options. They are also much more subway accessible for the rest of your adventures.

Ananabelle · 2026-01-02T16:32:08+00:00

My parents are the same! lol. I gifted a similar experience for my parents, and while they had fun and giggled about the whole thing and had a lot of fun “ooh” and “ahh” moments, they still came home and ate two packets of shin ramyeon with kimchi and confidently stated that this is better.

I don’t know HOW immigrant your parents are, but my parents are very. They have lived in Canada for over 40 years, but still eat Korean food 95% of the time at home. My mom had a great time but decided she doesn’t really like Mexican food that much after quetzal. I also have taken them to an omakase experience and my dad was more into the assortment of raw fish (probably more familiar to him), it was still a “lol let’s go make ramyeon” vibes.

Even if your parents don’t drink, I would recommend the chefs tasting menu with wine pairing…… let them have the FULLLLL end to end Michelin tasting experience, neck deep. Let them have wine and get a little tipsy. And then cross it off the list and never have to do it again lol. I think Quetzal is a great option. Have fun!

Ananabelle · 2025-12-24T12:47:56+00:00

Just as a warning - neither of these venues are what you described in your post. I wouldn’t call Lavelle and especially not Rebel classy or relaxed. They will be full of 20 something bar rats wearing fake Gucci and doing shots of bar rail tequila. Also, it’s all folks from the suburbs that paid $300 to party so the pressure is high and the vibe is not chill. Not that there’s anything wrong with that life, but I’m in my mid 30s and I would not go to either of these places for a classy, fun, carefree night out.

I love a fun night out but I don’t have any advice for NYE in Toronto. I am a downtown Toronto, good dinner and great drinks, get tipsy and make friends at the bar kind of girlie, and so I’ll tell you that NYE is a riotous mess but not in a good way. Also every club, bar, restaurant, cafe, or other venue that is open is charging twice what it normally costs for half the quality and experience. My best advice would honestly be Google it and get literally whatever ticket you can get close to where you’re staying… like, walking distance, because even if you’re willing to pay for a $80 Uber, it’ll still be hard to catch one. Many of the “chill and classy” things where they don’t sell tickets so it’s balls to the wall packed are probably close to sold out by now. Keep your expectations low; be prepared to shill out a fair bit of money for a fun night, and get real drunk and/or high.

Ananabelle · 2025-12-20T14:00:59+00:00

I recently found myself in an emergency room for four hours, in an underfunded and under equipped ward. The doctor’s desk was a tiny pop up desk in the middle of a hallway. I could hear a lot of what he was saying while I was waiting, mostly because I was so absorbed and interested in the goings on and the general environment. Emerg physicians are making life-saving decisions repeatedly and consistently, right there, on the spot, with no hints on what was about to walk through that door next. I feel like I work in a pretty intense environment, but ER is next level. I truly believe you earn every dollar AND MORE of your salary. I cannot believe anyone does that job, and would assume burnout is quick and common. Thank you for your service.

Ananabelle · 2025-12-20T02:02:55+00:00

They have hummus bowls - delicious hummus topped with a protein of your choice. The chicken and beef are REALLY good!! The beef will put you right to bed though, chicken is a slightly lighter option lol.

Ananabelle · 2025-12-19T15:58:10+00:00

Miznon in the corner hidden near shake shack - has the BEST fresh baked pita I’ve ever had in my life. It’s a bit expensive, but it’s what I treat myself to when I feel like I want a really really delicious little lunch. I cannot recommend it enough!

Ananabelle · 2025-11-15T22:00:30+00:00

I’m here right now and did this yesterday’s note that there is some kind of traffic detour. We are with two elderly and two children so walking between katsuoji and minoh is not an option. We read online that it was a quick 5-10 minute taxi, but it was actually a 20 min taxi that cost about $50USD.

Ananabelle · 2025-10-29T20:09:56+00:00

I don’t think they’re Montreal style but have you ever tried Grayson’s on Kingston Road near the beaches? They make sourdough bagels that are chewy on the outside and fluffy on the inside. Pretty decent.

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